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Not much to say about me...But here is a site for those of you that need some advice :) It is anonymous so don't be shy, if you have a problem, tell me about it! If you want to know more about me or who i am, check my xanga site!

My friend is rather cool fyi, heck, but he's definitely not as cool as me.

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i have been with this guy for almost 8 months and he still doesnt trust me. i am going to collge next year and everytime we talk about it we get into fights. he thinks that im going to cheat on him or we will never see each other. but there is also this guy who has been my friend forever and i have alwayz watned to be with him.. now i have a chance to be.i really love him and he really loves me we have alwayz just had bad timing with each other. should i break upwith my bf and be with the other guy or what. my bf andi fight constantly and i dont ever do anything cuz he gets mad. he doesnt ever want my friends around and when they are the talks crap where they can hear

plz help
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You should definetly go for your friend. Lets make a list of your bf...1. he doesnt trust you 2. he hates your friends and 3. he always agrees to disagree. If i were you i would dump him in a second! And if you love your friend and he loves you then go for it ;) Hope I helped! :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Hello ... where can I get the breast cancer bracelet from? Thanks

Im pretty sure from any grocery store like tom thumb (if you have one) or something like that. :)

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theres this guy i like, his name is collin. hes really good friends with my friend jessica. i think collin likes me but thinks he doesnt have a chance with me. i've asked him to come to dances and stuff with us but he always doesnt come. i know he likes me alot and i like him but he just doesnt know i like him. i guess what im asking is how do i get him to notice i like him without seeming too obvious?? thanx alot

Hun, if you know he likes you than make it easy for him. TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM GIRLY! Or ask him out, or flirt a lot. Be touchy feely. Hope i helped. :)

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I have a new neighbor and shes reall cool, i wanted so things to bring up to talk about wit her? i just dont want any acward silences. Also do you no anything to do when we chill at my house?

Ask her where she moved from (even if you know the answer) ask her if it was a hard move for her, ask what it was like where she used to live etc etc etc. Just talk about her life in the old town she used to live in. As far as hanging out at your house...hm...ive always been a sucker for video games and cool music, and im a girl. But before resorting to that ask herwhat she likes to do and use that to decide. Or if worst comes to worst take a walk around your neighborhood or something while talking. Show her around a bit. Good luck and i hope i helped! :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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okay this is actually a very long thing but ill make it as short as i can:
Theres this guy and we were like BEST FRIENDS last year and we were always flirting and everyone knew we liked eachother.. and then over the summer we told eachother that we really do like eachother.. and then the next school year rolls around and were still friends but like the whole school knows hes trying to ask me out, so things are a little harder and more akward but we try hard but then things start to get so annoying cuz people wont stop bugging us and like mostly him cuz he is just like retarded and too afraid to ask me out so we like take long walks talking about it and he says he wants to ask me and not me to ask him and that he still likes me and everyhting but he still doesnt do it.. it gets really old and i let him know that but things kind of continute the same then things start to slow down a little cuz we both have kind of lost energy trying to find time for eachother cuz were not in any classes together and not from the same town. So then all of a sudden he says he doesnt like me anymore.. after liking me for sooo long, and then a few days later he says he does and tehn the next week he doesnt, so RIGHT NOW hes saying he doenst but omg he acts like he likes me like even more now and he like i dont even know but now im hanging out with a lot of guys more than usual and he gets all like jealous kind of and i don know what to do, cuz we will prolly never end up going out cuz hes stupid but i still like him, but i hate him for what hes done to me and how he wasted my time!! ahh i need help! please do your best, i knwo this is kind of too retarded of a situation but i tried


Its not a retarded situation, lol. Dont worry, stuff like that happens a lot. I can tell that you two have a great bodn if you are able to talk to eachother about anything and not have to worry about it. So take another one of those long walks with him and sort it out. Figure out what is going on through his retarded mind and if you can tell he likes you then YOU should ask HIM out. Because even if he said he doesnt want you too, i can tell he cant make a decission on his own :P lol. But if that doesnt work then try getting to know those other guys better. And if your friend gets jealous again then its not your fault, because you discussed it with him. Good luck and i hope i helped! :)

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What are somethings you can add to coffee to make it taste better. I hate coffee with nothing in it, and I need ideas on what to add.

**I Rate High**

Hm...creamer or sugar. They have great flavored creamers like vanilla and stuff like that.

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Ok… I really really like this guy. (I am not an admirer from affair) We chat in class before it starts and whenever i get the feeling that he likes me or I see him look over at me I get this weird tight feeling inside and my hole body just shuts down. I can no longer talk to him or look at him. But when he is not giving me those signs I am fine. What should I do… do I really like him… Also is it normal to be afraid of getting in to a relationship with the responsibility of holding hands and possibly kissing… please help me!

aw! Well, first off, he likes you. And even if you want to or not it seems that you like him too! It also seems that you have never been in a relationship before. And really its ok. The guy normally takes care of being assertive when it comes to holding hands and kissing. So just go along with it. If he truly likes you then he will be the one who always comes over to talk to you before you talk to him. So no worries, just play along with him, good luck! Hope i helped :)
~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Ok... one of my best friends just left from SC and moved to FL. I miss hime soo much. His parents kicked him out of the house and I loved him but while he was here I was afraid to tell him and now that he is gone I wish I had. He always said he had something for me but everytime we wanted to do something I had a boyfriend. Should I call him and tell him how I feel?

yes, it is never to late to correct you mistakes (unless its a test...lol) So give him a call and tell him how you feel right then and there, or plan something special for the next time he visits and tell him then. Hope i helped :)
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i love my boyfriend VERY much, but hes always So down on himself. he calls himself stupid, ugly, and says he doesnt deserve me ALL THE TIME. when i talk to him about it, he says his mom is always putting him down and he feels like hes nothing and he has no future and he feels like hes just going to bring me down if i stay with him. i want to be with him forever.... but its hard to deal with him always putting himself down. he tries not to but sometimes it slips. i really wish i could make him love himself. What can i do? Im almost 16, female....

Well, i dont doubt the fact that he is a great guy, but tell him the specific things that are great about him. Like when he smiles it alwasy amkes you feel like everything is ok. Or how awesome he is whenever he is playing basketball (those just examples, i have no idea if he has a great smile or if he even plays bball, but you get my point) I hope i helped somewhat :)
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mmkay im curious. i'm a 17 year old guy, and i know lots of girls think all guys are shallow..and only like really hot girls. well, when asked the question on who'd i choose, out of 'a gorgeous girl, thats really ditzy/dumb', or 'an okay girl, thats very intelligent' i picked option b. but to be honest, option a isnt that bad. most 'ditzy/dumb' girls are so much fun to be around, bcuz you never know what theyre gonna do next. theyre freakin so funny. my best friends sister is a complete ditz, lmao, but shes is like the coolest person to hang out with.

so i'm just wondering..what would some of you pick?

option a: gorgeous girl, no brains
option b: okay girl, intelligent

Well, i cant really answer that, because i am a girl. But you should go with option b, because you will want someone to be smart that you can actually have a conversation with. Sure ditzy girls are funny as crap, but when it comes to relationships its not so great. Hope i helped :)
~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Ok, i'm a huge flirt. even tho i've never had a bf. But i tend to flirt with guys that my friends like. And sumtimes they start to like me. (omg that sounded so cocky) Anyways... This happens a lot. And i'm sick of my friends calling me a man stealer, and i'm not! I want to stay loyal to my friends, but i can't help flirting. And i want guys to like me. What should i do?

Well, try to stay away from the guys your friends like, meet some guys that your friends dont know so then you can hang out with them and not feel guilty. Hope i helped :)
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mi bf dosnt live in the same state as me but the thing is i know him so its not some guy that i met on the internet he use to live here and he went out with one of my friends but now that he lives in a diff state i keep thinking hes cheating on me. there is this other guy that lives here and we like each other and today i got really stressed and he told me i was cute because i didnt know how to do something and he started to blush i talk to him on the phone all the time but i dont talk to my bf on the phone i dont know if i should break up with my bf or not and go out with the one guy thats close by?

shood i

im realli confused

If i were you i would go with the guy close by. Because you dont even talk to your bf. so there is no point to it, no offense. i think it would be more fun to to have a bf close by, someone to cuddle with :) Hope I helped!
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Last night,I was at a hockey game with my dad and my girl (ex girlfriend now) called me and started cursing me out. She said somebody called her house and cursed her mom out,and her mom said it sounded like me,when it wasn't me who really did it. So she broke up with me and Heidi (my ex) is punished for a very long time. Her mom took away her cell phone,and a bunch of other crap,and Heidi simply refuses to speak a word to me. I don't know what to do. Should I:

1) Give her a couple of days and hope she'll listen to me when I try to explain to her it wasn't me that called her house (I have my dad as proof.)
OR
2) Just move on with my life

This girl means everything to me,and I would do anything to get her back,no matter what extremes I would have to take. I love this girl with all my heart and I really want her back. Please help me out. Thanks

aw...go with 1. If you love her then talk to her. If you didnt do it then she should understand, and im sure she will regret breaking up with you and will realize what she lost. so give it a few days then talk it out. Hope i helped :)
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hey.. my parents r super protective like they wont let me "date" 1 on 1 till im 16 and they have to meet him and all that crap..althou im dating now and its really hard to go out w. him kas i need to have my friends go w. me so my parents dont explode.. what can i do so i can go out w. him but not get in trouble.?

Omg, my parents are the exact same way with me! heres what you can do...my friends and i plotted this out...If you want to go on a date say you are going with your friends and meet your friends there or ride with them, then split off from them and meet up with your man;) Like the movies, go see a different movie that ends the same time as your friends. Hope i helped!
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how do i lose weight if i always say im going to go on a diet but i never do because when i try to go on a diet somehow so many yummy junk foods come around.. i wanna not eat at all so i can be as skinny as mary kate olsen but i dont know how!? heelpp!!

Woa hun dont be anorexic! NEVER just stop eating. There are so many ways to lose weight and still be able to eat. Thats what im doing. I have been doing all kinda of crunches and i started a dance class, but i am continuing to eat the same way i always do, but i lost 10 pounds anyways. Good luck and please dont become anorexic!
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theres a girl that im really close to..she used to like me a lot and i love her and we were like /-/ this close to going out, but she stopped liking me..she said she couldnt picture me as her boyfriend (personality wise not looks) and i just dont understand how after we had done so much and gone through a lot together..she cant picture me as her boyfriend and everything..i have told her how i feel, i have made a move, she has been to my house many times, we have gone out on "dates" sorta...and i love her, i just want her to like me again, please tell me how to get her to like me again...oh and she likes a sophomore at my school now and people have told me that she might still like me and shes just confused but i dont think she does...i really want her back, i need her :( if you give me a helping answer then ill rate you a 5 DO NOT TELL ME TO GET OVER HER!!! i have tried and it isnt happening!

aw...thats so sad:( I know EXACTLY what you mean. Same thing happened to me but the guy didnt tell me why he stopped liking me he just crushed my heart. anyways...Just keep in touch with her. Try to remain friends. If you don't then you will never have a chance with her. But if you become as good as friends then maybe it will revive your relationship again. i hope i helped...this is a tough situation, but you will get through it:) Good luck!
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alright im not asking a question but i wanted to correct you on something that i feel you gave the wrong advice too.when a girl asked why do the "popular cheerleaders" get all of the attention & you answered this :


I know EXACTLY what you mean. This is because the popular girls are sluts. They put themselves out there like they are the next Carmon Electra. So the guys think that that is "hott" because the popular girls are easy. Dont worry, and please dont turn into one of them. It is good that you have your dignity and trust me, there will be a guy that will come along and will notice you, i sure found one :-) Hope i helped, and good luck!!!
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your wrong..cause i happen to be one. Its not because were sluts or wear alot of makeup & good clothes. YES its the way we put ourselves out there. We have good personality and were not shy. We flirt with guys but that doesnt mean were all over them and do shit with them in our free time. Just be careful what you say if you dont know all the truth, people like you are the reasons why people get labels like preppy cheerleaders and such..

Im sorry if i offended you in any way, but thats how the girls at my school act. Maybe thats not how you act but at my school it is, so im sorry for giving off the wrong impression.

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hey okay so i have a question. okay so i met this guy a couple of weeks ago. i was a bit drunk, he was a little drunk, and we ended up hooking up- only made out. i said to him at the time, okay so is this going to be a random hook up or are you actually going to call me and he said no im going to call you i really am. so skip some a week later he calls me and says he do you want to hang out. of course i did but i couldnt. so yah. so we have been talking and stuff but im worried he is just looking for a hook up.. and that isnt wat im looking for. we are hanging out next weekend and just watching scary movies and stuff- should i just wait till then to figure it out...? he is just so hard to read i cant tell!

Hm...well wait until the date. And if he tries anything right away then he just is looking for a hook up. But if he just cuddles with you and stuff then he is looking for a relationship or someone to really hang out with. Be careful, and i hope i helped :-)
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I pull out pieces of my hair when i get stressed out angry or bored...i dont know why i do this i guess because i need some way to show my feelings...and i couldn't ever cut myself... i dont know what to do or why i do this... can someone help me!?

Try carrying around one of those stress balls, they work wonders. And they are fun to play with during class when you are bored, lol. Hope i helped :-)
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i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me?

I know EXACTLY what you mean. This is because the popular girls are sluts. They put themselves out there like they are the next Carmon Electra. So the guys think that that is "hott" because the popular girls are easy. Dont worry, and please dont turn into one of them. It is good that you have your dignity and trust me, there will be a guy that will come along and will notice you, i sure found one :-) Hope i helped, and good luck!!!
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