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This is a site for people who want to ask real questions right? Or, is this a sight where people make jokes and write meaningless things? I'm confused!

This is a place for people to help other people out, except, some people that give 'advice' don't know HOW or WHAt the quesrion/topic is about, so they just write 'suddup byth!' It's sad, yes, but eh.

Did that answer your question? Hope so. :)

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i really really want to be popular in school!! i want more than anything to be in the popular group and everytime i try i get even nerdier!! what can i do??? PLEASE HELP!!!


WANNA BE

Accept who you are. I dislike wannabes...especially when they don't know what they are getting into. It makes me sad.

If you have absolutly no friends, well, read articals about what's 'in' and select your own style. At least you'll learn a thing or two.

I'm sorry, but that is all i can think of.

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i am 13 and i have a boyfriend but i use to be bestfriends with this guy who was 17 well he had and still has a girlfriend well we statred haging out more and sum things started happening between us he wasn allowed to see his girlfriend but he couls see me and wen would go 2 the movies are just go ridin around and he told me he luved me but its been 4 months and his girlfriend found out about us messing around well me and him had a fight and it was 4 months age and he still want talk 2 me he tells everybody he hates me but i have a boyfriend but im still in luv with him wut should i do??

Firstly, the age difference isn't huge, but since your just beginning teenhood, you really shouldn't waste your energy on this guy. It also doesn't sound as if he is much of a man anyway, so just forget about him.

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well,my boyfriend is not a virgin and I am. He is kinda pressuring me into having sex. I don't want to. What should I do??

Tell him that your not ready yet, period. If he doesn't understand, bleh to him! It's YOUR life and he can't control it.

:)

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i am hearing things that my boyfriend is cheating on me and when i ask him he said no. what should i do? please help!!!!!!!!!

The honestly, he probably is and you should dump him. Why in the world would he tell you if he is or not? Lol...you can always ask a friend of yours whom you trust to keep an eye on him.

Your too young anyway.

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hey,for april fools these guys in my grade got a really popular guy to ask a girl that is really nerdy out! and she was so excited and said yes right away and sfter she said yes he told it was an april fools joke. everyone in my grade thatought it was really funny and everybody still laughs at her!!! i feel sorry for her and i want to stick up for her but i dont want to lose my reputation!!! what should i do???

CONFUSED

You may feel that your the only one that wants to stick up for her but there may be other people that may think and feel the same way.

Besides, it's a very old 'joke' so they should shut up anyway. If people do stop talking to you or whatever it is you fear, it shows who are your true friends are.

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I recently wrote a guy, who I'll call "Bryan", a note, which said that I liked him as more than just a friend. After four days of waiting for a response, my friend brought it up when they were talking. He said that he likes me as "just a friend, if not less than that." Bryan also told my friend that he likes some girl named "Sandy". It sucks, because I feel like he led me on. He'd always smile at me, blush when I came up in a conversation, etc. He even said that I was cute. What irritates me the most, is that it took Bryan four days to tell me how he feels about me, when he could've just straight-up told me how he felt. I've been trying to get over him, but he just keeps trying to make me feel worse about being rejected. He's friends with my friend, and ever since I was rejected, he's been hanging out with her a lot more. He sat down at my lunch table on Friday, and had a huge conversation with her, about the girl he likes. I had to walk away, and almost started crying. It hurt so much, and it still does. He's being a huge jerk, and I don't know how to get over him. HELP.

Maybe he was shy at first, and probably still is, so he's trying to "show" you that he doesn't like you because for some reason, he may think that you are not getting the idea.

Try to tell him not to push it.

It's not going to be easy to stop loving him, so don't take it hard, k?

:)

Someday, it'll all be normal again.

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im 14, so obviously im growin up, but my dad cant seem 2 accept dat i am! he says he doesnt want boys near me, n that im still a little girl. i know he just does it coz he luvs me, but i dont want him to treat me like a kid all my life!

I'm 13, so I guess I know what your going through...well..not really. It depends how you act and how mature you are.

If you *do* think you are growing up and stuff, tell your father how and ask for a bit more freedom.

If he says no, then ask him why. I'm sure he has reasons and is only protecting you because you ARE young.

My 25 cents. :)

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ive been married to my husband for three years together 4 yrs.when we got together i told him i was a virgin and he told me he had slept with around 25 girls which was fine and didnt bother me.after i had my son call it hormones i accused my husband of cheating one night after a row he admitted yes he had cheated at the start of the relationship because i never gave him sex ive never trusted him since.
then about 2 mths ago when he was drunk he told me he had lied he hadnt cheated on me he had said it out of anger and that he too was a virgin when we met but was too embarassed to tell thetruth him being older.
now hes away to canada with the army for 8 wks and ive only had one call he swears he loves and misses me but i dont know whether to believe the virgin story again 7 mths pregnant im a bit anxious of what he could be getting up to help.
im a 25 year old emale

You can never know with a guy like that.

Tell them he should tell you the truth because that's all you really need to know. Saying things like 'Yeah, I did cheat on you' isn't a game. You'll love him no matter what, like when you accepted that he 'had sex with 25 different women' before he met you.

You loved him, you can love him now, but if he does or/and did cheat on you, then there is only one way and that is to leave him. He did it once, he can do it again.

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Who else thinks DOCTORS WHO HELP SAVE PEOPLE'S LIVES should be paid more then people on t.v. who only try to look pretty...
GEEZE that's ridiculous if you think about it. Just because everybody knows your name doens't mean you should get millions of dollars for it. DOCTORS are MUCH MORE USEFUL then some stupid snotty celebrities out there...GEEZE!
I can't stand that...
I know not all of you agree...but is there any of you who do??
Please tell me!

A little. I mean, a lot of teachers were geting the pink slip last year AND I heard they don't get paid enough.

Actors DO have to learn HOW to act through. And some do help by donating and stuff. You just didn't think about that.

I think SOME actors or other famous people should get paid less depending if they are good at their job or not, and what they do for the people, etc.

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Some people think teens are depressing
But im not im just expressing
My thought and feelings
Bout people and all the killings
But what about all the news
About drunks filled with booze
So if a lil poem is bad
then what about the sad
Look at this pity war
Is it me or is this for
someone to be put in history
For what
......a mystery?

Oh, I love poerty.com! But don't mind what Chandler said...just take as you need to improve more in writing poems...because I didn't like the choice of words either, but I did love the thought into it. :) Try again or edit.

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I want a career in fashion but i dont know how to go about it. please help if you know anything xxx thanx xxx

I'm guessing that you want to make new fasion...as in cloths. I would actually stuy about it...but then again I have my own thing going on...if I were you, I'd study for it first.

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Hello peoples,
well i was just wondering what happens when a guy goes through puberty, like i know about girls (duh cause i'm a girl) like they bleed but what happens to a guy? Do they have to wear anything? Like I know girls have to wears pads and tampons, do boys have to wear anything!!! Please please please please tell me!!!thanks

Don't be certain, Chandler! :-|

Guys just have wet dreams, hair grows (here and there, and everywhere) and their penis grows.

It IS unfair.

And like Chandler said, it's better to talk to your parents. Or some teacher you trust.

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HAPPY EASTER ADVICENATORS!

adivice~gurl

Ooooh! Thank you and you too! :)

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My boyfriend and i have started having sex we
were both virgins before that the first time
when he put his penis in it really hurt and also the second time and im not sure what to do
he has a big penis im wondering if i am to small
and does it hurt all the time?

It hurts the first time you have sex. It should go away after a while. It also could be that his penis is too big, but I don't think that mightbe the problem. If this continues, it might be that. Unless it continues on even with another person, then maybe you should see a doctor.

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Me (Michael) and my girlfriend(Danielle) recently broke up. Before I get into it let me give you some history. I have been dating my girlfriend since she was 13 and I have been her only real love and her first everything since then. I am two years older then her and her father is very strict and didn't allow us to go out back then. When we broke up it was because of him and I sent him an email stating why I was good for her and it created more of a problem and the guy hates me so when we got back together a year later...he still didnt know about us. Now she is 16 and we been going out since December. Its been 2 weeks since we broke up. I broke up with her because of a little fight we were in but I had done that before and she always came back...this time she said I broke up with her one too many times and shes been trying to prove that point for the last two weeks. In December I left my girlfriend (Meghan) of one year for her and it was hard to do because Danielle has hurt me so many times before because of our situation with her dad. That really hasn't been too bad now that shes older because shes gonna do what she wants because shes gotta be her own person. She originally said she cant come back because she told me she wouldnt keep running back and then I went out and made things worse because I told her how i would tell her dad about us and I scared her. I really went nuts because I feel that i gave up so much for her ..its not fair that she wont forgive me over something I didnt really want to do. Then she asked for space and time to figure out her life and who she is...I gave her 3 days but it felt like 30 and I eventually called her to inform her one of our friends died and after hearing her voice I couldnt stay away anymore. I only broke up with her this last time over something stupid and I did it out of anger because I was afraid my mom had cancer which she didnt. I told Danielle that and she didn't understand...she said it was no excuse. I saw Danielle with her friends last night and I got mad and she happened to see me and accused me of spying on her but I was just driving by. Shes scared of me...she said shes afraid im going to get her in trouble. Although my actions are often inmature its only because I love her and I would never be able to hurt her like that. We are both very young and I wouldnt be wasting my time about this if it was another girl but its just that me and her have such a large and great history. We always made it back to eachother and even if we break up now...i still think we will get back together one day again. Our current status is..we are going to hang out the first chance we get which could be a while because we are both going to be busy. She said if she feels its right when we hang out and she feels safe and like she felt before we broke up she will go out with me again but if not I have to give her space. I don't know how I could make her feel that way. I already love her with all my heart and I changed for her. I want to do nice things for her when we hang out like buy her flowers but even so...I cant make her feel a certain way...only her heart can do so. I don't wanna lose her..the thought of her with another guy and the thought of her not giving me 1 more chance after I gave up so much for her makes me very angry and it really makes me wanna cause her pain like shes causing me. Since we broke up I have messed up in school and I havent wanted to do anything. Ive spent time with other girls just to get my mind off of her but I dont want them because I found everything I want in her. Sometimes when girls say they need space they come to find out what they are missing and they really dont need space at all..then they reach for the phone and come back..Danielle aint the type to call..she will feel stupid. Thats why I want everything to work out when we next hang out..i want her to come back and I realize only she has the power to do that..i cant make her feel like she did 2 weeks ago. Im in a really tough spot and I don't know what to do. I can't imagine my life without her again. It was so hard being apart from her for that one year. I know this is long and very complicated but your view on our relationship would be greatly appreciated as well as on any tips or advice you could give me on getting her back. Thank you.

Really, I think you should just let her go, even if you 'love' her the way you said you did. I don't think she wants to go back unless she wants to continue the craziness...and I think she doesn't. She has been hurt enough, and it would be stupid to go back with you and get hurt even more.

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i have a bf who is cheating on me and wat shold i do

You should dump him since he dones't have any feelings for you, no matter what he says.

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i wanna get a boyfriend. but one that actually likes me 4 me! i havent had a boyfriend since i dumped my ex. i want him bak but he doesnt like me.... wut do i do??????




But why do you want a boyfriend? I think being single rocks ;). Enjoy being single while you can...when the right guy comes, hurrah!

I think you just want your ex back so you could have a boyfriend, and that is just not cool.

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I just started dating this guy and he is really sweet in all but he never talks to me in school or on the phone.And I justed found out that he was just using me to get his ex-girl friend out and I just dumped him.Was that a good choice?because now all my friends have boyfriends and I dont, and all the guys are like takin'.What do I do? and did I make a good choice?

-cheated and used

You made the right choice. It doesn't matter what the other people think or are doing. It's better being unique sometimes, :). The dude shouldn't have done that in the first place, I applaud you.

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My little sister drives me insane. and she hurts me and I tell my parents and they say she doesnt know ANY better.WITCH SHE DOES she. or they say and your talking.


your truely,
I wish I was an ONLY CHILD

P.S PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!

I'm an only child, and to tell you the truth, I don't feel lonely...

How old is your sister? If she is two...she probably doesn't have control over herself yet...or is very hyper. But she should know what is wrong or right BY five years and up.

And when you tell your parents, tell her WHY she knows better. Maybe they'll do something about it then. Be a roll model.

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