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Q: 25, f. It's getting to be cold over here. I'm stubborn, and running is my cure-all, and I usually run 2-4 miles at a time. I'm going to be running this winter.
The asthma calms down after a few cold jogs, but what drives me crazy is the way my nose runs like a faucet. THEN I have trouble breathing.
Is there any way that anyone knows to make it stop, or at least more manageable?
You obviously already know that the cold air is the reason your nose is runny. Cold air doesn't retain much moisture so when you breathe in the air to your lungs, your nose is trying to create moisture in the air you breathe as it's going to your lungs. Also, the air you breathe out from your mouth condenses as you breathe out (that's why you see your breath in cold weather) and those water droplets of your breath condense on your nose causing your nose to have all this moisture!

Unfortunately, there's no way to make it completely stop since it's your body's way of keeping you healthy. If you try to keep your nose/mouth warm as you run, that may help! But again, your body is trying to keep you healthy.

Q: ♭♪♭♪hi guys!♭♪♭♪ i've been playing keyboard for a year or so and now i'm reafy to move on from twinkle,twinkle (lol) i need fun songs, i play skyfall,clocks-coldplay,skyscraper-Demi Lovato and simple songs like that but does anyone have some easy tutorials or sites with music for beginers?? (I like to sing aswell) ♪♪thaanks!♭♭
My favorite site to get sheet music is www.pianofiles.com. What this site allows you to do is trade sheet music with others around the world! Some people are nice enough to send you sheets even if you don't have anything to trade. There's a range of beginner's music to original scores, anything you can think of!

Anytime I'm looking for a song, I just go here! Another option would be to just google "free sheet music +[song name you want too learn]". Have fun!

Q: Has anyone ever tried MAC [liquid] foundation? If so, does it work pretty good & is it worth buying? And what kind?
I'm a big fan of liquid foundation because I feel it has a fuller coverage than powder foundation. I personally like all the sheer coverage ones. It's not too heavy and it still feels & looks natural!

Keep in mind - it also depends on what kind of skin you have and what you prefer! Go to Macy's or Sephora and try it out! I love Sephora because you can tell the people there what you want and they can help customize a whole line especially for you and your skin!

Q: The place I work for is closing down and I'm going to be laid off in a few weeks. I am searching for a new job opportunity and have been applying to many places. The work I've been doing deals with the computer/internet so I find that on many job applications they ask more personalized questions like:

"What is your most visited website?"
and
"What is your favorite website?"

I don't want to name something stupid or make myself look bad or immature. What are some really good suggestions for my favorite or most-visited website so this employer won't turn me down?
There are plenty of websites that you could list, but make sure it's one you can relate to so if your employer brings it up during an interview, you can speak about it thoroughly and not like you just put something down to impress them.

If you like catching up with current events, any news website would be great.

If you have an interesting hobby or if you're a sports fans, respective websites could speak to your extraneous skills, etc.

Depending on the kind of job you're taking, something related to it would be great too. For example, if you're a designer - if your favorite website is something related to creativity, that speaks volumes.

Clearly, don't put down facebook, myspace, twitter, or any sites that can be wrongly stereotyped. Hope this helps!

Q: Hello sir,

How can I do to remove yahoo messenger from the tools menu of Microsoft Internet Explorer?

I have window 98.

I alresdy remove yahoo messenger from the control panal / add/remove programme, but still it display on my tools menu of the microsoft internet explorer.
When you have IE open, go to the toolbar.

View > Toolbars

The Yahoo toolbar should be under that. If you uncheck it, it should go away!

Q: I'm thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend of 5 months. I don't want to break up with him I just think I need a change it sounds really horrible saying that. I don't know what to do. :(
Can anyone help?
It's not horrible if it's what you want. You're probably still young and still figuring out what you want in a guy and in life. Talk to him about it and if you guys had something good, you guys will still be friends after the break up. You can propose "taking a break" (but only if you want to) and see how you do without him for a while. In other words, not being in an exclusive relationship. Talk to him privately and see how he feels about you and the relationship and just say how you feel. If he's a good guy, he'll understand and he'll want you to be happy :)

Q: what are some good names to call out during a play in say a volleyball game? for example:
in basketball to call out a name (like ORANGE) and it is a code name to try to run a certain drill to get a basket. HELP PLEASEE :)
Anything can work! My basketball team used to name out plays after animals! HAHA We had an inbound play called SEAL!

But any name you call a play will work as long as the team remembers which play it is!

Q: is there any way to see someone's tagged pictures on their myspace if they have the album hidden?
Nope!
If their tagged photos album is hidden, it won't show up on their profile and you won't be able to see them!

UNLESS! You're friends with other people and those tagged pictures end up having your friend(s) in them too, then you can see those!

Q: 17/f
I have known this boy for years and we have always liked eachother. finally after years of on and off seeing eachother there was always a connection. finally we are together. we are in love and talk to eachtoher all the time and text 24/7. the down side is we only get to see eachother twice a week. he is very insecure and emotionally weak. he trusts me but every once in a while he says he has his doubts and can't trust other people. it takes him forever to get over things which bugs me because i never worry about anything and i get over things quicker than they begin. is there anyway i can fix this?

thanks soo much :)
Sounds like what I had going on three years ago! Except I was the insecure one ):

My then boyfriend and I had a long distance relationship and it was great! Until I started having my doubts because his exgirlfriend who was still really close to him. I would always disregard what he had to say and I didn't believe him (which I should've) and I had all these doubts. Sometimes, I'm not even really sure why!

I think the only way to fix this insecurity of his is to show him that you really care about him and that he's important to you. Not only through your words, but your actions. The little things that count! But ultimately, it's going to take time and his maturity to understand and trust you.

Best of luck!

Q: 14/F

I'm five feet tall and weigh about 117 lbs. It's not that bad, considering I have muscle on me, but I also have partially larger thighs, upper arms, and a gut.

My question is, any tips on losing weight?
I want to get a flat stomach, or mostly flat stomach, by summer and I want to lose at least 7 lbs. I know you have to do aerobics, running, etc. etc., but is there any other way to make the process faster?
Thanks in advance.
Okay, what I'm about to tell you may be different than what you've heard, but I'm speaking from a biological standpoint and also from personal experience.

I'm pretty sure you'll have people talking about doing exercises to lose weight, but that's a lot of hard work!

One week during winter break, my family and I went on a cruise and I totally PIGGED OUT! (24 hour food service, heck yeah!) I would think I gained weight after eating all that food for a week, but a couple days after I got home and weighed myself, I lost 8 pounds!

It might've been my metabolism but I don't know.
However, there's a biological explanation for this. When you're living your life and you eat about the same everyday, you have what's called a set point, where your metabolism is the same and digest food at the same rate. BUT! If you change the amount of food you eat for a period of time, your "set point" changes a little bit. THEN! When you go back to your "regular" diet, your body thinks it's not getting enough food because you've been putting all that food in your body for that period of time, and thus, you lose weight.

Voila!

Q: my comp wont let me upload a pic on like tinypic, photobucket, facebook or anything..help!
You might want to try enabling popups or change the settings for your JavaScript because Tinypic, Photobucket, and Facebook use JavaScript to upload pictures. I hope it works!

If it doesn't, you might want to try going to Options on your Internet Server (IE, Firefox, etc.) and under Security, add those sites under the "Trusted Sites." That might work!

Q: i just learned the 6 step, and im proud of myself =]
lol.
ANYWAYS
i noticed that it works my stomach and legs,
what exactly does it work?? and would it make me lean if i kept doing it a couple times a day? or would it make me all muscled up? because i want to be lean...
Thanks =]
Congrats! I have a brother who breakdances and he teaches me sometimes :)

Considering the fact that you just learned it, your body probably isn't used to the movements which is probably why you feel it working your stomach and legs. Yeah, it works your stomach and legs, as well as yours arms. I wouldn't say it would make you all muscled up, but it would probably make your muscles a bit tighter. Which is a good thing! No flab! :D

Keep it up!

Q: Okay im in sophmore year of highschool and right now I have mostly d's in my school work. Last year I didn't do too great, i got by on mostly c's, and im on my final quater(?) in the year. My mom yells at me every night that i won't go to college on these grades, even if i get all a's next year and senior year. Is this true? I don't think it can be because I know people who went to harvard even though they had f's for quiet a while. But can anybody assure me?
It really depends on the kind of college that you're considering. Anyone can get into college, even with less than satisfactory grades. There are always state universities, junior colleges, and community colleges to consider. Don't worry! You can definitely make it to college! Depending on where you live too, some in-state colleges mostly just look at your sophomore and junior year grades. Just keep it up junior year for sure!

Q: this is so weird. ive been with my bf 4-5 months [officially 4 but weve been "together" about 5 probably]. anyway, hes the best thing thats ever happened to me and i honestly dont want to lose him... however sometimes i feel like i wanna tell him that we should break up. its weird, because i dont actually want to break up with him, i just want to say it. whats that about??? 16/f.
i've had this feeling before, and i know exactly how you feel about the whole not wanting to break up with him, but wanting to say it. for me, personally, it was because it didn't seem like he cared much about me anymore, or the little things he said that he "thinks" means nothing, really did mean something.. BIG. and it got on my nerves, to say the least.

are there little things about him that bug you? pet peeves maybe? if you don't want to break up with him, you probably don't. but you'll know when the time is right. so don't think too much about it, have fun together! best wishes to the two of you! (:

Q: how can i put pictures as my captions in my myspace pics? ive seen it done, but now i cant find people who do it!! thanks so much for any helpppp! :)
ahh. almighty html :D

first step first, upload the picture you would like to put in your caption. i recommend "www.tinypic.com" because they give you a tiny url that fits just perfectly in the caption box.

second, copy the url and in the caption box. type in

img src="URL HERE"

with < and > around it.

and that should be it! this should display the picture in your caption (:

note: the picture you put in your caption may have to be resized. or if you do not wish to resize it yourself, just resize it on the internet, plain and simple!

type in

img src="URL HERE" width="#px"

with < and > around it.

in the "#" place, type in a number, in pixels, to resize your picture. i usually recommend 256px. but whatever floats your boat :D

hope this helped!

in addition, you can pay a visit to "www.createblog.com" or "blogring.net" for further html help =]

Q: Well, here's the thing. I met this guy at the dog park. We totally hit it off, and we talked for an hour and a half. It was wonderful. Then we had to go, because it was getting dark and I had to walk home. I left without getting his number, but browsing MySpace, I found and added him. It's been about a month since I talked to him, but I really want to see him again. What should I do? If I message him, what do I say?
reconnection! always a tricky topic in everyday life. i've had to go through some of these myspace messaging days myself to reconnect with people. i say you take a go at it and message him. jog his memory by saying where you met and that you met him a month ago at the dog park. don't forget to mention specifics and such that you guys talked about to really make it stand out in his memory. as the first message, just get reacquainted with him. then, as you two begin to talk more, you know what to do ;D best wishes! =]

Q: I know in the real world, this doesn't really matter, but as a high school junior who's romantically interested in a freshman, I really need help. I met him in marching band, and instantly, we clicked. He's everything that I've ever looked for in a guy, right down to the band geekiness. Unfortunatly, I'm more of a traditional person, so when he reciprocated my feelings for him, I was torn between accepting and rejecting. Not only that, but I am of a high leadership position in the band, so I know that rumors will fly, perhaps even getting in the way of his wishes to become drum major. He's still waiting for my answer. You seem to give really good advice, so I'm hoping to hear from you soon!
i'm glad you came to me for advice! and let me tell you this, i can totally relate to your position. i am of a leadership position in marching band as well, and i know words flies FAST in the band family, so i can understand your worries about rumors and such. now ask yourself if these so-called "rumors" may affect you as well. but also take in consideration to follow your heart, i cannot stress that enough these days. if you think it is the right decision for you, take it, but only when you've given it much thought. if you're worried about rumors spreading and it affecting his reputation, so to speak, talk to him about your worries and your doubts. make sure you communicate with each other and let him know what you think about the situation. let him know that you're worried about the whole rumors situation. most likely, he wouldn't mind it at all because of his feelings for you. but talk it out, and i'm sure you'll work something out. as for the rumors part of it, i wouldn't worry about it too much. rumors CAN ruin your reputation, but hey, if they're not true, forget about them. the people who started them are probably jealous or envy what you have that they don't. best wishes to you! (:

if you need any further, don't hesitate to ask! i'm MORE than happy to help you =]

Q: How can I inprove my vioce? for singing. Im not sure if I sing good. Im very self concience about my vioce, but I want to be a singger. I love to sing. No body has heard me sing like with all my effort. How can i improve it?
take some singing lessons in your community. if there is a choir program available at school, take advantage of it to give yourself a chance to progress. if you have friends who are into singing too, you might want to ask them to join the choir program or take some classes with you. it's always fun to do things together! but if you'd rather not, go for it yourself! you might want to have your family members or your close friends hear what you sound like. tell them what you're aiming for and they'll surely support you! g`luck with everything & best wishes to you! (:

Q: I want to see a scary with my friend (both 14/f) I'll probably rent, because most movies that are out right now i've seen (the only one i can think of is Lady In the Water)

Two Questions
**Are there any other scary/horror movies playing right now
**If not, what are some good ones that you can rent?
on august 4th - THE DESCENT is coming out.
synopsis: On a daredevil caving holiday in the Appalachian Mountains, six women friends are unexpectedly trapped underground when a rock fall blocks their exit. Searching the maze of tunnels for a way out, they find themselves hunted by a race of fearless, hungry predators, once humanoid but now monstrously adapted to live in the dark. As the others battle for their lives, Sarah, still recovering from a mental collapse brought on by the recent deaths of her family, is fighting for her sanity. When old secrets are revealed, the friends turn on one another, causing the group to implode. Betrayed and desperate, Sarah realizes that to make it back to the surface, she must become as savage as the creatures themselves.

on the same day, THE NIGHT LISTENER is coming out too!
synopsis: A psychological thriller that revolves around the celebrated writer and popular late-night radio show host, Gabriel Noone, who develops an intense relationship with a young listener named Pete and his adopted mother, just as his own domestic life is undergoing changes. When a troubling question arises regarding the boy's identity, it causes Gabriel's ordered existence to spin wildly out of control as he sets out on a harrowing journey to find the truth.

august 18th, SNAKES ON A PLANE is coming out.
synopsis: A ruthless assassin unleashes a crate full of lethal snakes aboard a packed passenger jet over the Pacific Ocean in order to eliminate a witness in protective custody. The rookie pilot and frightened passengers must band together to survive.

those will probably be the most popular scary movies. but if you decide to rent, any of the FINAL DESTINATION movies are good. EXORCIST, THE OTHERS, THE OMEN, THE SHINING, etc. you might want to ask the people at the rental store & get their opinions too! have fun! (:


Q: ok people i hav a problem.there's this guy i never got the guts to tlk to him,until a few weeks ago. i remember when we were in school he would stare at me allll the time and i didn't like him until the year ended.i started talking to him on i.m. and we were getting to know each other a lil better i remember dat we were havin a great time talkin and than he had to go to sleep so we stopped talking 4 dat night. but i havn't heard from him since than and dat was a week ago. so is he avoiding me or is he just to shy to talk to me again?
if you guys had a great time talking to each other, he shouldn't be avoiding you. seems to me that he's a bit shy. go ahead and strike up a conversation and see where it takes you. you might considering hanging out with him along with a couple friends to get to know her a bit better. either way, best wishes! (:

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