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Q: what are some ways to help quicken the recovery time for mono i know theres no cure and that alot of rest is requred but i unfortunatly dont have that option to rest alot i have to work. so is there anything else that anyone knows of that helps quicken it?
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I had mono over summertime from end of july til about the last week in august. It is absolutely horrible and I feel bad for whoever has it. Take into consideration your health is a lot more important than work. After the whole sore throat part is over you know you'll be getting better soon. you'll be anxious to go out and do things and be with friends and stuff but your gonna realize really fast that you'll be out of breath and extremely exhausted. please take my advice and stay home for a few weeks and drink many liquids. try tea with honey and lemon and if your conditions worsen go to a doctor they can prescribe u some pain medication. If you dont stay home and wait it out you could have a relapse and you'll be in a hospital for weeks and it will get worse. so make you're health your first priority right now.. mono is more serious than people think. rest up and feel better!
best wishes =)
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Q: This will be verry long, but please bear with me and help.. I am desperate for advice right now..
I feel like there is no reason for me to live anymore. The past week my friends have stood me up and lied to me. My mom is a huge alcoholic so all she does is yell at me (like now), blaming me for her personal problems. My dad is always angry at me. I never know why, actually. I am always doing something that makes him mad. Whenever I have something to say, nobody listens. Usually they later regret it but that doesn't stop from ignoring me again. Also, my cousin cheerfully (at least it seemed like it) said I am invited to her birthday party. It would be a huge blast since she just turned 18. She said she would tell me when to get there.. but later after asking she never responded back, because she never told me. So she went without me. First of all, this meant SOO much to me because I haven't seen her in months, so I was looking forward to it.
She also did this a few other times so I wouldn't consider it an accident. She never wants to take me anywhere.
It's the same with my friends. I post bulletins on Myspace, saying how hurt I am or something, and nobody cares to reply back. You'd think out of 100 friends, one of them would, right? No.
I feel hated, betrayed, and lied to. I feel like I am everyone's punching bag.
I am mentally ill, actually. I have attempted suicide numerous times, once ending up in the ER. I get panic attacks and mental breakdowns. I do see my school counselor, but all she can do is calm me down. She doesn't help the problem, she just helps the way I feel. But I want the problem to be helped because all it does is it gets worse. I am sick and tired of being treated all crappy. I do nice things for people but the favor is never returned. Usually I don't expect any to be but I never get one returned.
My parents refuse to get me to a Psychologist. The most I can do right now is school counseling. I live in a crappy city so there is no shelters nearby or anything.
I want to die. I want to be gone. I am sure if I do die, everyone will be happy because right now everyone just gets mad at me for no reason. I have done nothing wrong, but I blame mysef everyday for just existing.
What can I do?? PLEASE HElP!!=[
ps - please don't ignore this because I know this site gets many questions about depression and suicide, and I know I am annoying you people for adding on to it. But I am ill, and I need help. Thanks.
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Hunny, dont kill yourself. Suicide is taking the easy way out of life. I dont know exactly all you're problems and how you handle them but i can make a promise to you, that eventually things will get better, and you just have to believe they do. I sometimes go through a lot of problems all at once, and maybe they may not be as bad as yours, but i just hang in there until there over. And its okay to cry, and feel depressed, and hurt and lost. No body can tell you how you should feel, and sometimes we can't even help it. But hang in there, because one day you wont be living with your parents and you dont have to take there verbal abuse, and you`ll be out of school and you`ll be able to do what you want, and work on the things you need in life. And you are not a doormat, so dont let people walk all over you, every person in life i believe should be treated with respect and never taken for granted. If you are a good person to the people you love and care about, and they dont show as much emotion as you show then thats okay, you are the better person and you do deserve more. Also you may think that if you commit suicide that everyone will be happier and okay with it, we`ll you're wrong. Because wether you're parents yell at you or not they still love you with everything they have. And maybe people dont respond to bulletins cuz they dont know how to express how they feel towards you, but i bet everyone of them cares about you. And once your gone you will not be able to experiences all the postive things life has to offer. Not everything will be easy, there are obstacles you will have to face, but just be who you are, and if you really think you need to see a doctor then tell a relative and sit down and talk with them and see if they can convince your parents, because you deserve help. Or simply open up to a friend more, because friends have the best advice to offer, and no matter what they are always there for you. If you need any more advice, feel free to message me alright?
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Q: ok i'm in 8th grade.. and i dont smoke,drink or do any drugs whatsoever. so me and my friends are talking about when people in my school start drinking which is 8th and up. they said that they wouldnt mind starting now or in 9th.
anyway i was with one of my friends and she said she would do it and everyone else does. she says its not wrong and its not right, just another form of partying. personally i dont feel like i would drink at a young age, and i dont want to give in to peer pressure. i feel pressured to start soon,what should i do?? help is appreciated.
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well i am in highschool and i do not make drinking a habit, not even at parties. I have a lot of friends that choose to drink, do drugs and smoke. I tryed helping them out and letting them know that its not only wrong it could ruin your life. I am still friends with these people, but i dont do what they do, and im fine with that. If i go to a party and people offer me a drink or something i simply say no thanks and walk away. Don't give into pressure, it only shows that you are a follower, if you walk away you`ll not only prove to yourself but your friends that you are a strong person and you make your own decisions.
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Q: 15/f hey guys.. so heres the problem: im always awkward when im around people im not really close with. like when imeet new people i'll be really quiet and i wont have anything to say and i'll like move alot but when im like with my friends or whatever im really mellow. do you have any tips on like being more calm and chill? and more outgoing??? thanks!
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well see a lot of people are like that, even i sometimes feel strange around people i dont know. you just have to get a conversation going, laugh, smile and feel confident.
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Q: okay, this might be a stupid question but i just have to say something.
there's this guy i really like, i actually talk to him so i know a bit about him and stuff.
i see him in school and at the ice skating rink on fridays.
last friday i went to the rink with my friend. we were together for practically the whole time.
anyway, the guy i like, he kinda sorta flirted with us [i'm not sure if it was with my friend or me] and since i'm a flirt myself i most likely flirted back.
its just any guy i've liked has never liked me back. is it possible this time its different?
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yes, everything has a new way of surprising us sometimes, even love. dont push yourself to hard on him, because im sure he gets the vibe your crushing on him, and you wouldnt want to scare him away. keep talking and doing what your doing, im sure he`ll come around. =)
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Q: if you have to debate with yourself whether or not you love someone, then you cant really be in love with then huh?
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not neccesarily. people question themseleves all the time to see if thats what they really want or looking for. theres nothing wrong with debating with yourself. Sometimes we have to think things through to prevent heartbreak or something were not really ready for. Love is complicated but if at times there all you think about, then there is something special there.
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Q: i dont know why but i have no friends. seriously, i dont mean that i have a few friends.. i seriously have none, well except on the internet. i dont know why but like everywhere at school nobody likes me. not even the loser kids or the populars. like nobody . i dont know what im doing wrong.. i mean ive only had one school friend and that was four years ago in third grade, and then she had to move to a different state. it sucks.. i dont know what to do.. i mean you just canth ave internet friends. my parents worry about me alot. ive joined clubs and such in school but they treat me the same.. like they dont really like me, really acknoledge me.. and stuff. ive even joined like friendship clubs in school and out of school, even with people i dont know. but like.. its not really the same like that. i dont even really click with the people but who am i kidding at this point i'll take anyone as a friend. i just read in class and etc so that i wont be too loneley and just stand there.. somedays i feel so bad i want to kill myself. what is wrong with me? ive tried getting a new wardrobe, or just being myself.. nothing seems to work. they. just. dont. like. me. am i hopeless? what can i do? i mean like in gym class your internet friends arent gonna be there so you can partner with them and not be the "extra" person that has to join a group with people who'd rather not have you there. -sigh-
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If you're truthfully being yourself then i dont see any reason for someone to not be your friend. you changing your wardrobe and trying to hard is not going to make people like you anymore. Just be open & honest, have a sense of humor, help someone when they need it. If you see someone crying in school ask them if there alright, if you see someone struggling with some school work ask if they need your help. Show them that you are a caring person. Because if i know anything, its about friendships. I have had friends come and go, and others who wouldnt even give me a second glance to be my friend, and im okay with that. When people see who you really are, they will want to get to know you. Your going to see throughout you're entire life some people wont accept you for who you are, and you cant worry about that you just have to continue with what you are, and everything you want to be.
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Q: Hey Missy!! Okay theres this boy who i like ALOT!! and he likes me too but he hasnt asked me out yet we even tell eachother we love eachother I just dont get why he doesnt ask em out ive been wating and ive told him how i felt and theres one other thing when hes around some of his freinds hes a complete jerk to me but when hes around his other friends hes the sweetest guy ever!! why wont he act the same? is he worried his certain friends will laugh at him..? please give me some advice.. i dont know what to do?! thanks!! i lovee you missyyy!! =) =)
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all boys will act different in every situation. boys have a rep to protect. the majority of boys want to not have that lovey dovey appearance like girls dont care. I`m sure he's waiting for the right time, this could be a good thing because he could be thinking of a way to ask you out and not hurting you, or it could be a bad thing and hes just not ready to commit into a relationship. ethier way you put out your feelings and done your part. being impatient is what we all our. espically when it comes to relationships. so just hold on and see what comes your way. and i love whoever this is too haha =) you can always ask for advice
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Q: OK im a 14 year old girl. I November my gramma died, and a week later my parents got a divorce. I have an older sister who is perfect and gets awesome grades and is really pretty and popular. Like it isnt hard enough just being a freshman in high school, i have all of this to deal with. I have always felt like im stuck in the shadow of my sister. I was especially close to my gramma, and i still am afraid to accept the fact that shes gone. My parents getting a divorce has been really hard, because i was really close to my dad, and now he doesnt live with me. It just seems like this is all building up, so im really moody. Everyone tells me i need to talk to someone, because hiding isnt good. But i dont feel like there is anyone in the world who can understand what I'm going through. It seems like i cant relate to anybody. What should I do? Do i really need to talk to someone?
PS-I am a very good Catholic, so i believe in God and pray to him, and i am at church all the time. But i dont even feel close to God anymore.
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yes you need to talk to someone, but not just anyone. You need someone who you confide it and you feel comfortable to be around, or you`ll never get the feedback you want. I`m sorry about your grandmother, but thats the way life is we grow to love people and they hold speical places in our hearts, and when they pass on we go through a series of emotions, first shock, anger because there not comming back, and then acceptance because you realize god needer her and now shes in a better place, looking down and watching over you. Divorice is always a tough aspect of life that affects many people. I wouldnt be able to relate to what your going through, but just know that things will eventually work out for the better. Try and talk to your dad and spend more time with him, that speical bond will come back in time. And about your sister, we will always envy people thats what we do, believe it or not everyone in this world envys someone. Your sister may be popular and pretty and seem to have the best of everything, but remember shes your sister, not your enemy. Try to talk and hang out with her, be sisters. There will be times when you feel like your not good enough, but every single person in this world feels that at some point or another. There are people in this world that love and care about you, let them help you. you shouldnt have to suffer alone.
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Q: ok theres this guy hes in my gym but hes a year older than me and like he knows who i am and everything but were not really friends and i think im starting to like him because hes really cute and funny but i dont think i have a chance at all because hes all athlete popular and everything and i dont think he would be interested in me but i dont know what to do because i wanna get closer and at least be friends with him but i dont know how because i dont wanna make a fool out of myself...
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if you want to get his attention throw a ball at him in gym and say "im sorry" at least then he knows you there, then try a side conversation, see where that goes =)
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Q: Melissa IS MY BESTFRIEND IN THE WHOLE WORLD...AND MY HERO!! =)
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good cause i love my bestfriend =)
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Q: oh man i need major help ! im going out with this guy i like a lot.. but im a little scared to kiss him because i havnt had a boyfriend in a long time ! soo i dont know if he wants to kiss me too !! but im scared that i might not even be a good kisser. should i kiss him or not? please help me !
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hmm.. lets see he didnt try to kiss you yet? well maybe hes just as nervous as you are- go for it then at least it wont be on your mind all the time. and everyone has there own opinions about a good and bad kisser, we all cant be good at everything =) dont worry about it
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Q: Hi i like these two guys and they both like me and i dont want a boifrind rite now and im like in love with them
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is it you dont want a boyfriend because your in love with two people, or are you just not looking for a relationship. and thats great that you found two people that share a connection with you. but having feelings for two different guys isnt fair, just like if a guy you really liked, liked you and another girl. you need to figure out who it is that your gonna let down and who it is your gonna say i like you but i dont want a relationship right now, because your not being fair. hope everything works out
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Q: People tell me that im not over weight, but to me i am. Its so bad that i cant even get up in front of a group because i am so nervous about my weight or how i look. People tell me to be myself and not care what they think but its not enough. Its becoming a real issue for me. What should i do?
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There are gonna be certain things about yourself that your never gonna like, and that your gonna wanna change. Weight is one of them. People will tell you honest opinions and others will lie. But if your at a weight limit with everyone else or a little older i hope your just kidding about asking me for advice. Just like i answered sum other question below you cut back serving sizes and exercise. you will feel better about yourself and not so much as an outkast. good luck =]
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Q: what do you do when you know your fat not like huge but think ypur fat and then your boyfriend starts calling you fat? like kidding but you dont think he is? i wanna loose weight .. please help
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your boyfriend sounds like a real winner to be calling you fat. People will constantly judge you on appearance wether your pretty, ugly fat skinny, it doesnt matter. its the insecures ones that will hurt u. people will pick at you and others all our lifes. we gotta look past them. because there not who makes us. if your uncomfortable with yourself then maybe cut ur serving sizes down and do sum more exercising it takes time to lose weight and to tone but it will be worth it if you work at it.
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Q: hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help
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whats more important to you? Friendship or a relationship? you have to decide beforee you can go forth with anything else. There will be plenty of others out there. But having a bestfriend means sumone who stays true and must be speical to be your bestfriend. Maybe talking to him and asking him how he would feel about it first will trigger your decision, to see what you feel is right.
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Q: i havnt had a boyfriend in like SUCH a long time ! im nice and funny and from what my friends tell me, pretty ! but i always ask them, and not im asking you ... WHY AM I NOT FINDING "HIM"?? ughh i hate my life when i think about it.. it brings me down terribly !!! please help !
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chances r your looking in the wrong place, or possibly your looking to hard. If you find yourself of all you said above, then i`m sure the right guy will come along. you gotta let fate happen. It will bring you what you deserve. hang in there.
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Q: okay im a friendly girl and i like making friends with people ... but how would i become friends with someone that i wanna become friends with but i dont even know her? like yeah they know who i am and i know who they are, but how would you start to really know them? from the things i hear and the pictures i see, and from what other people say, i just picture us getting along and becoming friends. But then i dont know what to do from there so i need help ...
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tell her you like her hair or something, then you started a conversation and keep talking. say hi to her in school after you talked to her, and then ask her for her screen name and you`ll learn more about eachother.
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Q: ughh okay.. heres my situation, i like this guy A LOT !! but i dont think he likes me back! i am a good nice person and things like that but were just friends.. how do i make him at least have feelings for me ?
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I get this question alot. My advice for you is to be yourself. If you like the guy for who he is, dont you want him to like you for who you are. If he doesnt like you in that way, then theres someone out there that is better for you, and you`ll find them sooner or later.
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Q: Okay I really like to hurt myself in the way of cutting but I had to stop about a month ago because my mom found out. Well my friends all think it was really dumb to do but they cant understand why I did it. Should I be mad or happy that they cared?(They would say things like "Theres no point or doing that to myself" but i would tell them "Theres no point for smokeing or drinking thats hurting them as much as cutting") If you can't talk about this thats okay I just needed some much needed help..
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alright, for starters i`m really glad you stopped. There is no reason to be mad at your friends for caring, you should be grateful that people care about you that much to try and tell you too stop. You may not realize what your doing is soo harmful, and its not doing you any good. Because your depressed or mad or whatever, cutting yourself is not taking the stress away, please just think about it for a minute, if your mad at someone or depressed about life is cutting yourslef the answer? no.. what you should do is sit down with your parents and tell them you need help. then you can talk with someone and get out of what your doing before you really hurt yourself.
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Its okay to want someone you cant have. Its okay to keep friendships when you dont want them,or want something more. Its okay to cry when you're hurt, & its okay to stay mad at someone who hurt you. Believe it or not, its always going to be okay. Thats just how it works. Sometimes, things dont always work out the way you want them to, & a lot of times, it seems like they never will. But its okay, thats how lifes suppose to go. Its all about learning how to deal with the bumpy parts in the road & waiting till they're smooth again. Its all about forgiving & forgetting. Its all about waiting & wishing. Thats just how life is.
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Gender: Female Occupation: school Age: 17 Member Since: March 21, 2005 Answers: 86 Last Update: October 8, 2007 Visitors: 4823
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