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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
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okay for about a few years now, me and my friend make eachother stuff for holidays and birthdays.so far we've both done collages in frames,bulletin boards, and scrap books. so basically her birthday is coming up and im so out of ideas on what i should do. any ideas!?
How about a hollow book? They're a lot of fun to make and it's cool to be like "Yeah. I have a secret hollow book that I hide stuff in." :)
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Hollow-Book
There's a good web site with instructions on how to make it.
Decorate it with pictures or some nice scrapbook paper. Write some inside jokes on scraps of paper and throw them in there. Or fill it with her favorite candy. The possibilities are endless.
Ok so me and my friends are going to be Juniors next year and we are planning early for our Senior prank we what to do something that will be remembered for a long time but the thing is that we dont want to do anything to illegal and nothing that is going to permanatley damage anything or hurt anyone in anyway and we dont want to get in so much trouble that we wont be able to walk at graduation we were thinking about buying a bunch of sod and lining the main hall with it from end to end but we are still not sure what to do so you guys tell me what you think of what we were thinking about doing and give me some fun and creative ideas that you guys have, I would love to hear them thanx for all your guy's help!!! =D
My Senior year prank was BRILLIANT. I don't mean to brag, but it was pretty hilarious! :)
The day before Senior skip day, all the seniors brought it a bunch of battery operated alarm clocks. We set them all to go off that the same time the next day and then we locked them in our lockers. It was perfect because when they went off, none of us were in school because we skipped and the janitors had to open each locker one by one to shut the alarms off!
Hello. I am going to a Dave Matthews Band concert on Friday, and I was just wondering what I could do to prepare. The weather says it is going to be 84 and sunny, so I know lots of water, and probably some food. My boyfriend wants to get there early, do you know any ideas on what we can do while we wait, and possibly how much money I should bring? Thank you so much in advance.
Maybe you could pack a picnic lunch. If there is an open grassy area, put down a blanket and eat it there. If not, just sit in the car and listen to some music while you eat.
I would bring $20-$30 in case you want to buy a souvenir and maybe extra snacks if you get hungry.
Definitely pack some sunscreen.
If you are going with a group of people, maybe you could all bring mini squirt guns and have a water fight.
Our gym class is biking to an ice cream place and we have a uniform. Where could I put my money? I don't want to bring a purse or something because that will distract me and i'll probably crash.
Many girls stick it in their bras but I'm VERY flat chested; if I sticked a penny I think people would notice.
Would it work if i stick it in my shoes?
Put the money in a ziploc bag, or something similar, and then you can put it in your shoes. You could even tape the bag to your bike. Whichever would be easier. I would imagine putting it on your bike would be more comfortable.
me= 16/f
him=17/m
we've been dating nearly a year and im in need of ideas of gifts to give him on our 1 year. I love him with all my heart he's the sweetest guy ive ever met and a lil emotional. i want the gift for hjim to be amazing and remind him of me since he's gotten me many amazing gifts such as a ring, neclace, and an adorable stuffed animal to cuddle with. I dont want the gift to be something to do with his interests cuz thats more of a christmas/b-day gift. I want it to be just something that reminds him of Us and our amazing year together. we havent taken many pictures so a scrapbook wont work im thinking that for our 2 year when we have more things to put in it.
give me as many ideas as possible i need a ton!!
thanks
Make him a hollow book! It's seriously the best gift idea ever! You can put lots of sweet things in it for him just to show how much you care. After you make it, decorate it with a few pictures of your guys or some nice scrapbook paper. Then toss in things like:
-his favorite candy
-love quotes written on little pieces of paper
-movie ticket stubs from movies you've seen together
And just other little things that will remind him of your first year together. Like maybe if you went to the zoo, put a zoo map in there.
Here's a web site on how to make it. I'm sure he'll love it!
http://how2dostuff.blogspot.com/2006/02/how-to-make-secret-hollow-book.html
each day i find new white bumps on my tounge. they kill. i think there called cankasores (not right spellling just sounded it out) there on my tip of my tounge, sides and ouch they kill!!
what are they??? what can i do to aid it???
First off, avoid citrus fruit like oranges and pineapple, for those can easily trigger canker sores. I get them all the time. I usually wait it out and they go away, but if you are in a lot of pain try taking some advil every four to six hours. They will go away on their own.
However, if you have the canker sores for more than two weeks, definitely call your doctor, as it could be much more serious.
17/f/Australia
I absolutely love art, I take two different art subjects at school and I continuously get very high grades. I am interested in earning some extra money to support myself at the moment. I do a lot of paintings on canvas. Is there a way I can possibly sell my art to maybe a gallery or something similar? Will galleries buy my work? Do I just approach them and ask them if they would be interested? Do I bring in photos of my work? How will I know how much they are worth?
I'm not really sure what to do or if a gallery or something similar would be interested in purchasing a 17 year olds work, will it matter how old I am? I'll be 18 in 4 months anyway.
So should I approach a gallery, if so who do I speak to? Or should I find another way to sell my work?
Thanks to anyone who can help me!
I don't know too much about this subject, but have you heard of www.devientart.com?
If you could get your paintings scanned to your computer, you could post them on the web site and sell prints. Plus, the web site is VERY good about copyright issues, so no one will steal your work. As long as your work is completely original, you should be able to sell it.
If that's not something you want to do, I would call around to local galleries and tell them what's up. Put together a professional portfolio to show them your paintings and dress professionally if you get called in for a meeting.
who are some techno-beat singers?
especially good for fashion shows.
Cascada would be great for a fashion show. Her music is very pop-techno and she has some great remixes of other songs.
Okay, so this has been going on for the past few months - my five-year-old sister wakes up, sleepwalkwalks through the house in search of our mom, and cries. She is practically implacable; she does not fall back to sleep easily; she is either unwilling to or incapable of telling me what is wrong. Sometimes, I have to lay in her bed with her in order to get her to fall asleep.
At first, this only happened every once in a while, but now it happens EVERY NIGHT. It's gotten to the point where I wake up the instant I hear footsteps in the hallway. Sometimes, I just avoid falling asleep until she does it, because I know she will and I also know that I become quite irritable when my sleep is disturbed.
So, my question is this this: Is it normal for a five-year-old girl to wake up crying in the middle of the night, every single night? I can understand the occasional nightmare or the midnight bathroom break, but (again) every night?
I'm worried about her, which is bad enough, but I'm also losing hours of sleep over this issue. Any help you can offer would be much appreciated.
I know that sleepwalking is very common in young girls. I actually went through the same ordeal myself. My mom ended up letting me sleep in her room until I got over the issue. However, I wasn't waking up every single night. It sounds like your sister's ordeal is a little more serious.
I would recommend taking her to the doctor. Perhaps he can prescribe a children's sleeping aid to fix the issue. I know that the problem will go away eventually, but you need your sleep too.
17/f
This girl I sit with at school has a boyfriend who i am also very close to. It really annoys me because whenever I am talking to her or anything and her boyfriend comes along he comes up to her and he is all over her. She's a bit shyer and doesnt really do anything but i just find it really gross and mostly uncomfortable that I have to stand there until they are finished. Not a cool look. Its really uncomfortable for me and I could never evr ever tell them that i feel uncomfortable, neither of them would talk to me again.
So telling them isnt really an option because I dont have anyone else to hang out with and i have no where else to go.
What should I do?
Just put up with it??
If I were you I would just say, "Ok well see you later" and walk away. If it makes you uncomfortable, you shouldn't have to stand there and deal with it. Just walk away and talk to someone else. I can understand why you wouldn't want to tell them how you feel, but I'm sure that if they are true friends they would want to know.
If they ask you why you just walked away from them, tell them, "Well I didn't want to be rude, but the way you two act sometimes makes me uncomfortable. But that's none of my business what you two want to do, so I just left."
And like I said, if they are good friends, they would understand and try to be more polite in the future.
Don't put up with it anymore. You can avoid them without being rude. Hopefully they can take a hint.
how do you get it?
how do you know if you have it (all signs)?
how do you get rid of it without doing to the doctor if you can?
http://women.webmd.com/tc/vaginal-yeast-infections-topic-overview
This web site if very legit for health questions. You should find what you need there.
are hp pavillipn laptops any good?
i was maybe going to get one.
thanks
A lot of my friends who owned HP's were VERY unsatisfied. My sister actually bought a $1500 top of the line HP and it completely crapped out less than a year later. I wouldn't recommend an acer or gateway either because I've found that they seem to overheat a lot easier than any other laptop I've had experience with. I would personally recommend a toshiba laptop above all the rest.
I found a dog a few days ago in my neighborhood and I tried walking around trying to find her owner and I couldn't so she stayed all night in front of my house. I didn't tie her up or anything she willlingly stayed and the next day I found her owner who lives just a few houses down from me and the dog keeps coming back to my house and sits on the front portch. Last night I found her again and put her in their fenced back yard but she must crawl under it and get out because when I was walking home she came back out. I think she likes me so much because I fed her and gave her lots of attention before I returned her and she likes me a lot more than her home. What sould I do to keep her from returning. Her owners knowd when she leaves she comes straight to my house but THEY don't come get her I take her to them and she is hesitant about it.
Insist that your neighbors lock her up better. The dog is their responsibility; not yours. If she keeps wandering to your house, call the police and let them know what's going on. The dog could easily get hit by a car if the owners don't take the extra precautions to stop her from getting out.
BUT we're hoping things won't go that far. Have a serious talk with your neighbors and that you're sick of dealing with their responsibilities. You can be perfectly polite about it. Point out the dangers of letting their dog wander like that.
16/f
my boyfriend has trouble trusting me. he says he trusts me but i know he doesn't. he freaks out anytime i even talk to another guy. i used to have so many guy friends now i don't anymore. i love my boyfriend to death and will not breakup with him i just need your help with a way to make things better.
this happens a lot about different things but i'll tell you what is going on now. he is constantly scared that if i talk to another guy i'll like him. my boyfriend is always asking me who i talk to in my gym class (meaning guys). i hardly talk to any of the guys, mostly just the girls. i told him that and he was like give me all of the names of the people you've had conversations with. and he started freaking out. then i told him that there is no way i could ever remember that and i'm crying so much and he thinks i'm hiding something. he always thinks i talk to guys behind his back.
like he always looks at my phone at my texts and calls. i know he just loves me so much and never wants to lose me but idk what to do to make all of this stop and just have him trust me!
thanks so much!
The issue here is definitely your boyfriends lack of self-confidence. Two big things I look for in love are honesty... and trust. You can't continue a loving relationship if he's going to keep acting like this. It's driving you insane and it's driving him insane.
Remind him that HE is the guy you always come to. HE is the one you love. And if he can't trust you to even have a friendly conversation with another guy, things will never get better between you two.
You need to put your foot down and tell him you deserve your privacy (i.e. no going through your phone). That is just ridiculous that he does that. Tell him you have nothing to hide, but at the same time he should respect your privacy.
Sit him down and talk through everything with him. If he wants to freak out and act like a baby, maybe you two need to go on a break until he can learn to trust you better.
Can u contract any STDs through fingering?? Like when a guy fingers you in the vagina (3rd base)??
18/f
If he touches his privates (and if they ARE infected with an STD) and then touches your privates, you can most definitely contract an STD.
I have 2 laptops and im going on vacation in 1 month. I know it's pretty early but I will forget this when the time comes closer.
Anyway last vacation i took, i bought my new laptop and the trip home with 2 laptops was so tiring because they are both somewhat heavy. I may carry one.
What should i do about the other, or if i don't carry any, the two? should i take out the batteries or not? where should i keep them? I'm going for 2 month BTW and i don't want anything to happen to any of them!
thanks!
I would just shut the laptops down and store them in their cases in a cool, dry place. It shouldn't matter if the battery is out or not. If it would make you feel better though, feel free to take them out and store them in another compartment of the laptop cases.
Hi my name is jackie.
i've been dating my boyfriend since september and i used to be head over heals for him..vve broke up for a vvhile.. and then novv vve have been together for four months. he never used to act like i vvas his girlfriend. Ex. in school he didnt kiss me hug me or hold my hand. i started to think he vvas embarrassed of me.. he recently started actually "liking" me & doing all of that stuff.. but novv im thinking tvvice and he is leaving for the marines this summer and i dont vvant to get realy close to him because he is just going to leave.. i am too scared to break up vvith him because ive liked him since i vvas a little girl & novv that i have him im not sure that vvas such a good idea..
this has been stressing me out alott lately.. please help? im 15/f and he is 17 almost 18
It sounds like he's starting to mature a little and appreciate you more since he is leaving in a few months. Which is good, but he shouldn't have to have that kind of motivation to treat you right.
If you don't want to get close to him, then don't. Like you said, he's leaving in a couple months. Just tell him you want to be friends. I know that the concept of breaking up is scary, but you're young. You'll meet lots of other potential boyfriends before you know it. I know that sounds cliche, but it's true. The fact is, if he is stressing you out, he is not worth being with. Listen to your gut. If something doesn't feel right, then nothing is.
P.S. I would really appreciate it if you used a "w" instead of a "vv" in the future. It's really hard to read. I'm sure other columnists would appreciate it as well. :)
I need to leave my boyfriend.
I met him playing an online game and he moved here to be with me. It was great, he was sweet and loving... I immediately felt safe. When he's happy and content he calls me his princess and treats me like a queen.. even now. I was 19 turning 20 when he moved here. We would have a lot of fights though, during the months. I've made a couple mistakes but he's my first boyfriend, although that is a poor excuse. The thing is, after some time, he'd use these mistakes of mine against me, and make me feel guilty. I'd cry often and end up apologizing... and I begin to lose a sense of who is right or wrong.. and when I complain, he tells me "You're just bitching again" or "PMSing or what?", even if the things I complain about can't help but make me angry when I think about them. He keeps bringing up all the mistakes I made from the beginning of the relationship when I complain about CURRENT situations. He always calls me names and hangs up on me which I think is really rude.. he's never there for me which hurts the most. He pushes me away from him when he's upset when I try to hug him...
Nowadays, I try to let him know what bothers me in a polite way.. saying something like "it would make me feel better if you did this instead..." but he would say I'm bitching again and that he "fu**ing hates" me so much. I'm 21 and I'm going into my 3rd year of University, planning to be a teacher. He... still lives in a duplex in a bad neighbourhood since he moved here.. and doesn't.. work on his career either, or even drives. This is what made my mom cry one time. She says "Why are you so crazy about a guy that doesn't even better himself if not for him but for you?" She worries about me bussing to his place all the time. I love her so much and I see how upset she gets when I come home with puffy eyes (from tears) so often in a week.
While he just sits around and does nothing but play online games again.. here I am typing this. I know I'm better than this, but .. I just feel disgusting, gained weight after meeting him.. I don't feel confident.. I used to think my friends were stupid when they did stupid things for love, they went to ME for advice because I never had those problems before.. I feel like the most stupidest of all. I need some words of encouragement to move on and leave him.. or else I'll fall back to that cycle where he goes all sweet and hugs me tight and makes me feel safe again where I have to say sorry just to keep feeling that safeness.
Part of this story is also relevant to sex problems I will type in another question.
So what exactly is your question? If it's "how do I leave my boyfriend?" I've got a few suggestions.
Go straight up to him and tell him it's over. You're tired of being called such vulgar names. You're tired of his lazy ass not getting a job. You're tired of being treated like dirt under his feet. You deserve better and you deserve to be happy. Say "Since I'm so 'bitchy' all the time, I'll just leave you to your little games and go bitch to someone else."
And I know it will hurt. I know it will be hard. But you have to do it. There is no future with this guy. There's much better out there just waiting for you. Surround yourself with family and friends. Start going to the gym or do something else that is good for you. Rearrange the furniture in your home. Focus on positive thoughts. Throw yourself into school. The point is to keep yourself busy and you'll find you've forgotten all about him in know time.
Down the road when you meet the right guy, you'll be looking back on this loser and laughing.
My first time was with my current bf. The first thing he did was eat me out. He said I tasted like a "fine liquor" I was incredibly shy and embarrassed and even freak out if he stared at me down there but I really trust him and love him.
He would make sure I'd orgasm everyday with him and we did it so often and were crazy about each other. One time while walking downtown we just couldn't keep our hands off each other that we ran to the top of some stairs in some building beside the door to the roof so no one would see and foreplayed for a while there.. (we were really scared to get caught).
After months taking the pill, we decided to let him cum inside me. It made both of us happy, he didn't have to stop cold turkey to take it out and jack off and I could see his face when he cums.
This is when he'd stop eating me out. I mean even if I take a long shower or thoroughly clean myself, his cum is still stuck way up there.
It's been over a year with him now and he doesn't bother to make me cum anymore.. he only worries about himself cumming.. and even though I give him lots of oral, hoping he'd atleast do the same... I get nothing. I ask him to eat me out or to stop cumming in me all the time but he doesn't care..
After over a month of not cumming with him anymore, I got tired and was unsatisfied again. While he napped, I'd go on his computer, and orgasm from porn. This happened twice without him knowing and with the 3rd, he caught me, and looked upset or hurt.
Now this really confused me, I told him I didn't think he cared whether I came or not anymore and why should this bother him? It turned into a heated arguement and after me mentioning that I wanted to be eaten out again (which he hasn't for several months.. half a year, or over), he shouted at me "You f**ing reek down there, you should f***ing wash yourself down there! I always get soft from that sh*t!!". Ouch. I tried to explain to him that it wasn't like that before he came in me all the time... that even though I shower a lot and often wash myself down there.. perhaps the extra juices I build up down there from the pills (so sperm can swim slow down and thus not be able to reach my egg) and his cum is making it harder to clean it all out...
Nevertheless, he brought in the problems of our relationship (See my Love Life question) and continues to say I'm bitching so I could not get another word in...
Even after another shower right now, just thinking of what he said made me feel really ugly.. and really unsexy.. I used to feel confident about my body and feel sexy and happy but.. I don't know.. I feel like losing my sex drive over him. I just think about him trying to get in my pants again and then I feel like crying from what he said and I feel like he won't get any from me anymore and this will leave us both unsatisfied. I love him but he's such a jerk and... is there any advice on how to feel sexy again, become less dependent on him AND find a really good dildo?
Look at it this way: if he didn't think you were sexy, he wouldn't want to have sex with you. He is being a bit selfish and not satisfying your needs. I think it would be a good idea to stop the sex for awhile. If he's going to treat you like that, he's shouldn't be allowed to have you.
Work on just spending quality time together having fun and not worrying about sex. Pleasure yourself without him if you feel the urge, but other than that you should stop the sex for awhile.
That should definitely put out the message that he's not getting any from you if he's going to treat you like that. Every time he says he wants to have sex, make up an excuse. No matter how mad he gets, don't give him anything until you feel better about yourself. If it doesn't feel right in any way, don't do it. And keep not doing it until he can learn to take care of your pleasures (not just his own) and you can feel good about yourself.
If things do work out, don't let him cum inside you anymore. Even if you're on birth control, you could get pregnant. Not trying to preach, but it's true. Plus, you'll be able to clean yourself better.
Does College GPA Matter?, Except for law and science majors of course
It depends on the college you attend and the job you try to get after graduation. If you attended a private college, but only got a 2.8 GPA, you could still have a chance at a job because private schools are so much more challenging than regular universities.
Your future employers will definitely take a serious look at your college GPA, even though it isn't the only factor in deciding to hire you.