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Hello,
Usually when sleeping with someone I am always on the bottom. Recently, this guy flipped me over on top and I realized i'm so bad at riding on top of him.
Advice?? (link)
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i have been in your position before (literally and figuratively). On top, don't be afraid of going slow. Just move your body forward and backwards. If he wants to add to the momentum, he will. Don't worry!
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I need help because I've been seriously contemplating suicide. Nobody but my boyfriend knows this. Many people on this website and my boyfriend told me to talk to somebody about it. However, I'm unsure on how to do this. I don't want to mention it to my parents, because, well, they're youth pastors and I feel as if they haven't known my situation lately and I tell them it's been going on for awhile, they'll think badly of themselves. Or if I told somebody close to me, they'll think my parents shouldn't be in a position to help other teens like me. But, I don't think it's all there fault they don't know, I hide it well. I don't know how to talk to someone i know about my cutting or suicidal thoughts. Please somebody help me! I am embarrassed by my situation and I don't want somebody to think badly of my family or myself. (link)
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You are important. YOU are strong. You are worth something. You are not alone.
My parents are pastors too and I often feel the same way - that I shouldn't tell them anything about my personal problems that have been going on for a while. Guess what, they want to know. They want to make sure you are okay. Nothing means more than to know their child is okay and is in a safe place. Please tell them. Please. Why? Because you are worth so much to them. They would likely give their life for yours.
If you don't want to talk to them, find a counselor at school to confide in. Whoever it is, find someone. YOU are important. Count your blessings. Change your point of view. Taking your life is really a selfish thought. Look around you, I know you have people that care. I know you are important. Your parents want to be there for you, not be your enemy. Be honest.
YOU HAVE WORTH!
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This guy at work asked me to hangout one night after work so I told him to text me when he got out and he did but said he was too tired to hangout. He asked me to hangout two more times after that and did the same thing. Eventually we did get together and he kissed me. Now he still asks me to hangout almost every day but then cancels out, or just doesn't bring it up again. I'm so confused, why would he be acting so weird? (link)
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This is so frustrating, right?
I'm sorry you have to go through this, it's nothing you've done, so don't think it is!
He might be flaking because he is nervous, is unsure about where he wants be at (relationship wise) etc. However, you don't deserve that. I would straight up ask him what's going on. If he's being flaky now, you don't want to get into a relationship with him. You know what I'm saying?
You got this!
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Long story short, I have this uncle who has done everybody in his life wrong big time at one time or another, but I'm here because he did something to me eight years ago that hurt more than he knows. It devastated me and was the most unfair thing that's ever happened to me. I've never told him how terrible it made me feel, but now I'm having new problems in my life now because of it and the anger's coming back. I think I might tell him how I feel soon just so I can get my feelings out. The thing is, he thinks everything's fine between us and he's probably forgotten all about it. I don't want to damage our relationship, but I also don't want to have all of these feelings bottled up inside of me for the rest of my life. What should I do? (link)
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If you feel like you can't hold it in any more, you might want to see a therapist. Not that any thing is wrong with you by ANY means, but that's why they are there.
Now, if you don't want to do that, I understand. Have you tried journaling? Or maybe talking to someone you know would hold it confidential - like someone at church?
If it comes down to telling him, it seems like he has anger issues. I would make sure at least 1 other person (adult) is in the room or you are in a public place like starbucks. Set a time limit like 30 minutes and from the beginning tell him you have to be somewhere at xx:xx so it gives you a prompt time to leave the situation. Be honest, loving, and caring when you deliver the news. Let him know you were not holding a grudge, but you needed to confront him about it.
If you don't want to talk, write him a letter and leave it for him to read. Might be easier to process in writing. Be sure the reassure him that you still love him and he means a lot to you, and this shouldn't change anything.
Good luck!
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what does it mean when yuor boyfriend is looking at you like you stupid?and when he looks at one of your best friends and then look around like anything happen? (link)
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yeaaaaaah.
I mean, when us girls do that to each other - we have talked bad about the girl who recieves the stupid look, and we make eye contact with the person we talked about it with. Make sense? So i'm thinking there are some underlying convos that have taken place without you knowing. Meaning - he is not being faithful and honest with you. He is also not being honoring if he's giving you stupid looks! Best way to resolve this is to bring it up to him. Let him know that you didn't appreciate it and talk to him and your best friend (who isn't being that great of a friend).
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Okay so I'm 13 and so is my boyfriend. We've talked about kissing and he acted like he would the next time he got the chance. He has had a couple of chances but hasn't taken them. I'm to nervous to make the first move because its my first kiss and this would be his third. How do I let him know without completely just telling him? (link)
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Hey girl!
Okay, so you obviously can't MAKE him kiss you unless he wants to. Seems like he has interest, but is trying to find the right moment.
Since it's your first kiss, I'm thinking you have this fantasy of it being just so awesome with fireworks and the guy makes the move - making it super romantic... right?
Well, that can't happen unless HE makes the move. The longer you wait, the better it will get. Why? Because you BOTH will be anticipating it. It will become this treat that you get at the end of a long wait.
Some hints you can drop are - maybe talking about it again (but wait a week). Also, licking your lips casually and making eye contact, but breaking it quickly and looking down. When you are saying goodbye, pause before the hug until he grabs you to give you a hug OR KISS!! or pause after the hug and look up at him while his arms are still wrapped around you.
Hope this helps! Just be patient, the gift is waiting :)
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hey! i want to know how to have phone sex?
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Okay. Well basically, it's like having sex through the phone.
So you might want to start off slow - with what you're wearing and what your partner is wearing. Actually jacking off or rubbing yourself will help add to this!!
You will want to tell them what you want to do to your partner or what you want them to do. Then MOAN a lot! Tell them when you are about to cum and it really turns your partner on.
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I've recently got a new job and have a lot of free time there. I wanna use it for my advantage, any suggestions? (link)
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Cool! Well, if you've been on pinterest.com - there are a lot of crafts to do on there. It's actually really fun.
Also, you could sign up on ChaCha to answer all types of questions and get paid for it. It's very little, but after time you get some nice spending money!
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What does it mean, when my friend ask me if i am a virgin or not?
i have friend that asked me if i live together with my boy friend or not. and i am a virgin or not. what does he mean?
he seems like me, but i m not sure. what do you guys think?
i have boyfriend, and he knew that i have boyfriend. but why he still ask me that question. my answer is no. after that he said, virgin is not everything, but he just wants to know why want to did it. but he said, i am fine, virgin or not.
what do you guys think? (link)
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If you're a virgin, then you have not had sex (usually he means vaginal, not just oral).
If you're NOT a virign, then you have had sex.
Don't go with the guy who is asking about your virginity. He sohuld be asking that before you're dating... really.
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M/17. I was talking to this girl, and we were talking about birthdays and stuff. I told her that I thought she was older. One year older than she is now. She didn't say anything to me about it, but she started acting different after that day. Are things like that offensive? Does it say anything about me? (link)
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One year. one year? It's not that big of a deal. Maybe 5 or more is quite offensive, but one year isn't. Honestly, look back at pics of you from one year ago.... you probably look the same.
Don't take it personally. She has some issues if she is mad at your for being a YEAR off!! It will be okay.
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I don't know how to pleasure my girlfriend really fast during sex,, we want to try some new stuff and I want some tips please!!! (link)
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The clit is key.
Kissing her at first and getting really hot with it turns a lot of females on. Start by doing that with tongue and touching her neck, butt, boobs, and stomach. Those are sensitive spots. Then move to her clit. That HAS to turn her on!
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I feel more pathetic and useless than I can tell you and I feel like the only thing I'm talented at is screwing up. I'm almost 25 years old and I live with my parents, I dropped out of college, I suck at my career, I screw up SO many things that I try including school, relationships, jobs, ect.. I suck as a person, a friend, a girlfriend, a sister, and sometimes a daughter and I don't feel pretty, skinny, smart, responsible, or talented enough for most people. I am going to do my best to get another job so that I can buy a car. I haven't had a car in two years because I'm too stupid and too much of a loser to have the money for one. I have had a terrible year because of scares with my health and the health of some loved ones. Everything has turned out fine, but a couple weeks ago, I had one stessful day after another and when I thought it was over, I was there when someone I love was injured and that night, I had an anxiety attack. I thought I was having a heart attack. I don't have the money for a counselor, so I tried online counseling, but the only counselor who bothered to email me back told me that I have a twisted way of looking at life and didn't help me. What can I do to get help? (link)
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Hello beautiful woman!
YOU are making yourself feel this way. It's about perspective. When you think you are pathetic, useless, and untalented - take a look at how you are veiwing life. Don't be pessimistic. I assure you, you're not the worst. I assure you, you are not useless. You are meant to do something great. I could easily look at my life and say the exact same things as you, but I don't. Why? Perspective. Why would I live in a world that says, I can't when I have confidence that I can?
It's cliche, but you have more than those kids in Ghana who can't even afford food or running water. You have more than the guy down the street who sits at the corner begging for money. You have been blessed with so much, but it's the way you've began to look at it. Is it not enough? Are you striving for way more instead of sitting and realizing you have ENOUGH?
Look at yourself, I bet you are infact beautiful, fun, loving, caring, and honoring to those around you. Count your blessings. You don't suck as a friend, you don't suck as a girlfriend - if you really thing you do, then why do these people still stay around you? Probably because you don't suck!
You can do this. Look on the bright side of things.
Think of how many things you have been blessed with.
It's just this season of life. Strive through it.
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Okay. I'm a freshman,
Female.
And I run cross country and may run track.
My classes are :
Theater, Spanish 2, physical science, English, introduction to visual arts, enriched geometry, & American history.
Can you give me some advice,
Personal stories, relationship advice, experiences to not miss out on , and some standard school tips.
PLEASE AND THANK YOU :) (link)
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Yeah! High School!
The pros:
You're not this annoying middle schooler any more.
You have more responisbilities.
There's a sea of people in high school you will probably never meet.
You get to decide how you want to start off the rest of your life.
You choose who you want to hang with, what crowd, how you will probably act in college (not all the time....).
It's fun.
You have time to experience many things.
You'll love it at times.
It's up to you how you want your high school years to turn out.
Teachers can baby you a lot.
You get a feel for what you may like to do later in life.
You make lots of friends.
The cons:
There's still drama (but you can stay out of it).
There will be breakdowns.
You will hate it at times.
People are rude.
You will learn study habits ... good and bad.
Teachers will be mean sometimes.
Fights.
Getting up early, staying late
There will be a group of people you won't be fond of.
You decide how your years will go! I have lots of friends who skipped prom. DON'T DO IT. You only get to go to prom once with your class - GO!! Don't worry too much about relationships - half the time they won't last the other half your heart will be broken and you'll realize far too late that it wasn't worth it. If one comes along then GREAT! but don't set your high school goal on finding a guy - college brings many many guys together!! Don't forget to have fun. Stay with a good crowd - no drugs, drinking etc, but have so much fun!
You can do it!! :)
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This guy that I've been working at a restaurant with has FINALLY asked me out after months of flirting and a couple weeks of texting. We've both been dying to see Batman, so that's what we're going to do. Hes almost 20, as I'm still a senior in High school. He's the cool, laid back partier. He went to a large High school and from what I hear was very popular. I have partied before and am somewhat considered popular or well known in my small high school and the only negative thing about me is that im very self concious about my weight (im 5'7 and plus sized, but I'm deff not a whale) so anyways I am SUPER nervous about how this date will go! Can anyone give me their experience on a first date, or a movie date? This sounds so middle school-ish but what if he tries to kiss me? Haha thanks guys (link)
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Okay, so first date, oh yeah!!
Well, the good things is that you are seeing a movie. If things are awkward you don't have to talk :)
You can feel out how the night will go through the movie. Maybe he makes a funny joke during some parts or sits close to you. You will alos have something to talk about after the movie!!
Just remember:
it's a first date, be yourself, be the person he asked out!
relax.
don't think you have to impress him - you already have!!
don't ramble on and on.
keep the convo going.
smile.
giggle.
look him in the eyes!
HAVE SO MUCH FUN!!
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I have a friend that I like alit He told me that he likes me also but now after a convo that we had he now tells me that we should be friends nothing more. But its not as easy as he thinks it could be , we have been sexually active with each other . He its the first person I did alot of sexual things with ! I don't want too be only his friend I want too be more but now he questions if we can move forward because of what I said ! What should I do? (link)
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So many times guys will just blow you off after doing sex stuff. it's ridiculous. If he really cares for you he wouldn't be doing that. I mean he's not going to change very much from his stance now. I would either talk to him straight up and tell him how you're feeling and ask him WHY he's doing what he's doing or move on. You can do better!
Good luck
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i like this guy named eli hes really cute and we like the same things but i dont know if he likes me i see him a lot but we dont go to the same schools ill see him later but im not sure what to say or how to pick up if he likes me please help
i am a female and eli is a male and we are both just beggining middleschool (link)
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Oh middle school love!
Well, some practical things to do is to just flirt. Don't go over the top with it because it will seem cheesy, but be yourself with a little flirty in ya. You can say things you know he will respond to so you get a chance to talk to him, leave and see if he notices, or even sit somewhere and see if he sits by you.
All of those things will help you realize if he is interested, but nothing will tell you if he really is unless you ask him! I know that's hard, maybe ask one of his friends or get some alone time with him and see how he feels.
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My best friend is copying me.
Ugh it's just everything I do, everything I say.
Whenever I start obsessing over something, she obsesses over it to.
She crushes on my crushes-fine-but then she says really stupid and irritating things like "We SHARE Johnny."
Like, WHAT!?
She knows NOTHING about Harry Potter, but she claims she is a witch-like me-and goes on about it. And the worst thing is this: My OTHER friend who HATES Harry Potter asks her "do you like Harry Potter"?" and I heard her reply is "no"
She does that ALL the time. Let's call her F and my other friend A. A hates the shops that I shop in, F claims to love them (after I told her that i shop in them) and then A (who is quite popular) says she DOESN'T like them and F agrees. Then F tells me how she thinks that A has bad taste. I asked her about this once and she said she just doesn't want to get in a fight.
I'm not an emo but people say I am and F thinks I am (I don't say anything about it) so F goes on about how emo she is and everything, when she's clearly not.
This time, it's my Pirates of the Caribbean obsession. I know how to play the theme tune on the piano, I have a Captain Jack hat, etc. I am a huge POTC fan. And now she's saying that she is as well.
She hasn't even watched all of them. She just emailed me, like right now, "Am watching potc 1. Biggest fan ever."
NO. NO. NO. NO. NO.
And also, I started reading the LotR books, everyone called me a nerd including her, now she is reading them too, but tells me not to tell anyone, but also tells me she's a bigger fan than I am because she "wants to marry Legolas"
She really gets on my nerves.
Another annoying thing she does is yells out everything that I say to her.
You know when you say something incredibly stupid and embarrassing without thinking? That happens all the time to me. She just tells everyone unless I grab her by the arm and drag her out of the room, begging her to shut up about it. THEN she shuts up.
Despite all this...she's a good friend. She sticks up for me and everything.
But I just need some advice...how shall I deal with her annoyingness? (link)
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Well let's start with the basics:
She doesn't know who she really is.
She thinks you are just the coolest thing.
OHH YEAH! haha
To deal with her, you have to let her know what bothers you. Just casually bring up, "I heard you really don't like these stores." and almost back her into a corner so she has to admit it that she's lying. Let her know it's okay to not like it, but don't try to copy you in everything. I would cut the amount of time you spend with her. Of course, keep being friends (if that's what you want), but limit the time and what you do with her.
:)
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Hi i recently had sex with my bf but we used protection n were very careful ... but the thing is .. we had sex when my periods were due ... but they have come yet ... which freaked me out so i started doing aggressive exercise ... like running and with a personal trainer n still the periods r not here yet .. i dont have any breast pain nor do i feel sick ... we talked bout it but he said that nothing happened ... n i know the more stress i take the likely it will get postpones and hence m trying to stay cool bout it .. but i still need ur advice .. wat do u think? it has been about 10 days since the last time i had sex .. pls help (link)
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well, take a preggo test.
also, sometimes periods tend to be late due to stress and excesive exercise. so don't fret too much!
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Hey, so i'm going to be a senior in high school next year, and I like this guy who will be a freshman in college next year. i don't think we should go out, but he doesn't think it would matter. Is this a bad idea? I mean he'll be two hours away, and it won't be easy to be in such different stages in our lives. I mean, we aren't going out yet, but there has been talk about it. We are both attracted to each other, but I just don't think it's a great idea... (link)
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Alright, so i'm in college. I'm not some weird old person or a weird young chick haha.
Dating someone that is a year older than you is not a crime. yes, he will be college and yes, it is a HUGE difference from high school, but if you two like each other and WANT to do long distance dating - then do it. if not, i would hold off a year and if he likes you as much as it sounds - you shouldn't be worried because he will be willing to wait. if he doesn't want to wait and you don't feel comfortable with long distance, he's not worth it.
So the whole high school and college thing - no biggie. you have to learn to trust. the whole long distance thing is extremely hard.
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Okay, well when I was about 10 my brother started playing with me. I mean in my vajaja. Well, as I got older it started to give me more and more pleasure. Well, he told me to get on the floor with him one night and he 69 it. Meaning I had to give him a blow job and he started liking and tounging my vajaja. I think its wrong but don't want my parents to find out and I have to get birthcontrol pills and the doctor looks down there! Please HELP!!! (link)
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HI!
okay, this is illegal. you should stop. your bro can get in some serious trouble.
STOP IT!!
if you haven't had sex, your doctor has no reason to look down under, but if you have - i'm sorry, tell the truth. go to see a therapist or something about this issue. please!!
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