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Annoying friend...
My best friend is copying me.
Ugh it's just everything I do, everything I say.
Whenever I start obsessing over something, she obsesses over it to.
She crushes on my crushes-fine-but then she says really stupid and irritating things like "We SHARE Johnny."
Like, WHAT!?
She knows NOTHING about Harry Potter, but she claims she is a witch-like me-and goes on about it. And the worst thing is this: My OTHER friend who HATES Harry Potter asks her "do you like Harry Potter"?" and I heard her reply is "no"
She does that ALL the time. Let's call her F and my other friend A. A hates the shops that I shop in, F claims to love them (after I told her that i shop in them) and then A (who is quite popular) says she DOESN'T like them and F agrees. Then F tells me how she thinks that A has bad taste. I asked her about this once and she said she just doesn't want to get in a fight.
I'm not an emo but people say I am and F thinks I am (I don't say anything about it) so F goes on about how emo she is and everything, when she's clearly not.
This time, it's my Pirates of the Caribbean obsession. I know how to play the theme tune on the piano, I have a Captain Jack hat, etc. I am a huge POTC fan. And now she's saying that she is as well.
She hasn't even watched all of them. She just emailed me, like right now, "Am watching potc 1. Biggest fan ever."
NO. NO. NO. NO. NO.
And also, I started reading the LotR books, everyone called me a nerd including her, now she is reading them too, but tells me not to tell anyone, but also tells me she's a bigger fan than I am because she "wants to marry Legolas"
She really gets on my nerves.
Another annoying thing she does is yells out everything that I say to her.
You know when you say something incredibly stupid and embarrassing without thinking? That happens all the time to me. She just tells everyone unless I grab her by the arm and drag her out of the room, begging her to shut up about it. THEN she shuts up.
Despite all this...she's a good friend. She sticks up for me and everything.
But I just need some advice...how shall I deal with her annoyingness?
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Well let's start with the basics:
She doesn't know who she really is.
She thinks you are just the coolest thing.
OHH YEAH! haha
To deal with her, you have to let her know what bothers you. Just casually bring up, "I heard you really don't like these stores." and almost back her into a corner so she has to admit it that she's lying. Let her know it's okay to not like it, but don't try to copy you in everything. I would cut the amount of time you spend with her. Of course, keep being friends (if that's what you want), but limit the time and what you do with her.
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ive had friends like this and it is annoying.i am emo,and a lot of people do copy me even though im not popular watsoever and i just ignore their attitude and make new friends.i would ditch this girl and hang out with some new people that may not want to idolize you but u get along with.this girl sounds very irrratating,and i wouldnt be able to stand her.maybe try some new things,and she wont copy.this happened to me and people told me that copping is the best form of flattery,so she probably just idolizes you.
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I think you need to make her realize what she's
doing is wrong and that it's annoying you it seems
to me like she isn't realizing her mistake and is
continuing to copy you speak up and tell her what she's doing you aren't liking if you don't then she'll continue to copy you thinking it's alright to do when it's not tell her she needs to be her own person like her own things and her copying you is annoying you and you'd like for her to stop i think in a way she wants to be like you seeing as you two are best friends she could also look up to you too tell her how you feel otherwise if you don't she won't know she isn't a mind reader :)
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You should tell her you guys need to talk and sit her down and explain to her what she is doing is annoying. She needs to stop being your twin and she needs to be your best friend who needs to do what she loves not what you love. You also need to ask her how many close friends she had before you. I say that because usually when people copy things there best friend do is mainly because they never had a best friend before or someone so close like with what you guys have and she's afraid of losing that.Like you said she don't want to start arguments. That could be why she agrees and does everything you say. She's afraid of losing you. She probably never had someone close like you and she feels that if you guys argue that she will lose this closeness she has with you. You have to sit her down and tell her to follow what she believes in not what you believe in and reassure her. That even though you guys have arguments you will continue to be her best friend, but she has to stop doing everything that your doing or she's going to start losing you slowly with her annoyingness.
hope i helped out your situation :)
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