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you said one time that your cherry can get popped from riding horses or bike riding or anything.. well can it get popped from like dancing and jumping up and down or can it get popped from getting kneed down there? I just need to know because about two weeks ago i thought i had started my period.. and then i started it today.. is this normal? and how long will you bleed after you get your cherry popped?
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no i wouldnt say you popped it, you just started ur period. when you first get it it stops and starts alot dont worry its normal,and when you pop your cherry it doesnt bleed alot, just a little and not for long i would say like a min

hope i helped *


ok so im a 13 year old girl and theres this guy at my school. hes name is kyle. hes sooo cute but he can be a little , lets call it, childish. hes my best freind in the whole world but i like him more than a freind. we'v been freinds for about 2 years or so and we tell each other everything. i realy like kyle but im not sure if he likes me the same way i like him. and im to scared to talk to him about it. so what do i do?

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i know this is hard, but you need to tell him.. you may not have to go up to him and say i like you, but flirt with him, let him know that you want to be more than his friend..wear really cute clothes and make sure he notices you in a different way. i hope i helped* xoxo


i want to dance like to hip hop music, is there a website i can go to? ( dont tell me to google search it ) but my friends tell me i need to loosen up and stuff and idk how to do that lol thanks!
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tell your friends to help you to dance, a website isnt going to do ne thing lol hope i helped


you have referred the course sit erect,lean forward, answer the question--- course, can i know where it is avaiable in south indian, is it possible to learn in online or through email, because i can't go anywere to learn this because of my responsible position in an volunteering organisation. can you help me furher, or is there any books avaialable or is there any web site regarding this? (link)
slant is not a course, i learned slant while i was in school and the course is called study skills and is only offered in some areas, about teaching kids how to study more efficent. i just told you slant so maybe it would help you with your listening skills. im sorry for the confusion hope i helped.


me aged 35, very intense , emotional, having communication problems withmy coligues. i am too attached with everything that i do. my interpretations are always wrong. i never listen and always me want totalk. is there any wayto improve my listening capacity. and is there any simple techniques that i can follow and remind myself tothe goal to increas e my listening power (link)
ok its called S.L.A.N.T. Sit erect, Lean forward, Answer questions,Nod, and Track with eyes. i learned this from a course called study skills. i hope this helpes. - -


15/f

I just had sex for my first time 2 nights ago. I'd like to get checked by the doctor for any diseases. Is it possible for me to ask a doctor and get a test done without my parents knowing anything? Including the results. Even if the results came out positive, I want it to be kept secret. Do you know if doctors tell parents this kind of information? (link)
you can always go to the doctors and get tested without your parents permission and if you find out the results you can hide it from your parents also. but if you are positive, for treatment you need parents permission. -- i am positive that this information is reliable. hope i helped - -


13/f
Hey..I need help!- -there is a new years party that i was invited to and i really want to go..i want to go because all my friends are allowed to go..and my b/f is gonna be there..i also want to see my b/f really bad because i invited him out tomorrow night, but hes going to be out of town with his family, so we cant do that! but anyways, my parents wont let me go to the party..becuz its a new years party, and ive offered my mom to talk to her mom..but she says no..and i even asked if i could get a ride with one of my friends there..cause my mom said she doesnt like driving on new years eve..so this sucks..they say no to everything in the first place, so i really wanted to go this for once. and plus they arent gonna have drinking there..my parents were concerned about that..omg..we are 13! were not gonna go get drunk..ughh its so gay..but please give me sum advice on how to ask my mom..and please dont say talk to her about it..because i already have..so yea..thanks for ur help- - (link)
well ask your mom WHY NOT and then put "holes" in her answers liek you said, i can get a ride there because there are drunks on the road. you could sneak over there. not something you probobly want to do, but it can be done just say your going to one of your friends house who isnt going to the party. and then go over there. or you can suck up lol. do chores anything and prove to her that you are responsible to go to a party even thought its not drinking or anything. are your parents really strict lol? well i hope i helped a lil. - -


I am a vegitarian (not a vegan, I still consume dairy products and seafood) does anyone know of good recipes that can be eaten on a lowcarb or better yet no carb diet, I'm tired of cooking and eating the same thing, I need some new ideas..Please post your responces if you have any suggestions..Thank you ..and HAPPY HOLIDAYS! (link)
um go to recipes.com or google some. i dont know any personally. hope i helped - -


i was just wondering how old do u have to be to be able tolike get your own apartment? because i dont wanna live at home anymore and like could i go on welfare or something??

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im not sure if you can do this in the U.S. but in canada you can move out and live on your own if you have papers from court saying that you can, and you like go on welfare and they pay for you in the apartment. why would you want to move out anyways? you should really wait until your 18 and i know like everyone else has said this to you and you really dont want to hear it again but its the right thing to do so you can support yourself. and depending on why you want to move out of your appartment like if a parent is abusing you thats a totally different story so then deffinetly go to court. hope i helped- -


i want a haircut where i have side swept bangs, and a short cut in the back(my hair is curly but i can straighten the bangs) and i cant seem to find any pictures of that...can someone help me!?


or if not pictures, how do i explain that to the stylist? (i stink at explaining things like that) (link)
ok well i dont know who has hair like that sry!? um but you can explain it like, i want side sweep bangs and make sure she knows that because i told my hair stylist that and i did not get side sweept bangs so i was pissed. im not sure how you want the back..um like short layers? hope i helped - -


I love my job and the people I work with. The money is nice too. I don't HAVE to work because I am on a disability pension for having schixophrenia but I WANTED to go back to work because I needed more money and was getting bored. No one at the job knows about my disability by the way.
Well the problem is that even though I really enjoy my job and I'm good at it ( I'm a sales associate in the clothing department) my boss can be very intimidating and downright MEAN. I've heard from the other girls that she has sweared at people when there stuff was in her way. She yelled at me about two months ago for holding the clothing wrong. Well we had been getting along a little bit better the last couple of weeks but on boxind day she blasted me for not getting some work done on time for the boxing day sale. She was really hard on me and I almost burst into tears. Now I'm scared she may fire me.
How can I get her to be nicer to me? I work as hard as I can but nothing seems to satisfy her. She wasnt just mad at me though.
Does anyone have any suggestions? (link)
well ur boss is a bitch and you have to get used to it, dont let what she says intimidate you and maybe tell her about your disability so she goes eisier on you if your that worried about it. hope i helped - - michelle


My father died about 3 years ago and now I am going out with this boy that is a lot like him...is that a bad thing? I mean I love him but he is just...a lot like my dad! Am I being stupid going out with him or is it like a bad ideas or something? I have these feelings like he is going to leave me, but I thought that maybe that is just because my dad "left" me...I don't know...I'm confusing...I know! But I would really like any help I can get!thanks! (link)
um if i were you i wouldnt like to go out with someone who reminded me of my dad for that reason and because if you like kiss him... well and you think about your dad, um eww. anyways it might be a bad idea that you two go out because if he leaves, you might get real depressed and act like your dad is leaving you again. hope i helped - -


I dont really have friends and I know its all about conversation but I kinda get stuck on what to talk about. I dont do anything during vacations or weekends. What should I do to get me communicating better (link)
well you're right about the communication part. maybe you can join some clubs and after school activities. i have trouble with talking to people sometimes too. you just have to casually bring something up like -- are you going to the concert this weekend? and see if they like the band or not or just something suddle and eventually people just click. i hope i helped and if you need anymore advice you can ask me anytime--my email is sweetazcandy8d9@aol.com. - -


My best friend Rachel and I are in this thing at school where we help new students. A new girl came and she was really cool her name was Ashley. She always hangs out with Rachel now and Rachel always avoids me and now they are best friends and always exclude me in activites. Should I talk to Rachel? Ehh (link)
yeah you should definetly talk to her and tell her how you feel and ask he ro include you in the things they do. it might be hard but you should do it. i understand that she has a new friend but she shouldnt exclude you from everything they do even if ashley is her new bf. hope everything works out - -


when i am with my friends i am really outgoing because im like comfortable with them you know? and also im a huge flirt. ok so people tell me that i think im the sh*t and i think im so cool and pretty and all of the boys love me. but thats not the case. what should i do because this is causing me a lot of trouble. it really sucks that people think that of me. please help. thank you ♥ (link)
well maybe you should try to not be so flirty with everybody..and try not to be too self absorbed and i mean that in the nicest way.hope i helped - -


Okay, I'm moving to Maryland, and I've recently become obsessed with this guy I'm gonna meet there. I know I'm going to fall in love with him, and I half have already. I don't know who he is, what he looks like, or anything. I just know he's there.

Am I insane? Ridiculously desperate for companionship? (I'm really not.) Or can there be truth to the words "I loved you before I ever met you."? (link)
well i can understand that you could be excited to move and eventually you're going to meet a guy but maybe you have a feeling that you will find someone for you by the way i hope you do.
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alright.. My boyfriend was saying goodbye over the internet and he said I love you so much and i said i love you more & i'll see you tomorrow & then he said "in that we must agree to disagree." what does that mean?

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um maybe he sent it to the wrong im? or maybe he had to do something that day and you forgot but agree to disagree means like he is nt going to see you tomorrow.. but im confused why he would say that. hope i helped - -


ok.this is a pretty long story so sorry.
heres the basic information
Theres this guy named daniel,we first met at the mall. and then i found out that he went to my school and stuff. so we started talking more and more on aim. and we became like the best of friends ever. and i could already tell from there that i completely was going to be in love with him. because little things would get us both completely jealous. so we just started hagning out more and more. and every time we got a little but more flirty. and it was fun and all. but then like. i told him how i felt about him and it turned out he felt the same. then from there we were unseperable. but its weird we both knew we were completely in love with each other. but we just remained the greatest friends. he was soo adorable. he would do anything to make me happy. then soon i really dont know what happened. one night he askeed me who i liked. bc in my profile it had said "single, but completely in love with him" so of course i thought he was kidding bc the only person i told i love you to was him. so i just thought he wanted to be like reasured that i liked him. so then i said i tell you everyday who i love..its you. and hes like i love you too. and i would do anything for you. and you treat me really good and i just want to make you happy. so i thought ok maybe hes going to ask me out. and then all of a sudden he just says. but i dont think it will work out. i know. complete shocker. but he was like i love our friendship we have and i dont know what i would do if we broke up. so i think we should remain great friends. of course hearing that. i was hurt. cause as many times as he told me he loved me. i guess he really didnt mean it like i did. but i cryed alot then. cause i knew things werent going to be the same. and i couldnt believe he actually told me i love you but we need to be friends. but heres the point. now we barely talk, and when we do he just teases me. and i use to think it was cute. now its just completely annoying. and he just doesnt get it that i dont like it.and its defintaly not the same anymore. were not as good friends as before. and i want to change that completely. i want him to be able to talk to me about everything again, and be the one he can joke with, and stuff. i love him to death. as friends of course. and i really need his friendship. but he just seems to not give it to me. and i really need help to get him back as being at least a regualr friend again. anything will help.rank 5 for any advice (link)
well i know this is hard, but you need to tell him that you are over him. even if your not. at least that gets the weirdness out of the way so you guys can be friends again. if he doesnt want to be more than friends you need to move on and find someone else to like. it might take a while but at least you'll have him as a friend. - - hope i helped


Hey!
so i always feel that i'm competing with my cousin. She is 14 and i'm 15 turning 16 in 8 days..lol..anyway i got my hair highlited and then she did..i'm having a sweet 16 and she is haveing one..and my aunt is always talkin about her and everything she does..i don't want to sound mean, but i like to look better then her..what are some things i can do to have them notice me and what i do? any cute oufit ideas that might make me lok older and more mature? any cute hair styles...thanks in any way you can help!! (link)
ok hair: long layers with side sweep bangs with some highlights and some low lights soulderlength or longer.

Clothes: hollister or abercrombie, the layered look is always cute. anything with sequins or rhinestones. get french manicure and if u cant get them professionally done, glue ons work magic.

ohh and cute shoes and handbags are everything now! like some cute black slides with pointed toe or some silver/gold flats.

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hey im 14 and well my mom doesnt really let me go out shes very picky and i was wondering if maybe anybody knows ways to go out with out making it obvious. (link)
im going to grandma's...im going to the library...im staying after school i wont be home until later, im staying at a friends house- - hope i helped




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