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Q: I'm 16 and i've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now. But recently i've started hanging out with a friend of a friend who i've known for about 6 months now..and i think i might have feelings for him..(ive talked with him and he has feelings for me..)my boyfriend and i fight a lot..we almost spend more time fighting than we do having a good time together...hes almost 18 and has talked about us getting married and i love him but i'm only 16 and i'm not ready to think about that yet...and i'm not sure what to do..should i ignore my possible feelings or should i take a break with my boyfriend and see if we really are "meant to be" ?

well if u "love" your boyfriend, you wouldnt break it off in the first place

Q: Okay, so me and this guy have been best friends for like 4 years... I mean he is my BEST FRIEND! And I can pretty much tell him anything... but why can't I let him know he means everything to me? Yea.. thats right Im in love with my best friend, you see, i liked him when i first met him... and after he let me know he wasn't into me, i just gave up...but ive liked him ever since, and now im like in love with him! WHAT DO I DO!?

talk to him and see who he likes! and tell him how u feel about him

Q: What Shood I Do If I Have A Girl Im In Love With But I Broke Up With Her About 5 Months Ago Because My Frens Didnt Like Her And Now I Want Her BAck More Than Ever?

well.. what means more to you, what your friends think, or what you feel? think about that

Q: I tend to get paranoid very easily. For example, I will think my boyfriend doesnt like me, or thatI have no friends or that people are always talking about me. Everyone says I'mbeing stupid but I really believe it. Any advice?

think positive about things, like don't put yourself down and stuff.

Q: Ok so I have this bf. Here's a sophomore and I'm a freshman. Some days he treats me good by talkin to me, holding my hand, walking me to class, and all that cute stuff that gurls like guyz to do. Then other days hes a total dick. Sometimes he wont even say hi to me and if i do get the chance to talk to him he juss walks away cuz he doesnt like to hang out with my freshman friends. I've learned how to blow it off but it still pisses me off. A couple weeks ago one of my closest friends said she saw him totally flirting with my worst enemy. I confronted him bout it and he totally denied it. I really want to beleive that hes telling me the truth but alot of people have told me that hes always all over other gurls. The people that tell me this are some of my closest friends and I know that they wuld never lie to me. All of my friends say that I should break up with him because he doesnt treat me good and I'm starting to beleive them. I still kinda have feelings for him but I'm not shure if I still wanna be with him. Plz help!!!

try to talk to him about it!! lemme know what happens.. sorry it took me so long to respond!

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for around 3 and a half months. I really like him and he says he feels the same but we never talk. He acts like all he cares about is seeing how far he can go with me. When we are not hugging or kissing, we just stand around not talking. We just never have anything to talk about. I don't want to break up with him because I really like him but our relationship is based on physical contact and no emotional support. So what should I do?

If thats not what you want in a relationship then talk to him about it. Being able to talk to your boyfriend is a MAJOR part in a relationship. Tell him that you think you guys should talk more. And if that gets you no where, then break it off and find someone better

Q: so i like this guy and we have talked alot and i think he likes me but i can't tell for sure, he said that he thought i was hot. but i dont want to get involved because he has had a girlfriend for 3 months! although he did failed to tell me this when we talked about it and i think he didn't tell me for a reason (saying that i have a chance) he also says that we should hang out and stuff but i dunno if i should ...i talked to one of his freinds about it but he wasn't any help he didn't tell me to stop liking him or to stop trying ..... what do you think? should i stop trying or just keep trying and maybe somehtign will happen

If he has a girlfriend.... I wouldn't keep trying. But talk to him about it first. And if he does end up liking you, tell him he is not being fair to his girlfriend. Just try not to get in the middle of things. You know what I mean? Like I have been in that situation before, and it's really hard. I guess I kinda just went with the flow.

Q: Ok... I'm 16 and a chick. Well my high school is really cool. There aren't that many cliques... except for one. The girls are all blonds, stick figures, and worry about every little thing. I'm friend with one of them. She's really awesome, I used to be friends with the rest of them to. Well like whenever I talk to my friend all the girls at the "table" just like totally give me the eye. Then there's the original "Queen Bee". I really just want to show them that they shouldn't judge on what people wear and stuff like that. Basically, I don't know how to make them like me. If one of them does, shouldn't the others?

Don't try to get someone to like you. That's not being true to yourself. Im sure your an awsome girl and if they dont like you then it's there loss!! But don't change who you are just to fit in. That gets you no where in life.

Q: I've asked advice from you before and it's really helped. Thank you! But I do have another question for you. I have a bf and I like him alot. The problem is he's kinda rushing me into doing stuff that I'm not ready or can't do. See, I have a promise ring and the promise was to stay abstinent until marriage. I made this promise to God, my mom, and myself. I'm about to tell my bf but I'm not shure wat his response will be. I don't want to be holding him bak from doing stuff that I can't do, but I'm committed to not breaking this promise. Should I tell my bf about the promise ring? If so, what if he breaks up with me? I'm also scared that if other guys find out that I have this promise that no one will want to go out with me cuz I'm saving myself for marriage! I know you give good advice and I really need help! Thanx!!!

Hey girl! Thanks for coming back! hehe. Ok, about the whole promise ring thing, if the guy your with doesn't respect you enough to understnad about it, then he's not worth your time, and you deserve better. But talk to him about it and see what his response is. If he understands then he is a keeper! hehe... but if he is a dick about it, he doesnt deserve you in the first place! hope everything works out!!!

Q: I'm 13 and i have gone out with this boy i really liked him and he was my first boyfriend but he dump me and now i don't want to go out with anyone because i have losed my confidence and scared i'm going to be rejected

Every once in a while you will have a break up that will cause you heart ache. But you just need to move on and find someone that will treat you right. You are only 13! You have plenty of years to find the right guy!! So my suggestion is keep looking! You will find a good one! I promise!

Q: do you ever plan to have sex with your boyfriend or even get close to having sex. what age should you have sex at and how do you know that you should

That is personal. But I dont plan on having sex until I am married.

Q: hello! me and my boyfriend have dated for 3 months and then we broke up. But know we started dating again. And know he is different, he wont touch me i always have to grab him. like grab his hand if i want to hold it. what should i do?

Talk to him about it. Ask him whats going on.. and why he wont do these things. Talking about things always helps!!!

Q: Ok so I am dating this guy and he's really sweet and he's always doing stuff that will make me happy. But theres also times that hes a dick..but thats juss how guys are. Anywaz..me and this guy have been going out for a cople months..the problem is I like someone else. Like alot!! But the guy that I like has a gf but it seems like he likes me too. I dont know wat to do. Should I stay with my bf? Should I tell the other guy how I feel? Help!!!

You should tell your boyfriend that you like someone else. That is not fair if you hide things from him. And also the other guy you like deserves to know that you like him! And if you think he likes you too then talk to him about it, but if he has a girlfriend talk to her about it, adn tell her that it seems like "such and such" has been happening. So she doesnt end up getting hurt.

Q: I like this girl. Shes so awesome and over a lil time weve become pretty close. She was with my friend for a while. and i didnt start talking to her until they had been going out for some time. but something like happened and we just started talking for hours each night about everything. Her bf wasnt to happy about this and got mad at me and was for a while, didnt want me and her to be friends or anything. Its wierd i dunno what to do cuase they sorta broke up and now i dont know what she wants. and neither do i, cause i like her, but i dont want to get my friend mad again. has anything like this happened to u before?

Hey, I would just give it time. What means more to you? Your friendship with your friend or the girl? Just think of it that way.

Q: ok.. so i have 2 cars right one car costs 16,000$ and depreciates at a rate of 8% a year, my second car costs 20,000$ and depriciates at a rate of 10.5% a year. How many years will pass before car A is equal in value to car B? Very important

is this like your math homework or something? lol

Q: Okay here is my problem, I have a boyfriend and i was sorta upset... i shouldn't of done what i did..... i went down to my ex boyfriend's house and i was talking to him and then one thing led to another and we sorta kissed... okay we did kiss ALOT! I love my boyfriend with all my heart and i am afriad if i don't tell him what happened that my ex will, so he could break me and him up! So should i tell him or not.... maybe i could get away with him not knowing and everything will be fine! But then again i am always thinking about it and it gets to me. Please help me Thanks alot.

Dont ever think about getting away with something like that, that's horrible. Tell you boyfriend, that's the right thing to do.

Q: my friend ( i just found out ) hasnt eaten in 3 days....we think she is trying 2 become anerexic...even though she is really skinny....she said she cuts herself 2...me and my friend malerie dont no wat we can do 2 help her....i offer her food but she doesnt take it....and she always seems depressed

Talk to her about it, if that doesnt work tell her parents and get her some help.

Q: I don't know what to do I have been chewing for abou 5 months now and i need to quit but everytime i try i can't. Do you have any suggestions to help me quit?

I don't really know. I have never chewed before, so I wouldn't know how hard it is to quit. Maybe just set a goal to start chewing less and less each day and maybe eventually you will quit

Q: there is this gurl that i think is like perfect but i don't know how to find out if she likes me with out lookin like a dumbass so how would i go about find out if she likes me or would even go out with me ?
thanks

Tell her how you feel and see how she feels about you.. you'll never know until you tell her!!! Dont worry you wont look like a dumbass!

Q: do u think that it is possible for a sophmore to date a senior?

Everything is possible. My cousin dated one and still is dating her =)

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