I am just a girl. I am no special person. My friends have always asked me for advice, I have always been pretty good at giving it. I am a Christian. Sometimes that influences my advice, sometimes it doesn't. My mother has always told me I should work for a teen help hotline. I love helping people, it makes me feel like I'm useful.
E-mail: enchanted.enigma@yahoo.com
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Age: 17
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lately the friends ive been hangin out with for like a year have been gettin on my nerves. i mean like my x best friend is now like the person i most avoid because of how annoyin she has become, or was she always that way and i never noticed till now.all these ppl that i thought id be friends with for like ever, are now very annoying and i jsut dont want to have anything to do with em. i want to go and make new friends but does that make me a bad peron for ditchin em for other ppl? (link)
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This could mean you are maturing a little bit quicker or that your interests are changing. Definately broaden your horizons with some new friends, but it's always great to keep the old ones around. Never burn a bridge you might need to cross in the future. Just distance yourself a little bit for now and make some new friends. As time passes you may want some of those "ex-best friends" around.
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Hello,
I have just a short and quite simple question. When ever I start to like a guy and I find out that he likes me back I begin to get this what I think of as a scared feeling. And right now i found this guy who is amamzing. he's so sweet and would never hurt me or anything. but when i'm around him i get scared and almso ask myself could i be in a relationship with him? but then when i'm away from him i can't wait for his texts or hugs or just to see him and i don't understand why this happens with me and guys. i think maybe i'm scared to commit to a guy and have a boyfriend who's mine and i'm theirs but i don't know where the commitment issues are coming from. any suggestions or thoughts. hell i'll even take comments. i'll take anything.
THANK YOU =]
btw. i'm 16/f (link)
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When you feel insecure with yourself or if you have been hurt in the past, you may tend to pull away when you find yourself getting close. Just be sure to take things slow and don't rush into s relatinship before you are ready. If he truly cares about you he will understand that these things may take time.
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i think i might be Schizophrenic. Sometimes when i see something like a kitten, i cant help but to think "kill it!" or stupid stuff. it goes a lot worser then that like, stuff i dont actually feel, but i cant help to think about it. then i try and get rid of the thought but i cant. eventually it will go but it keeps popping into my mind. like my mind keeps thinking it, but i dont want to. like really sick thoughts. also, since a a few years ago, i develop stupid habits like shaking my head, heavy breathes, twitching. if i dont do these things sometimes, its like the feeling you get when you hold your breath for about 5 seconds, you just have to breath, or in my case, twitch etc. Sometimes i can go without doing it, when i dont think about it, but when i do, i have to do it.
Also, sometimes i hear stuff, like high frequency beeps, while im in bed. i normally cant get to bed and lie there for an hour before i do, and during that time is when i hear it.
im just wonderin, is it Schizophrenia? or anything else? (link)
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I'm not sure about the noises or weird thoughts, but the urge to do things like twitch or shake your head sounds like a form of OCD.
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So i went to the dermatologist and they put me on acne medication adn told me it would make my skin bad for a few weeks before it got better. So my skin did get alittle bad but now its perfect. The only problem is i have left over scars from where i had acne. They actually arent really scars, they are just discolorations like a dark pinkish/tan. How do i get rid of these? (link)
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Microdermabrasion (sp?) is rumored to work some for that. I've heard it can be painful, though. And expensive. Unfortunately the scars will never go away fully, but some make ups are great for covering it up!
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whats a good name for a metal/rock band with three guys and a girl bass player/singer?
we play stuff from beatles to metallica (link)
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Rose amongst thorns (girl with the guys) I just like that phrase, personally. Try making up a cool word. Or...go with something from one of your songs. I would have to hear the music to give a better opinion. Things with a hidden meaning are really cool for names.
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how do you become beautiful
i mean prettier
or sexy
hhahaha? (link)
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Beauty is what you make of it. Wear the clothes you like. Try some different make up. get a new hairstyle...anything that makes you feel good or confident will help. Being confident is attractive. Also, one of the most beautiful things in my eyes is originality. Be unique. See what kinds of styles you like in magazines, and then make their style your own. Don't compare yourself to the girls in magazines, just look at their styles.
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is there any way to make my face skinnier? i have tried hair styling tips but it doesnt work..... (link)
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Try using bronzer on your cheekbones. This will create a contour and make your face appear thinner.
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my bf and i last night talked about what we daydream and stuff not exactly text sex/sex put like him taking off my shirt and where i would touch his back and chest and stuff like that. we both really liked it and got turned on and thought it was sexy but the thing is we are really good Christians and we are wondering if it was wrong that we did that. can anyone tell me what they consider this? its not sex but is it 'unholy' i think it might have been kinda bad but i still really liked it. what should i do?? thanks so much :] (link)
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Your carnal (fleshly) side will, of course, enjoy these things. It's normal to have gotten turned on by them, though. The fact that you are even questioning whether it was right or not should tell you that your spiritual side is trying to intervene. Any amount of impurity is wrong and can easily lead to other things. If you are thinking it, it will make things more likey to happen. Also, a sin can be a sin, even in your mind. Thoughts like this are lusty and dangerous. Why play with fire, when you can remain entirely pure and make resisting the temptaion easier. Just tell your boyfriend that you care about him and are attracted to him, but that you are not comfortable discussing those things because of the temptation it causes. If he is as good of a Christian as you say, then he should understand and respect that decision. If you have any more questions, let me know....I have just gone through a very similar situation myself, I know it can be very tough.
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ok well my bf and i dont see each other during the week because we have school and this weekend im studying for midterms so i probably cant see him except for at church. he and i are leaders for younger kids in our church hes the 6th grade boys leader and im the 6th grade girls leader (we are both in high school) and then there is a ohh idk 30 min time frame in between 1st service (when we serve) and the service we go together after that. and then on Sunday evenings we go to our youth group together well lately i have been wanting to be with him so badly and i miss him a lot even tho i saw him last weekend. i really want to kiss him (not just a tiny peck a little more than that) but i dont know what to do cause i dont want anyone to see us plus he and i would get in a lot of trouble because we are leaders at church and role models and are supposed to set a good example. what should i do!? i want to kiss him just a little like in the stairway when no one is there or sumthing but idk!!! please help! and is it normal for me to feel like i miss him and want to be with him all the time haha i guess thats just a normal couple thing but w/e thanks! :] (link)
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You shouldn't kiss in the church. That should compromise your values too much. Just talk to him, and try to make time away from church where you can see him, and kiss him all you want. Then you don't have to worry about being caught either. Being a leader for younger kids means you have to act like one.
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My bf and I have been together for about 3 months now, and I am worried that we are losing our spark. We would hang out a LOT when we were first together, and text and IM all the time. Recently we've both been busier with our lives, with school and sports and all. Sometimes I go for 3 days without talking to him, and we basically only see each other on the weekends. He doesn't text or call anymore "just because" and I miss the way it was. Is our relationship wearing out? Is there anyway I can help this? (link)
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perhaps your relationship has just reached the "comfortable" stage. This is when you must work harder to keep it alive. Just tell him how you feel. If he feels the same way, try to fix it. Make sure you make time for each other. If it doesn't appear to have potential, drop it before either of you gets any more attached.
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well im a great Christian girl and my bf is a great Christian boy and we have been best friends for a while know and have liked each other on and off for a long time too. now that we are actually dating we both agree it feels just like we have been dating a loong time and perphaps just started the part of the relationship where we kiss and stuff? anyway since dating we have been kissing and holding hands and i was wondering are there certain things God doesnt approve of when dating? besides having sex (we both agreed strongly not too and i have an abstinence ring anyway :]) and not cheating? i mean i know we should have respect for ourselves and not go really fast and stuff like that but is there anything about what you should and shouldn't do?? thanks so much! (link)
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Wow. You have just described my current relationship. (including the abstinence ring) I think that you need to have a heart to heart with God. Although there are many ways to get around the "intercourse" part of sex, will you really feel right as a christian, bending the rules? Ephesians 5 says that even a hint of sexual immorality can prevent us from being the good christians we should be.
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I'm 16. I've had my period for 5 or 6 years. I'm well aware about these things, just one thing confuses me. I've always had an irregular period. Well, it's been regular.. it came every month but for like 10 days or so. So I've been on birth control for more than half a year. Throughout all of my years of having a period.. I've never experienced PMS until now. I've always been the mellow one.. so it's all new and it's irritating me. I do not like how I act towards my boyfriend. I see him a lot and I'm a monster to him a week before my period.. then while my placebo pills come into play.. I get depressed and I only get my period for 3 days.. so this is not cool. Especially when I get bloated a week before my period.. and half a week after it too. I'm skinny so i seem to gain like 5 to 10 pounds. I want some advice on this. How can I change my behavior? I'm well aware that I'm acting rude and it really hurts because I can't take back my actions. My boyfriend understands completely but it still hurts you know? It also hurts when older people give me angry stares because I look pregnant. I need help with PMS basically and bloating. I've been trying to work out to tone my stomach and this whole bloating business.. is holding me back.. I don't enjoy looking bloating for nearly 3 weeks. Someone told me to drink lots of water.. but I don't see how that would help. Any sites.. or tips? Something! I can't switch birth control right now. (link)
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Pms is a problem. Not an excuse. It may make you feel crankier, but only you can control what comes out of your mouth. Midol may help with the bloating but you have to learn to control your attitude yourself. And I should know since I am the biggest PMS monster in existence. Water is the best thing you can do to prevent bloating....and stay away from salty foods, they make youy retain water, which is what bloating is. Sorry if my advice seems brutal, but sometimes the truth hurts. Some other suggestions that may or may not help (worth a shot i suppose?) Avoid caffeine, red meats, and get lots of exercise.
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I'm 16 and a junior in high school. And lately I have been really thinking about what school, and what job I want to do. I'm in a nursing class at my high school, but I only got in it because I wanted to be a physical therapist, but now I'm into the mental things. Like finding out why people have different personalities or why they kill people, things like that. If I become a nurse for that kind of things, what would I go to college for, and what would I do at my job. I would like to either care for the people, but still understand their disorder, or find out why people kill. Either one is good for me. THANKS! (link)
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Socialogy and Psychology are definately good. You may want to take a behavioral science class at school. There are lots of careers out there that can put your interests together like a counselor at a prison.
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16/f...16/m
i've never been in a relationship before and suddenly, i went out with my best guy friend.
now that im his girlfriend, he treats me like crap. but i like him SO much. we were holding hands today, and i stroked his arm.
when i came home, he called me and said i didnt do it right. and that i looked like i was scratching a dog.
he always tells me i dont do things ...perfectly..as a couple should. he's experienced, i'm not. (link)
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You need to explain to him how you feel. Tell him that you are still learning how to do things and that you want to learn with him. If he doesn't understand that being so judgemental of you is hurting you then he is soooo not worthy of you. Experienced or not, you deserve someone who respects you and how you do things.
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what kind of SPF sunscreen would i have to wear in the summer to become tan...but not be at risk for cancer?? (link)
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Try SPF 8 or a tanning oil. Banana Boat is great.
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what is an easy way to throw up? please hurry i need answers fast! dont ask why please. thank you! (link)
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First of all if it is an emergency you should call your doctor because throwing for some reasons may be harmful.
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well there's this guy that i really really like and been liking him for like 7 months already.And well im a very shy person espically around guys,and ive been trying to talk to him or at least say hi but i never get the chance to. See i dont know if he knows that i like him and i think he doese becasue my friends say that he does. And he do be sayin hi to me everytime we see eachother in the hallways and i dont know if he just saying hi to be nice to me or if he likes me back.But my real quetion is how you know if a guy likes you back when you like them. (link)
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Pay attention to his body language. This is best if you work up the nerve to have a convo. with him. If his pupils get big when he looks at you, he angles his body toward you while speaking, maintains eye contact, or (a dead giveaway) gets all red and blushy in your prescence. But, honestly you need to talk to him to figure any of this out.
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i need help. i want to look flirty for the guyes in my school what do i do im sort of a big boned women and im in 11th grade help i need a boyfroend (link)
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First of all dress in whatever makes you feel good. What makes you feel pretty. Don't dress to get attention from guys, dress to feel good about yourself. Also, try playing up your eyes. This is a good way to feel sexy and flirty. Try a bold color like violet or green eyeshadow with a couple layers of mascara. Or...try the smoky eye effect by adding a little bit of charcoal eyeshadow to your top and bottom lashes and smudging with a Q-tip. Just remember, only dress how you feel comfortable, not what you think guys will like. Once they see how confident you are with yourself, they'll start to notice you,and confidence is sexy.
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obviously i have a problem
my best friend has sides that i just cant stand.
I love her to death and i would jump in for a bullet for her.
But she can get on my nerves.
Shes the jelous type;
We hang out alllllll the time and when were not hanging out, were on the phone.
Lets say i have this other friend ... Sally
and i start to talk to her on the phone too,
and here is Susie ( my jelous best friend) saying " Ohh go be buddy buddy with her" Now what am i supposed to say to that. Like, she doesnt want me to talk to anyone else but her. Its like were a couple ha wow its sad and the same time sick.. But yeah , also she gets mad at anything little thing. shes a biggg drama starter. Like she'll get mad at these little jokes i make. Like she can make , you know make fun of in a joking kind of way, but i cant. Does that make sence?
For example the other day she got mad because i didnt pick up the phone for her!? well i was on the other line??? And honestly, i was too lazy to get up and switch over, by the way i didnt even know it was her on the other line.
My piont is, How do i get it out to her that she has to let me be. like in a nice way that wont get her become the next godzilla.
Also how do i tell her that she complains about the most useless stuff, too?
In a nice way too.
... I hope this makes sence.
wow.
well thanks for reading.
mucho appreciated (link)
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Well, first you need to sit down and have a serious talk with your friend. You need to tell her how you are feeling. She needs to understand that you should be able to have other friends. Encourage her to make new friends too. If she can't grasp that, she obviously needs to grow up a little bit until she's ready to realize what friendship is about. I wouldn't approach her with the "too much drama" thing at the same time, just let her know that there are more important things to get upset about, and that she should focus on the positive. Hope this helps, and good luck!!! :-D
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I have pretty full, wavy-ish hair (it pretty much has a mind of its own). If I let it dry naturally, it has a natural wave/poof, but my hair isn't hard to straighten.
I was wondering what shampoo and hair products are good for my hair type (wavy, thick, slightly frizzy). Shampoo for normal hair tends to dry out my hair, while some ultra moisturizing or curl shampoos make my hair get oily.
Anyone who has similar hair- i'd like to hear from you :)
Oh, I do not dye my hair, and occasionally blow dry (not very often though). So my hair is in good shape. (link)
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Try a conditioning shampoo like Herbal Essences "Hello Hydration" or use a leave in frizz free conditioner such as "None of your Frizziness", also by Herbal Essences. Also, try not to put your hair wrapped in a towel, scrunch it dry instead, this reduces frizziness.
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