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controlling boyfriend :(
16/f...16/m
i've never been in a relationship before and suddenly, i went out with my best guy friend.
now that im his girlfriend, he treats me like crap. but i like him SO much. we were holding hands today, and i stroked his arm.
when i came home, he called me and said i didnt do it right. and that i looked like i was scratching a dog.
he always tells me i dont do things ...perfectly..as a couple should. he's experienced, i'm not.
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Just say to him that this is all a new experiance to you and that you really want this to work. But, make it plain in the same way that you don't like how he treats you. You like him, but you're not getting the reaction which you wanted from him. Just tell him that.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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i dont think he deserves you. you should be with a guy who would die to have you even hold his had. not someone who tells you if your doing things right. who cares if hes experienced, sometimes it better to be new and open to relationships then already know exactly how everything should be.
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You should never have to put up with someone who criticizes you in that way. He tells you that you don't do things the right way- as though there is a "right" way to do anything. You should do what feels right, and if that's not good enough for HIM, then HE is not good enough for YOU.
"He treats me like crap...but I like him SO much." It sounds like you feel dependent on him, otherwise you would not like someone who treats you that way. Maybe you like the idea of having a boyfriend, rather than having HIM as a boyfriend...hope that made sense. So you didn't stroke his arm the way he likes- a mature person would give you hints, rather than tell you outright that it's like you were "scratching a dog." That sounds disrespectful and immature to me.
Listen, I'm not trying to tell you exactly what to do; I'm just here to advise you. This does not sound like a happy and healthy relationship. If you feel like he treats you badly, then make it known, and do not let it continue. If that means moving on and finding someone else (who is mature and respectful enough to treat you well, by the way), then that is probably the best thing for you. Never settle for someone who will not settle for you.
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You need to explain to him how you feel. Tell him that you are still learning how to do things and that you want to learn with him. If he doesn't understand that being so judgemental of you is hurting you then he is soooo not worthy of you. Experienced or not, you deserve someone who respects you and how you do things.
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