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my name is vanessa and i like getting advice and giving advice so post your questions. please ask me any question on my inbox and i will gladly help. i love advice seriously so remember me.advice
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hey this is embarasing to say (and i'm not sure if it's normal) but i got hair everywhere on my body. Not jsut where girl grow hair when they get puberty but on my face like the cheeks, my back, my whole front, everywhere and it seems kinda nasty and wrong because i htought only boys have hair everywhere but sometimes i'm confused of my sexuality because i'm pretty sure girls don't grow hair everywhere like me. I'm practically a monkey now! which products should I use to get rid of hair in certain areas? i shaved my public hairs but it's always red now and irrating. i heard about people putting hair removing cream (whatever that is) but I don't know if it can rip or wreck my skin of I wax since the skin there is sensitive and delicate
you should probably get a waxing. and i dont think you should ever shave dow there cause it'll always irritate but what you should do is trim it. like with those small medical scissors they have out. just shave the bikini area and trim the rest! :]
what is something that turns a lot of people on? like kissing on the neck and stuff like that!
i love it when my boyfriend grabs my hair pullsmy head back and slowly kisses my neck. it's like he takes all control. it's hot. and he caresses my neck and it makes me feel really hot
okay, so i feel REALLY stupid asking this, but..
everyone talks about girls having "crabs" & all.. but what exactly ARE they?? because idk. i feel stupid that i dont know, but i have to find out somehow, and i figured this would be the perfect place to ask.
ps, i didnt know what category to put this under :x
ok crabs really under a microscope look like real crabs. it's gross they're white and creamy and brownish colored and they're and std. they are basically pubic lice. i learned a way to find out if you have lice is to wear white panties and walk around in them all day an when you take them off at night look for eency weency red pots where your pubic hair was. if you see those and you're itching down there you probably have them.
15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering.
when my boyfriend wears cologne it makes me wanna jump all over him and kiss him til the cologne wears off honestly. i love cologne and everyone i know loves when guys wear cologne to. even the gay guys haha
hi.
im a 20 year old female. for the past couple of days, i have been feeling very uncomfortable down there. the skin between my vaginal lips seems to be more red than usual, and it feels raw. by that i mean it is ichy and it burns when i touch it!! i know it's not an std... im in a long distance relationship and i haven't had sex in a month so that's not the reason for this either. there is no foul smelling discharge, no unusual bumps or anything, no burning when i pee... just the skin between the lips, and around the vaginal opening is red and feels irritated and is soo annoying and painful.
i bought some Vagisil cream and applied it there today, but i don't know if it's helping. actually, it burned when i peed for the first time today after i put the cream on. please help, i don't know what to do. has this happened to anyone before? i don't want to go to the gyno unless i REALLY have to because i have no health insurance right now. is this serious? what should i do? keep using vagisil? THANKS SO MUCH!
actually that happened to me before, you might have this infection called vaginal bacterial infection. you have to go to a doctor, you dont have to go to the gyno i didnt and they will prescrbe you pills or cream. take the cream the pills are so gross i couldnt even eat a quarter of a pill. but you might not have this. you should get it checked jus in case.
i was always told that going on the pill would make your period stop completely (by freinds, not doctors) and lately i've been seeing a commercial about a pill that can reduce your period to only 3 days?? now, is it true that there is such a thing as a birth control pill that can make your period stop altogether, or is that just a myth?
i take the pill and there will be some months my period only lasts like 2-3 days and some motnhs i dont even have a period. but it doesnt altogether stop it.
Does anyone know any not common bands that are emo. I don't mean the kind that scream, but the depressing songs w/ good lyrics. Please, not common ones like fallout boy or hawthorne heights!, some bands no one knows pretty much!!thanks!!I'll give 5's for anyone who tries!
from autumn to ashes
atreyu
him (the lyrics are super emo)
afi
saosin
from first to last
panic at the disco
Ok, so theres this guy and I like him. He flirts with me a lot, but idk if it's intentional or not. We have a really small class and I'm the only girl he admits being friends with. We used to talk a lot. He told me he thought I was the prettiest girl in our class {but keep in mind we have a super small class}. Then, I wanted to go out and he pretty much said no bc he thought I was ugly. Since, then we're still friends, but I have no self esteem. Guys give me compliments, but it doesn't matter bc I always think back to what that guy said. I'm just confused because there's always "accidents" in which he'll hit my ass or boob, but I'm the only girl it happens to with him. Everyone thinks he likes me and that I like him. I just don't know what to do, I moved on but then he kept coming back and flirting so, what should I do? sorry its long, I do rate!!
ok this is obv. he likes you. its like a fact. you just need to make him realize that what he is saying does not affect you and laugh about it. I have the same exact problem and move on. when a guy gives you a compliment smile and take it in and forget about what the guy said. he should know that your not going to give your self esteem up for him.
okay my parents are so annoying they won't let me do anything i mean anything. I wanted to go to my friends track meet and they wouldn't let me they said i'm to young. THey need to realize i'm 15 it's time they start letting me do my own things my own way.
your right if you're 15 then you should be able to rebel against them. it might be scary and i dont wanna get you grounded but you can either rebel against them or have a talk with them.
there's this boy that lives like two houses down from me and he's like sooooooooooo cute. he's 19 and i'm 15 and i really like him but i don't know if he likes me. he's always staring and smiling at me like he as something to say but never says it. should i go up to him and ask him does he like me or should i just wait and see what happens?
im in the same situation im 15 and hes 19 and hes my next door neighbor and he is so cute and funny. anyways i decided to be agressive and talk to him one day and we became good friends, you know what it led to? we made out once kissed a couple times we hang out every night and make out some more and i have his number he has mine we text its great you should start talking to this guy!
does age really matter when it comes to dating someone?
age can matter in some states but as i always say age is just a number. but if they are older and you dont really love them then you could be considered a hoe so keep it on the down low
HI um...I'm a 13 year old gurl((GOING 14)) and I'm dating a 17 year GUY his the best boyfriend a girl can ever ask for his sweet romantic AND I LOVE HIM SOOOOOOO MUCH well the point is that our anyversary is comming real soon is going to be A YEAR sense we've been dating YAY MY B-day well I want to get somenthing really special and well one of the things that came to my mind was SEX he has never really pushed me into anything but well his a 17 year old dude thats one of their main "goals" and well I don't know wat to do....I NEED HELP plz should I DO THIS??????
ok so in some states statutory rape starts at 18 but in some states actually there is none in colorado my cop neighbor told me statutory rape isnt here in colorado you can have sex within anyone at a nine years age range. he went to law school in most states though you have to be 18 so if you guys can have sex before his birthday or still have sex. caus its not like anyone will find out. im 14 and i am involved with my 18 year old neighbor and i dont feel bad about it cause i like him and my mom knows. but if you really want sex then make sure you guys are both ready and no all guys at 17 shoot for sex some are really sweet your boyfriend sounds really sweet and it sounds like you guys really love eachother im happy for you!!!!
OK. well theres this boy josh that i love. and he has a girlfriend named alle but josh bites my neck and like always flirts with me and like hits my show under the table and like acts like hes haveing orgsums just to be stupied LOL. and hes like we shud study so he came to my house and we ran around and i didnt mind alle bc i felt like i was his girlfriend they didnt seem to close. then on friday there were facts that this boy adam was flirting with alle and josh was crying at lunch and HE NEVER CRYS i saw how much he loved her ... and alle told him adam flirted with her.. yah.. but then this whole WEEK hes like not been so much flirty but still iss.. its sooo ODD and he like was showing me this poem he wrote her for there anerversy which was yesterday.. and he iunO! its soo WERID he never ever talked about her before.. but i guess he saw loseing her.. and it made him think.. BUT ITS SO WERID AND ITS LIKE he can go past the line BUT I CANT like he was makeing me throw like sweettarts into his mouth and so i was like opening my mouth and his hand did this like .. OK WAIt no and then he just gave it to me on my desk??? HELLPPPP i needa kno i mean i have liked him for lik 2 months.. and hes been going out with alle sence the begging of school or more??.... Help. vdont make me cry anymore please.
maybe you should back off with the flirting and a little more support, don't make it worse by flirting with him, try to help him with the alle situation. he seems like a tease to me. if you support him enough he might just start crushing on you. flirt with him to much and he'll think of alle as more of a girlfriend and you more of a makeout buddy
I'm a 13/f and my bday is coming up soon. My parents asked me what I want but i honestly dont know! lol What are things ($150 and under) that I could ask for?!?!
you should ask for a cd player, some cds, clothes, or you could just ask for the money and go to the mall with some friends or something
hey guys. i'm usually good at this kind of stuff, but this part of the poem is really confusing. can you please help me out?
no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet), i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)
pllleeeease help. i will give you a 5 for trying, if you're not a smartass.
i hold your soul (deep within my very lips)
or
i taste your lips(locked on mine)
something like that, i don't really know if you wanted it to rhyme but i love poems so hope i helped
my bf, his friend jason, my friend and her bf and some other ppl all went to the movies. my bf sat in between me and jason, and most of the movie he seemed more interested in talking to him! meanwhile my friend and her bf were making out like right next to us. and they've been going out less than a month! when jason told him (my bf) to kiss me he said "i dont want to kiss her now. i will soon" (we havnt kissed yet) the problem is tho that that was the same thing he said to his other friend when he told him to ask me out, and it took him like a year to ask me, and even then i had to bring up the subject and stuff. i dont want to wait forever just for him to make a move. like i said, its been 3 months already. i definately dont want to kiss him first tho. what should i do?
he is obviously prude, scared, and a weaklink, when this stuff happens to me all i think about is "i got to take charge" so what i do is grab him, look him in the eye, pull on a sexy look, nd say are you going to kiss me?. it sounds hard but it's easy, either that or you could make the first move but you said you didn't want to. start looking really sexy and keep asking him to make out with you, it works with me all the time because i'm always in the same position. if you don't want to do this this might help. close your eyes and say to yourself "I am taking charge of my man!" wrks like a charm. hope i helped
I just started my period and i have a very difficult guesion to ask every1....
WINGS OR NO WINGS
i rate high
NO WINGS!!!!!!!!.if you get wings and accidentally put it on to low on your underwear or whatever, whenever you walk the side of the wing will like stab your inner thigh. it hurts REALLY BADLY. you'll look like a bold legged walker, isn't that lovely
I just started my period and i have a very difficult guesion to ask every1....
WINGS OR NO WINGS
i rate high
NO WINGS!!!!!!!!.if you get wings and accidentally put it on to low on your underwear or whatever, whenever you walk the side of the wing will like stab your inner thigh. it hurts REALLY BADLY. you'll look like a bold legged walker, isn't that lovely
my ex boyfriend from about 3 years ago saw me in april of this year for the first time since we dated. he was flirting with me non stop and i was returning the favor. i never got over him after we broke up so it felt as if maye i had another chance. my friend and i called him on the phone that night and chatted a bit with him... but he hasn't talked to me since then. it was his birthday a few days ago and he didn't pick up the phone. i should probably give up... but i can't. i've loved him from the first day i met him and he was my first everything. my birthday is in 7 days and i really want to see him for my birthday. i would be the happiest girl on earth... but i can't even get him to pick up the phone. can anyone help me? or, nonetheless... tell me what my problem is?
signed,
an advicary going advicee.
well, first off are you for sure he doesn't have a girlfriend? secondly, go to another one of your friends houses or a phone with a number he doesn't recognize if he answers that phone then somethings up. before you go to that phne call him on your phone and see if he answers. then go to the unidentified phone. act casual and simply ask him "are you avoiding me" but doint be to dramatic. then if he says no then say "in that case, i want to see you on my birthday, watchya think?" for right now treat him like a friend. then if you do see him on your birthday flirt. hope i helped, if this is o confusing go ahead and mail me and i'll be glad to break it down a little. happy birthday
My friend can be so bossy and mean sometimes and she gets mad at m for everything i hate it. We've known eachother since first grade so i dont want to ruin our friendship what should i do?
you should talk to her and if she still doesn't get it then she's not a true friend. don't let someone treat you like dirt. just pull her aside and tell her everything you feel. if she was a good friend she would understand if she is still snobby then she's probably just using you.