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Hey everyone the name is Jess. If you have a question no matter how random/wierd just ask me. You do not have to use your name or anyone elses. I will try to answer your questions at the best of me ability. To ask a question just click the purple button at the top that says get advice.Ask away!
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It's like, from 2000 I think, and it's an electronica song. It's something about outer space? Or aliens? Something like that, and it was kinda well known. I just can't remember it! :( Plz help?
Was it "I'm Blue" by Eiffel 65?
My boyfriend has had sex with many other girls before, and he wants me to lose it to him. I love him but, i want to know the symptoms that might occur after we have sex. I also would like to know how, it would feel and how long will I bleed. I get horny easily but, i will never try to masterbait and, i just want to know if i should endure in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend or not!!By the way i am a female! I also would like to know if i should suck him off!!
Alright, this is sort of my opinion on this one but you might think otherwise.
No because...
1) There is a 99.9% chance he will dump you afterward (By the sound of it he is just using you)
2) You will get a reputation as a "slut" around school
3) If he has had sex with other girls then he might be carrying STDs
4) From your question it sounds like you arn't ready, BECAUSE you are questioning whether or not you should have sex.
5) What if you got pregnant? [The condom could break]
6) FOR THE LOVE OF GOD YOU ARE ONLY 13 YEARS OLD!
In the end: Sweetheart, if it feels wrong and if you are questioning it, it probably is wrong.
Hope I knocked some sense into you !
♥ Jess
alright. so there is this guy, i like him, and he likes me (he told me. ) now hes sorta like prude and he doesnt really have the guts to ask me to be his girlfriend..like for example we went to the movies but he wouldnt even like hold my hand or anything and i had to make the first move, which i dont really like to do..should i give him hits into asking me out or something ? or what can i do to help him be less prude--should i make the first move ??
please help and sorry this is so long!!
thanks!
Right-o
Well, firstly, I don't think he is being a prude, I just think he is very nervous! He I think is scared that if he over does it you will get mad at him or something. That is a good thing though because it shows he cares about how you feel and he's not trying to "get in your pants" or just brag to his friends that he got to hold your hand or something. Just be VERRY flirty with him and tell your friends to tell him to ask you out. You should let him be making the moves though, not you. Don't take it personally about him not making his move. I'll give you this scenario: I was at my friend's bat mitsvah and this guy saw me and I guess really liked me. My friends literally pushed him into me to get him to ask me to dance. Even after that he was still really nervous around me. Soo, don't worry about it, just sometimes guys need that *push* to make their moves.
Hope this helped and if you have any other questions just keep asking!!
♥ Jess
Heyy Jess
Ok, well I really like this guy and it seems like he likes me too, but my best friend dated him. If the guy I like asks me out should I talk to my friend about it first or just go out with him?
You should deffinitely talk about it with your friend. This is a very delicate situation and you do not want to hurt your friend's feelings; especially if it's your best friend. After all, boyfriends and girlfriends usually end by breaking up (unless you get married...) but friends are for life. I don't think you should date him/go out with him if your friend and the guy you like were in a really serious relationship. Just remember these things when/if you go out with him:
1) DONT blow your friend off for going to the movies with him (this is a big NO)
2) DO ask her if she is okay with it, if you are getting the vibes that she is really not liking the idea of you two going out, I think you should reconsider.
3) DONT talk about you two being in love and kissing and stuff around her, she will most likely get hurt (duh)
4) DONT talk about the idea of going out with him to your bff UNLESS he asks you;; and if/when he does, this is how you should handle it:
Guy: [Your name here], I was wondering, will you be my girlfriend? *smiles*
You: Aww that's so sweet of you! I'll think about it *winks*
It will be really hard for you to say "I'll think about it" but you need to talk to your friend about it first. That night ask your friend what she thinks about you two going out and tell her that you said to him I'll think about it because you want to make sure it's okay with your friend. This is good because she feels important =)
Hope I helped!
♥ Jess
i want to kiss my boy friend but i have never kissed a boy before and if i kiss him im scaered ill be rubbish and hell laugh and dump me can you help i need advice im female and 12.
Alright, firstly if you kiss "wrong" I don't think he'll dump you. I think it will actually will boost his confidence because he'll feel macho that he's kissed before and when you guys kiss he will feel in control. I myself havn't been kissed by a guy before [I'm 13!] but I don't think it's that difficult. Just lean in with your eyes open and once your lips meet close your eyes. [Remember if you close your eyes before your lips meet you might miss!] I don't think he will try to french you, but if he does, don't shove your tongue down his throat!! Your tongue is not a jack hammer so don't use it as one. I think you just move your tongue side to side. Since your mouth is busy, and you need to breathe, try to breathe through your nose. Hope your first kiss is a memorable one =)
P.S. I asked one of my guy friends [he's kissed before] for his apporval and he said I was right. He just said remember to wrap arms and close your eyes when you are actually kissing. Now you have double advice :]
♥ Jess
This is about the question about the friend that ditches me all the time...ok the problem with just not being friends with her any more is that we play volleyball together we're in girl scouts together and we live a house away from eachother. I dont want it to be awquard every time we have to be in the same room!She'll talk to me sometimes but it feels to me like a last resort. I am just sick of her treatimg me like crap.
About that;; what I meant was be nice to her, just treat her more like an acquaintance then a friend. The person that totally treated me like crap is still in my life and I see her all the time, I'm plenty sweet to her but I don't get too close to her. Never bad-mouth the girl that is mean to you though because what goes around comes around, and you don't want her (or other people) to get mad at you. My guess is she is just trying to get you really mad at her so she can bad-mouth you and have an excuse is to why she is doing it. This is so surreal though on how similar my situation is to you =P. Good Luck and keep asking questions if you need to!
♥ Jess
my friend latley has been getting on my nerve. It seems like everything i do will get her mad! The past year she was always ditching me for her "new" friends after we have been friends since 2nd grade! I cant talk to her about how i feel because she will just get mad. It seems like even if she does something to hurt me i have to take the blame and apologize to her. Is this fair? I dont know how to talk to her and it feels like she doesnt want to be friends anymore!
I used to have a friend like that and I completely know how you feel. You need to get rid of her even if it hurts. She isn't treating you fairly at all, you are worth more then this and you don't deserve to be ditched and walked all over. Just stop trying to hang out with her completely and find new friends. It will be hard, but when you do you will feel much better. When you do this though, she will probably try to get you back (my ex-friend did that too) but don't give in. Still be nice to her, but try not to hang out with her and find ways out of hanging out with her. Hope I helped and if you have any more questions I.M. me or email me OR just ask another question here because I definitely know how it feels to be in your position. Good Luck!!
♥ Jess
15/f
Hey well recently ive become REALLY close to one of my friends!..shes actually my best friend we see each other about twice a week and do everything with each other. But shes had this boyfriend for about 2 months now and they literally spend ALMOST 24/7 together. she says that WE {me and her} can hang out and that she will call me...but instead she seems like shes starting to blow me off to hang out with her boyfriend and i kind of feel like im losing touch with her :(..what should i do or say?
I think you should tell her how you feel, but when you do, don't attack her like "you always blow me off for you boyfriend..blablabla" that will make her feel attacked and you guys will get into an arguement, so we don't want that :) What you should do is approach her and say "I feel ______ when you ________ because _________ and I need you to ___________. Okay, it may sound stupid; but it's a good way of letting your feelings out without immideatly getting into an argument. In your case, you might say "I feel [upset] when you [spend so much time with your boyfriend] because [we don't get to hang out together as much] and I need you to [please stop]. That is just an example. Just try as much as you can to NOT get into an argument, please no fighting. Also you can suggest alternatives like maybe every-other week you guys hang out, and when you guys don't she hangs out with her boyfriend. This probably hasn't hit her yet, but someday her and her boyfriend are probably going to break up and she's going to want have a friend to fall back on and cry because of her broken heart. She'll need you. Hope your guys's friendship is put back together =)
♥ Jess
Ok so i have known this guy since 6th grade and we werent good friends and all in 6th grade and blahh things have gotten better and i was just talking to him the other day my friend sortta likes him but isent sure..and he just got out of a relationship and was wwanting to get back to gethher with her. my friend likes him. and well it was like 2am and we were talking and he waas being so nice and like it was like he ment it and he kept asking questions about me and making out w/other poeples. he kept bringing it up and he asked me to rate him so i did and i said this "ok well i guess a 6 or a 7 ur nice funnny not that bad looking but i also havent actually talked to you in person for like ever so it really changes a lot of things.'' and then he said well i guess i am going to talk to you in person a lot more! he also said he wanted to hug me..i am confuzed what should i do?
-Jennifer
I think he really likes you =) Start out as being friends with him though and make sure your friend it totally OVER him because if you guys go out; it might break her heart :( Just keep being nice/a friend to him and hopefully things will turn out the right way. Good Luck!
♥ Jess
Hey, I`m the girl who asked the question about the guy who was weird when he called me. Ok so he called me this whole week and things got a lot less akward. Then all of the sudden yesterday i don`t get a call. And I havent gotten one today either. I don`t know what to think, and I`m REALLY hurt.
Don't let a guy ruin your day! Since he hasn't seen you in awhile he might have become more distant to you. Just remember, don't feel tempted to call HIM, he has to call YOU. Also, please don't feel hurt. There are plenty of other guys out there, don't let this one break your heart. He might have been out of town or something or just sees you as a friend. He doesn't feel compelled to be having to call you every single day. Feel Better!
♥ Jess
so i think i might like this guy, or atleast get to know him better, but he's kind of a player if you know what i mean. he's always flirting with other girls and pushing them playfully.... and with me he's kind of un-playerish? i dunno.... he's really nice and all but i don't know why he treats me differently!
He might like you; so he is nervous around you and doesn't know how to approach you or what he should do. Another thing is he doesn't know you that well so he doesn't want to be flirty towards you.
On the other hand though I think you need to get to know him better. Just start talking and stuff. You shouldn't get to like a guy until you get to actually know him. There are a few guys that I know that are soo cute but soo jerky! Also with the "player" part, you need to be careful, because if you give your heart out to him you might get it shoved back in your face. Like I said, get to know him better, become friends, then you can see if you really have feelings for him from there. Good Luck!
♥ Jess
HEy this is the same girl [amy] that has been having that problem w/ the guy [we can call hiim braclet guy] Well today i went to the pool w/ my friends and saw him again at first i tried to play it cool by not noticeing him then i was like heyy and we both smiled it seemed like we both wanted to say somethig but couldent so we went on hangin and just smileing swiming and well my other friends who dident no i liked him they are sister 7th grade same as me and they were all you no flirtin with him but i dont no if it was in a friendly way or not and it seemed like everytime i waas around he would grab them and like pull them under water them or
wrestle with them tomorrow my last day of school and well i see him one more time i like him a lot cause his perosonalaty is awesome but should i just forget about him? im so confused and please help i am in desperate need....
Alright so are you saying to me that it seemed like he was flirting with other girls? If so I wouldn't worry about it. I think it is just his nature, some people just have that flirty personality, don't take it personally. Just consider the following:
1. He likes you A LOT and he wants you to give him more attention and by making you jelous by flirting with your friends.
2. Like I said before, it's the way he always acts.
3. He was acting differently towards YOU. He was flirting and dunking and wrestling the other girls except YOU because he likes YOU. He is nervous around YOU. (haha..like how I capitalized you. lol)
4. He is just friends with them, guys talk, wrestle, and chill with their friends too. You can tell that he likes you though because I don't think he would keep giving flirty smiles, wearing a bracelet, and going out of his way too much to impress his friends; because those are definite signs of him liking you.
5. And final one, he wants you to know he is desired by other girls. Haha guys try so hard to make you want them =) Also, to go along with that, he's saying he could go out with any of those girls in a heartbeat, but he wants YOU.
Well he sounds like a sweetheart, so he is definitely a keeper. Go for it girl and tell him your feelings. Again, if you don't feel ready, tomorrow morning before you do anything ask his friends how he feels about you. Even if they say he has never talked to you that way, you could still go for it. When you say his feelings to him he could think about you that way and feel flattered and develop a crush on you =) Good Luck! Any other questions email me at lax4ever92@yahoo.com
♥ Jess
Recently, this guy who went to my school last year but didn`t go to it this year, started talking to me again. We both liked eachother last year. We weren`t mad at eachother, we just lost touch. I REALLY enjoyed talking to him again, and he came over on friday. He flirted and all, and that night i was talking to him and he said that after talking and seeing me again he liked me. But he left for the beach yesterday and said he would call me today, and he did. He seemed like tired or not talkative or something. It really confused me, but he did say he would call me tomorrow. Any idea what to do and why hes acting kinda weird?
Firstly, don't take it personally. I'm sure he wasn't talkative or anything probably because he WAS tired. He didn't want to let you down by not calling you so he did but I'm sure he was just actually tired. When you guys chat again your conversation will actually be more lively. If he keeps acting this way ask what's up. Maybe he isn't a phone talker (like my brother isn't, I swear if someone called and told him he won a million dollars he wouldn't even act happy)or maybe he is always buisy. Btw, NEVER call him; he has to try to get you; don't be a pushover! Good Luck!
♥ Jess
Ok so. its me again the girl who wrote the last one..well now its kinda akward to be around him cause i think he knows i like him. What should i say/do..i have class with him on MONDAY for an hour then i see him for 15 minutes on Tuesday.............
Try not to feel awkward! Act the way you do always when you are around him. Obviously he either likes you/likes being your friend because he likes you for you and the way you act. Don't put pressure on yourself to act differentely or then it might come off as fake. If he knew you liked him he would have teased you about it already or acknowledged it. He might even get the guts to ask you to be his girl =) Just guys are SO clueless! If you want him to know just reveal your feelings to him, maybe he'll feel the same about you too! If he doesn't like you that's cool too...boyfriends and girlfriends eventually break up but friends are for life! Hope I helped! Any other questions just keep asking me and stuff or email me at lax4ever92@yahoo.com
♥ Jess
Ok so, I have been friends with this guy for about 5 months and we hang out ALL the time in our 1 class together.. and well now the school years over and i have developed a crush on him- he used to like my friend but then he stoped and like he wanted my braclet so i bought him one and he wears it all the time and i saw him at the pool and we said hi but then he had to leave i dont go to his pool but alll my friends do i dont no if he nos i like him... should i tell him? should one of my friends call him? i am so confused please help!
One secret about guys is they tell their friends EVERYTHING! Like seriously. I think you should ask one of his close friends how he feels about you. By the looks of it I think he likes you...because if you gave him that bracelet and he wears it all the time he is wearing it because it reminds him of you =) Also not too many guys I know wear bracelets so he must like you a whole darn lot if he is going to wear "girly jewelry" that you gave him. Hope you guys become more then friends ;)
♥ Jess
i like this guy and he likes me 2 but i had a fight with 1 of his frends and now i dont really no how 2 go up 2 him and say "hi" and flirt with him. how can i tell if he likes me and how cld i talk 2 him without feeling guilty?
I really think you and his friend should make up and apologize and that will really get something off your chest. Then you can talk to the guy you like without feeling guilty. Since today is Saturday try on Monday to apologize and then when you flirt with the guy and stuff you will feel guilt-free =) Hope this helped!
♥ Jess
ok recently, my relationship with my mom has gone pretty much down the tubes.... it always seems like ive done something wrong or shes just mad at me idk... i am pretty moody a lot and i get mad and storm off and then when i come back shes like giving me the silent treatment... its annoying me and whenever im in a good mood, she just like looks all sad which makes me mad.. idk its strange but is there anything that i can do??
13/f btw...
thanks
Firstly you need to become a little less moody and stop storming off because that apparently really hurts your mom's feelings. Also be very open and just have alot of conversations with her and see if you guys have anything in common. I also beleive it takes two to tango and she equally has to be nice to you as well. If she doesn't look like she is contributing and being nice then tell her your feelings. Hope you and your mom get a better relationship :)
♥ Jess
Jess- I'm 13, and have had signs of puberity since i was in late 4th grade. Now im in seventh, and still havent had anything. Lots of thick white stuff comes out, do i need to see a doctor? Also, one of my boobs are a slight bit bigger then the other, is that a problem?
thanks-
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**Just to let you know, you get your period sometime soon after you reach 100 pounds.**
You have really good advice, btw. =) You should become one of those "ask abby" type people haha
Thank you for the compliment =) I like giving advice because I like helping people. Glad you found the advice was helpful!
♥ Jess
Hi i am in a bit of a pickle!
ok well i really liked this guy and well he asked me out, and we were great for like 2 weeks, and then i broke up with him, i dident want to brake up with him but like was really moody and he caught me off gaurd. I cant take it any longer its been about 1 week and 4 days and he is only on my mind. But when we broke up we agreed to get back together later...but THEN i heard some rumers and got SO pissed and i told him i hated him and wanted him to die. But really i WANT to die, i made a total fool of myself && i seriously think im going insane i want to talk to him and tell him everything but everytime i see him in the halls he just looks at me and then walks away. What should i doo?
-Amy
Alright, firstly you heard RUMORS that he was mad at you...he never directly said he was mad at you so I don't think you should have gotten all mad at him when you don't even know for sure if he is upset with you. I think the only way to maybe get back together is to sincerely apologize. Say how sorry you are for being moody with him and yelling at him when you arn't even sure that he said those things about you. Say how much you care about him and that you really love him. If he doesn't forgive you or even beleive you are sincere, take the high road. Still be nice to him and please don't talk bad about him. After all, it's better sugar then vinigar. Hope I helped :)
♥ Jess
Heyy ok to make a really LONG story short~ i liked this guy he liked me, we went out, my friends made fun of me, i dumped him, i really like him, im not sure if he still like me, i like him so much and i NEED to apologize Please help!
Tell him that you are REALLY sorry that you dumped him and tell him that you still have feelings for him. If your friends were "true friends" they shouldn't have been making fun of you in the first place if they knew you really loved and cared about him. They were probably making fun of you because they were jelous that they don't have a boyfriend and you do. Girls can be soo mean these days so don't let them being stupid about you having this boyfriend lead to you dumping him. If you really love him, stay with him no matter what circumstance. Hope you guys get back together =)
♥ Jess