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me or her boyfriend?
15/f
Hey well recently ive become REALLY close to one of my friends!..shes actually my best friend we see each other about twice a week and do everything with each other. But shes had this boyfriend for about 2 months now and they literally spend ALMOST 24/7 together. she says that WE {me and her} can hang out and that she will call me...but instead she seems like shes starting to blow me off to hang out with her boyfriend and i kind of feel like im losing touch with her :(..what should i do or say?
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I think you should tell her how you feel, but when you do, don't attack her like "you always blow me off for you boyfriend..blablabla" that will make her feel attacked and you guys will get into an arguement, so we don't want that :) What you should do is approach her and say "I feel ______ when you ________ because _________ and I need you to ___________. Okay, it may sound stupid; but it's a good way of letting your feelings out without immideatly getting into an argument. In your case, you might say "I feel [upset] when you [spend so much time with your boyfriend] because [we don't get to hang out together as much] and I need you to [please stop]. That is just an example. Just try as much as you can to NOT get into an argument, please no fighting. Also you can suggest alternatives like maybe every-other week you guys hang out, and when you guys don't she hangs out with her boyfriend. This probably hasn't hit her yet, but someday her and her boyfriend are probably going to break up and she's going to want have a friend to fall back on and cry because of her broken heart. She'll need you. Hope your guys's friendship is put back together =)
♥ Jess
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