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My boobs are really sensitive and hurt.
I used to SI on them, but they were totally desensitized, and now they're hypersensitive...
how do I reverse this?

what is SI?

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I really like this guy but i think he might only be looking for a hookup..(because he likes someone else too and whenever their around he hangs out with them) im for sure he really does like me so how can i show him that im serious about this and i dont just want to mess around??

Also my friend has band practice with him and she was going to be like "yea she decided that if your not gonna ask her out soon shes just gonna not bother messing around with you anymore" im not sure if this is such a great idea what do u guys think??

well you dont wanna force him to ask you out, you know? i wouldnt want someone to ask me out only because of that... so i would just confront him and ask him what exactly he wants out of this

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Long story short, I had a boyfriend who I was completely head over heels for and after being together for 9 wonderful months his dad got a job up north so he had to move, which was the cause of our break up. We still love each other more than anything and I broke up with him because I didn't want to have to feel tied down or worry about the possibilities of cheating, being that we would be in a long distance relationship. Well, he still has family down here so he comes to visit like once every two months and of course he makes sure to visit me when he's down here. It's just that everytime I see him I want to be with him again and he feels the same way but at the same time everytime he goes back up north I try my best to forget about him and move on. I just feel like it's easy to develop a new feeling of love for somebody but so hard to get rid of the old feelings from a previous relationship. Should I consider long distance or no? I'm not really sure what to do. Please help :]

how old are you? i was in the same situation, and i did long distance for a year (a 2 and a half year relationship total). we have broken up and still remain very close because we were so in love, and still truly care/love each other. but honestly the distance really did tear our relationship apart. i became someone that i never was and never wanted to be: jealous, suspicious, etc. if you feel that theres a possibility you might cheat on him or vice versa i suggest leaving things as they are...otherwise it could ruin the friendship you still have. if you are juniors or seniors you could think about getting back together after highschool if its really love

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yes its about him again

i like this guy ryne and idk if he likes me..but i got some advice and it was like ask him out to the movies & smile

well i have a problem for you :
1. I CANT GO OUT FOR THE MOVIES-my parents are like really crazy. im 14 and not allowed to go to the movies alone :[... and besides..i dont like talking to my parents about boys and stuff.and NO im not going to lie..been there dont that.

2.i cant smile pretty bc i have braces.they are bright green OMGGGGG i hate themmmmmmmmm


so yeah. how do i flirt with him when all my options are stupid??

why not try asking him to hang out at your house and watch a movie? or come over to do hw one day or something? you can tell your parents he's helping you w/ an assignment or vice versa. as far as your smile, who cares about braces? i'm sure you have a beautiful smile whether or not you have braces. and if he does like you, he won't care one bit! trust me-guys like girls that are fun and HAPPY, not someone who doesn't ever laugh or smile!

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16/f

my freshman year i got accepted to one of the top performing art schools in the nation for vocal performance!! i was so excited!! ever since i heard about it ive wanted to go....My dream ever since i could remember was to be a singer...when i attended school for the first few weeks i noticed that there was a music male teacher that i would always catch looking at me....about 2 months into school, he told me to stay after class because he wanted to enter a song id written in a major record label contest. I walked into his room and he told me to sit on the piano bench and he'd be right back. So i did as he said and got my music out and waited. When he came back he shut the door and locked it he said that he locked it "because he didn't want to be bothered with the janitors" so i didn't think anything of it, kinda thought it was wierd (music rooms are soundproof) but anyway, he sat down next to me and placed his hand on my upper thigh and said im so proud of the progress your making in my class, you're deffinately going to acheive your dream and go somewhere with your talent" he put his arm around my shoulder and acted like he was grabbing my music, and he pushed it off the side on "accident" so i bent down to grab it, and as i bent down he grabbed my butt. and i told him to stop. but then he sternly said, "if you want to pass the class and win the comptetion you'll let me do what i want. Trust me, you want me on your side. I can give you everything you want." I sat back down, giving him another chance, hoping he would stop, but it just got worse as time went on. Long story short, he ended up raping me.
When i threatned him that i would tell, he just said "do you really want to leave this school?? you're parents would take you out of here and you wouldn't get ot pursue your dream anymore." and after i thought about it i realized that i wanted to be a singer more than anything else, and this school would help me out so much. So i continued to put up with it...
This situation has been continuing on and off for about 2 1/2 years now. I haven't told anyone, becuase i don't want to run the risk of anyone finding out becuase then i wouldnt be able to go to this school anymore. I just really feel like i need to talk to someone, but i don't know who to talk to. I don't feel comfortable telling my boyfriend, bestfriend, or anyone whats going on.
What should i do? I want to continue achieving my goals, and the school helps out with this alot, but at the same time i want the abuse to stop. I'm sorry this is so long, thanks so much for taking your time to help.

you Must TELL SOMEONE! you are getting abused and this is a CRIME. he is a sick man, and you should NOT put up w/ this. if you have the talent and ambition, you will reach your goal regardless. if you can't tell a parent, you must tell a counselor or something. you may not even get taken out of school, but he will be fired. this happened at my school and the girl still goes to my school, but the teacher got kicked out. plz plz tell someone.

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Pls help me. What should I do? Im inlove to a young girl,she is 9 years old????Im already 15 now?!! Is it bad? Im thinking im very stupid. I keep avoiding it but it hurts. What should I do pls?? Help help!!!

how can you be in love w/ a nine year old? thats disgusting. seriously.

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I did really badly for my first term of school and I told myself that I must work very hard and get all A's for term 2. Now that my second term has started, I can't seem to stop worrying because I'm really very very afraid of it being like in term 1. When I was in term 1, I stressed myself so much in order to get good grades that I cried everytime. It kind of gave me a phobia for school work.

I told myself to take it easy and just be consistent in term 2. It seem to work at first but after a while, I just fall back into the pit again. The pressure of not wanting this term to be like in term 1 is killing me. Because I really don't wanna stress myself to death like I did in term 1.

My heart kept beating so fast and I can't sleep at night. I just keep worrying and worrying. What if I can't get those classes that I want, what if I can't make any new friends, what if I don't have time to revise for my work, what if I can't do well for my term 2 tests and exams. I can tell people to relax but I can't seem to calm myself down. Someone please help me to stop worrying! Don't diagnose me. Help me!

well you said you did badly your first term, so look at it this way. no matter what, you can only go up. you can do this. your paranoia is what the REAL problem here, it's what is holding you back. if you are paranoid about having enough time, get a huge calendar or day planner and PLAN OUT YOUR TIME. be a neat freak! don't ever waste time. if you use it effectively, you will have more free time..and spend less time worrying. don't over work yourself, because when i do that-it's what causes me to cry and feel upset. work some time in that you can hang out with friends, because that will keep you a happy person. try talking to your teachers about this problem and they might sympathize and give you extra tips or worksheets to help you understand things!

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Okay, if you are going somewhere with a guy that you think that you really might like, and they try to kiss you but your not ready for that, what can you do, or even say, to not kiss them, but make them want the kiss that much more?

Confused.

for a sassy, intriguing response:
"i never kiss on the first date"
"i never kiss on the first date...but ask me out again and you might get a surprise..."
"let's save that for a little later"
"these lips are in great demand lately, i have to choose carefully. show me that i'm gonna make the right decision"
or you could always just go with, "i really like you but i'm not ready for that yet"

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aiight this guyfriend of mine loves me and i dont really like him. i think he's gonna ask me out when i go back to school. hes a great guy and all but i have no physical attraction to him at alllll. i mean a guy doesnt have to be goodlooking for me to like them but i mean i need to at least have a connection. with my friend theres nothing. i would say no but... during vacation ive been thinking about him a TONN. im like obsessing over him. but i dont like him that way?? [i dont think] if he asks me out, should i give him a chance?

thxx all

that's happened to me too. although you're not attracted to him physically, you are flattered by the attention. if you are attracted to him emotionally and mentally, maybe you should see how it goes. don't say yes to going out with him yet because you don't like him. but don't shut the door. see how things go and maybe later down the road...something will happen!

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All the guys in my grade tell me I have no butt. Can someone please help me? What jeans do I wear that show a flattering butt? and what work out things can I do to make my butt be an actual butt. I NEED HELP I'M DESPERATE. PLEASE. thank you!!!

i agree, you shouldn't worry about it. i have no butt either, and it sucks sometimes but its what we were given! guys who tease you like that probably like you...otherwise why would they waste their time? lots of guys like little butts- they are cute! but if you really want to make it look bigger-- try jeans w/ button flaps on the back pockets or no pockets at all.

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i took some BAD pics on my new phone and deleted them, i wuz wondering if they would appear somehow on the bill, if these pictures cost money. I know this seems like a stupid question but I'm very new to cellphones. thanks!

wat do you mean by bad?

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okay so i have this friend and she likes this guy. we were talking on aim and she gave me his aim and wanted me to do some dare. i didnt really think to much about it, and did it. It was like "my mom shaves my armpits" or something retarded like that. the guy doesnt/didnt know who i was, so he was like "whos this?" and I responded by blocking him. later on, like.. the next day, his friend got my sn from him and kept asking me who i was. i think i'd heard of her before, judging from her screenname, but i didnt want to be found out then and there. because its not the best first impression. also, she goes to my school, and is in my grade. and i dont want bad gossip going around because of me and some stupid prank. anyway, then today, which was like about a month later, the girl said that she'd been getting similar stories from her other friends, and wanted to know who i was and if i was stalking them or something, which i totally wasn't, since the only way I knew him somewhat was from descriptions from that friend who liked him. and im confused because the only person she could be talking about would be that guy from before. and would he STILL be worried about that? jeez. anyways, she kept asking, and i told her what i thought, that i didnt know her, my grade and school (so she knew i wasnt some random chick), and that was like.. it. i even told her it was a dare and i didnt want her to tell others of what i did.. cuz that would ruin my rep, probably. she said that she wouldnt tell cross-her-heart etc but there is no way she wouldnt! thank god for a friend on aim who convinced me not to tell, say buh bye, then block her. and im invisible now, so that one of her friends or her in a diff account dont try to piss me off again! do you think i handled this situation well? or what else can i do to fix this? i really just want them to forget about this dumb dare. gosh..

From an annoyed 13 year old girl.

honestly, it wouldnt ruin your rep if someone found out who you were. this is a stupid situation *not you..just the way the other girl is acting. if you want to tell her, then tell her and be done with it. the worst scenario: shed tell her friends..theyd laugh..theyd get over it. they're not going to hate you

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So there is this guy who lives rather, a long distance away from me, I've never met him.
But we've talked for a while, actually for a few years+, and we've texted on phones, written letters, and waved and pulled faces at each other on webcam.

Thing is, i live in america,
he lives in england,
he wants to visit,
but he was like .. me and "someone" my friend, will come.
and that someone is a girl,
and he had been giving me the impression he had liked me, so why would he take a girl?

please don't meet him w/o a chaperone or adult w/ you. its so dangerous. you may think you know him really well but it could all be an act. trust me.

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13/f going into 8th grade.

Ok, I'm not that rich. My mom and dad have been working extra jobs just so I can go school shopping in lexington. They said that I will have about $400.00 by the time we go. I was just wondering where abercrombie and hollister are located in lexington. And I was also wondering how many jeans and shirts I can get for this amout of money. Thankyou much in advance.

I rate answers.

wow that's amazing that your parents will work extra jobs just so that you can buy abercrombie and hollister clothes. why not shop somewhere a little cheaper using the money and get a whole year's worth of clothes? american eagle jeans are just as cute and a lot cheaper (around 40ish). also, aeropostale can be pretty cheap. forever 21 always has stylish and cheap clothes. abercrombie rips and tears easily but is stylish. so just reconsider where you are gonna spend the money.

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ok well my boyfriend Matt asked me to sneak out at like 1:00am to go to his house because his brother is having a party and his parents are not home. Well i dont no if i should cuz i might get busted cuz its sortof a school tomarrow (delayed opening) . But i really do want to go withim! Plez help!!

p.s im 14

I wouldn't go. There are plenty of oppurtunities to hang out with your boyfriend. If you get caught there could be bad consequences. Besides, your parents would lose all trust in you. But thats just how I feel. Do what you feel is best! ♥

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I have an issue; I want to lose some weight, but my stomach grumbles like crazy!!!!! It's so annoying, I mean, I have a strong willl to lose the weight, but its so embarresing, I sit in math class and suddenly I hear my stomach, is there anything I can take or do to make my stomach not so vocal? Please and thank yous!

Eat very often, small portions, nutritious food. Eat six times a day, with breakfast, lunch, & dinner being your full on meals. If you need any ideas on small snacks for inbetween meals, just drop one in my inbox! ♥

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i'm forteen and i have never really had as serious boyfrined. Is there something special to look for in a guy? How do i know if hes the right one??? help please

Loyalty, honesty, trustworthy, respects girls, similar personalities or interests (at least something to talk about), into you, sweet, romantic... those are just some things I look for. My boyfriend has all of these but I must admit only about 1 in a million guys are like this at our age!

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ive been going out with my boyfriend for a long time. he never pressures me or disrespects me. but the other day in the movies he started touching my boobs which is really unlike him. then apologized throughout the whole movie for doing it. we went out to dinner and i flipped out on him and he started CRYING. this morning at school he decorated my locker saying "im so sorry i love you" with hearts all over it. i found out that he stayed up all night making it. he was crying all day in school, and he wrote me a long apology letter. everyone says im overreacting. should i get back with him because i really want to...

How old are you? A lot of guys want to go far, and touching your boobs... well that isn't Too bad. But it is if you didn't want him to. It sounds like he really cares about you and respects you.. .he just made a mistake. Stay firm in what you believe, but I'd give him another chance if he means it. That was a sweet apology. And I wouldn't always reccomend giving in to apologies, but in this case... I would. Do what's right for you, though. ♥

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For my health class we are suppossed to find out if guys mostly prefer virgins or sluts, what do you think?

That's a HEALTH CLASS survey? Wow, I can hardly believe that thats a school project but hmm okay. I'm not a guy but I'd say guys prefer virgins. Of course they will do it with a slut, but they all know where she's been. I've heard this from guy friends so don't worry. ♥

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ok so i'm 14 and haven't been on a real date...or been kissed. i'm starting to think that something is wrong with me. what should I do?

Nothing is wrong with you, you probably just haven't found the right guy yet. Some peopel aren't even allowed to date at 14, so don't worry about that. And as for being kissed... don't you want it to be special? Wait until you've got a guy you really like, and then get close to him. He will want to kiss you Trust Me!!! Guys always want to kiss... but Don't become slutty and just give it up to anyone, they won't respect you. Just have some more confidence and flirt with guys, get their sn's or numbers and chat them up. When you see them at school, be really friendly but not all in their faces. Be yourself and have fun. If you need any tips on makeup or boys or anything that you think would help, drop one in the inbox! ♥

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