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Seeing him makes it harder on both of us.
Long story short, I had a boyfriend who I was completely head over heels for and after being together for 9 wonderful months his dad got a job up north so he had to move, which was the cause of our break up. We still love each other more than anything and I broke up with him because I didn't want to have to feel tied down or worry about the possibilities of cheating, being that we would be in a long distance relationship. Well, he still has family down here so he comes to visit like once every two months and of course he makes sure to visit me when he's down here. It's just that everytime I see him I want to be with him again and he feels the same way but at the same time everytime he goes back up north I try my best to forget about him and move on. I just feel like it's easy to develop a new feeling of love for somebody but so hard to get rid of the old feelings from a previous relationship. Should I consider long distance or no? I'm not really sure what to do. Please help :]
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At fourteen I think you are wise not to tie yourself to someone who is also too young to really commit at this point long-distance. Instead of thinking of it as an all or nothing bad thing, consider the fact that he is a great guy you never want to lose touch with and would love to keep seeing even if it is only friendship and maybe an occasional romantic moment. You should both be dating lots of people (that does not have to mean having sexual relationships) and whether or not you are in the same town, it is a good idea to let each other date freely without harsh resentments. Just be happy to have him in your life when it is possible, but don't stop having your own lives.
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how old are you? i was in the same situation, and i did long distance for a year (a 2 and a half year relationship total). we have broken up and still remain very close because we were so in love, and still truly care/love each other. but honestly the distance really did tear our relationship apart. i became someone that i never was and never wanted to be: jealous, suspicious, etc. if you feel that theres a possibility you might cheat on him or vice versa i suggest leaving things as they are...otherwise it could ruin the friendship you still have. if you are juniors or seniors you could think about getting back together after highschool if its really love
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