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Q: Can you be pregnant if your on your period

If you get your period, that means that you are most definitely NOT pregnant. So, you're good hun!

Q: i want to have the healthiest relationship with my bf. so one thing i need to learn to do is to kill all my expectations!!!!

like i dont want to expect fast replies from him because sometimes hes busy. i dont want to expect him to be really really really really sweet because thats just not how he is all the time.

theres much much more but how do i not have any expectations?!?!?! what sthe easiest way to not have any????????????????????????

Sweetie, everybody has expectations, especially when it comes to relationships. The important thing is to just be honest with each other and all couples need a little space from each other every once in a while (by that, I don't mean to break up with your boyfriend) but yeah little things like texting back fast doesn't matter, what matters is the communication and trust you guys have with one another.

Q: I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.

She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.

I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.

Ideas? Suggestions?

Well the only thing I can think of is if you make the first move but don't do it so obviously and roughly. Be nice and gentle about it. Try not to force the issue either. Hope this helps.

Q: I was with this guy and we were having dry sex. he wasn't wearing any clothes and i was wearing leggings and underwear. during this he came and i was wet from myself. could this cause any problems? I was supposed to get my period yesterday but still havent.

Unless he actually came inside your vagina, then no you cannot be pregnant because he wasn't inside you. Maybe you're late on your period because you're stressing too much.

Q: so basically im having trouble deciding if i should break up with my byfriend he dosnt message me first we barley hang out and when we do we dont really talk we like kiss in stuff i dont know what to do should i stay and see where things go or dump him because honestly i dont feel like we are gonna last

Before you go and break up with him, I really think you should talk to him about this & tell him how you feel. After you talk to him, ask him his opinion about it. If you feel like things aren't gonna change, then break it off and move on to something better. Hope this helps!

Q: How to convince a girl to sex

You can't force a girl to have sex with you if she doesn't want to.

Q: I need a little advice on how to handle a coworkers behavior! I started this part time job about 2 months ago! Everyone has been verynice! One guy in particular has been overly flirtatious, and at first I wasn't sure if it was because I was the new girl or if he really likes me! After some time has passed he's continuously hit on me and its making me a bit uncomfortable! I've already tried the nice polite route and told him I'm not interested and I don't get with people who are in relationships already! He's continued to hit in me still! Again I told him I was all set, a bit more stern! He still doesn't seem to get the idea! Should I tell him again or should I go to management? I don't want to create waves or drama, but I'm uncomfortable!

Honestly, I feel like he doesn't get the message. So, if he keeps it up I suggest you go to management and tell them that you're uncomfortable with this guy & ask them if there's something they can do without creating any drama. It'll make your life a whole lot easier.

Q: Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed)

Anal sex is still sex so now you are no longer a virgin. But the good news is you can't get pregnant if you have anal sex. Just be careful.

Q: An old boyfriend, lives in another state, texts me, calls me, sends me pics of his kids. He is divorced. It was 30+ years that we didn't talk. Found me on facebook. Could this mean he might want to get back together? We share, on the phone, everything going on in our lives. I am a 55 year old woman.

I think he honestly is just trying to make plans with you so you guys can catch up on things. He's being friendly & is maybe trying to become friends with you again & catch up. It won't hurt to talk to him. Hope this helps!

Q: Theres this guy I started talking to around a month ago. I really like him he says he likes me too but sometimes I'm not so sure. In the beginning we talked all the time and we hanged out but lately we've been talking and seeing each other less. He does have a 6 yr old daughter that he has to care for so sometimes I can't see him which I totally understand but it seems like every time we try to make plans he has to cancel on me. He says to be patient with him he's trying to make things work because he likes me and wants to see me but I don't feel really convinced that he does like me. What should I do?

Well since you've only been talking to him a month, I think you should give him more time and see if anything changes. Be patient. If it turns out nothing changes, then maybe you should just break it off and move on.

Q:

I'm 7 months pregnant and my husband keeps joking that I'm fat and I need to loose weight. I gained weight in my face. I was skinny before I was pregnant & I know I won't be skinny after I give birth. But he keeps calling me fat it really hurts my feelings because I feel like he thinks I am disgusting. What should I do?

I think you should have a heart to heart conversation with your husband. Tell him how you really feel and tell him how much it really hurts when he calls you fat and makes fun of you. Maybe he'll understand and maybe he'll stop. Good luck!

Q: Plz help me i think my girlfrnd is cheatng on me

Before you even think about talking to her about it or accusing her about it, make absolutely sure that you have pure solid proof. That way when you confront her about it you have actual proof in case she tries to deny it.

Q: My friend told me that one of her friends is moving to our school. We have a very small school so we'll most likely have all our periods together. Anyways, my friend described this girl as a "Fighter" and that she's crazy.. To be honest, I'm kind of scared :/ Should I just say nothing when I'm at school? I don't want any trouble.

If your friend introduces you to her friend, just be friendly. As long as you respect her, you should be all set.

Q: I am a 15 year old female. I weigh 188.5 lbs. and am 5'7 tall. Lately, I am finding myself with a shorness of breath and irregular heartbeat. I can just get up from a chair and my heart will be racing and beating harder than usual. About a month ago, I would occasionaly have a strange feeling in my chest. I don't really know how to describe it, but it felt like my heart skipped a few beats. Am I showing signs of a heart attack? Please help me, I'm scared.

You're too young to have a heart attack. You were probably nervous about something or having an anxiety attack. If it's still happening, you might wanna make an appointment with your doctor and check it out.

Q: I have a talent show coming up and I don't know what to do have any ideas

well I honestly think you should do something you're BEST at and maybe you'll win your talent show.

Q: Hi BoriquaGirl145, I was wondering if you could give me some advice or tips, basically my situation is that me and my girlfriend are both in our first year at Uni now and it's been a difficult thing to get used to after we were at the same sixth form together. Now she goes to UCA in Canterbury and stays with her nan in Sturry whereas I am studying music in Guildford so it's a long distance relationship now even though she may more closer to me after this year. I won't let long distance ruin the relationship, there is no need because we still see each other every few weeks usually. On week nights where we can't be with each other, we usually text or message one another and she has suffered and does suffer now from slight anxiety issues. She doesn't feel worthless and she sometimes feels like she can't cope. I am doing everything I can to be a comforting and understanding person about this to her, I feel like saying to her I am there for you but every time I say this she tells me to stop lying. I am asking for help because the thing is, I am there for her but I can't physically be there all the time as we are far part from eachother and things prevent us from going to see eachother. Is there anything else I should say to her because I want her to know I'm there for her to talk to, to trust in, to confide with and to be with when we get the opportunities. I don't want to say the wrong thing to her but I know I'm being there for her and I just want her to believe me

Just keep reminding her everyday, just prove it to her by showing her next time you see her. Take her out to somewhere special and surprise her and as long as its just you two, tell her and express to her how much she means to you and how you'll always be there for her no matter what. I hope this helps!

Q: 17/m

So I have friends that are girls, they all say they want a protective boyfriend. Now I kind of know what they mean by that but also I'm still confused because some say they want one but then they get a guy then say their too overprotective or obsessed or something like that.

What is a general idea of a protective boyfriend?

Could you give me examples lol

Thank you

A protective boyfriend is basically a guy that will do anything to protect you. For example, if someone is beefing with you or has any drama with you and tries to hurt you both physically and mentally then the boyfriend will step in and protect you. Also, he gets jealous really easily..

Q: I like my friend at school and she doesn't like dating what do i do?

all you have to do is give it time and try to convince her by just being there for her and treating her really good so that she can see & realize that you're a really good guy and that she should be with you.