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no expectations!!
i want to have the healthiest relationship with my bf. so one thing i need to learn to do is to kill all my expectations!!!!
like i dont want to expect fast replies from him because sometimes hes busy. i dont want to expect him to be really really really really sweet because thats just not how he is all the time.
theres much much more but how do i not have any expectations?!?!?! what sthe easiest way to not have any????????????????????????
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The best way I've found is to constantly remind yourself to not have expectations. For example: If you're texting him, tell yourself that he might not reply back quickly and that that's OK. If its been a while and you start getting anxious, remind yourself again that he's probably busy and that he'll respond later and that that's ok. Same thing with the affection part. Accept that that's just the way he is. If you get anxious or whatever that he's not being as affectionate as you "dream" that he would be. Remind yourself that that's just the way he is and that you accept him the way he is and everything is OK.
Expectations can be a real bitch, especially in relationships. Unmet expectations can cause a lot of unnecessary drama. Accept the other person for how they are. Nobody is perfect. And nobody should have to live catering to someone else's expectations; don't you think? So make your life and his easier by accepting each other the way you are, flaws and all.
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Sweetie, everybody has expectations, especially when it comes to relationships. The important thing is to just be honest with each other and all couples need a little space from each other every once in a while (by that, I don't mean to break up with your boyfriend) but yeah little things like texting back fast doesn't matter, what matters is the communication and trust you guys have with one another.
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Having no expectations is not a good thing.
You should strive to kind, fair and honest. Not try to turn yourself off or pretend you don't have needs and wants.
Healthy expectations are part of a respecting a person. For example, you do your best to respond to people you respect promptly. That's not a crazy thing for you want from your boyfriend—and if you respect that he has other work or obligations that might get in the way—then that is a healthy expectation. You both can expect the other person to take your seriously, and not call your names or try to hurt you. Those are fair expectations too.
Don't try to have any expectations. Just be honest about the ones you do have, and listen to him. Having an expectation doesn't mean it'll be met, but it does mean it's something you should be aware of. Sometimes expectations, are actually really important needs that you can't just make go away.
No one actually wants a partner who is so chill they don't expect ANYTHING, because being that chill, means you don't give a shit. Not about them, or about what you deserve as a person.
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