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I am wanting to move out !
I am a 36 year old female and wanting to move out , but my mom has lied to me all my life saying since she is my payee I have to live with her , but I called social security to confirm and they I don't I can move out and leave her as my payee , so I called my sister she said she would talk to her about letting me move, my sister explained to her even though that I have mental health issues I am still considered a legal adult and need to be given a chance to try to move out on my own and given some independence . The problem is she found my birth certificate and name change paperwork, but refuses to look for my social security card, so had to call so security and make an appointment to get new one and she also refuses to look for my bank statements I need 3 of them because she is my payee the bank won't give them to me unless I have her permission. I don't know what to do and you I don't feel comfortable being my own payee and I don't have anyone else willing to do it besides my mom. I don't know what to do . This is stressing me out. I feel like I am being held prisoner.
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You might try calling DSHS Department of Social and Health Services in your area. They can team you up with a social worker who should be able to help you get set up with the help you need. What I don't understand is why all your documents are not in your own filing systems with social security card and other important cards in your own wallet. If Mom is helping right now, all she needs is a photo copy to have the numbers. One day, Mom will leave this earth and you won't have her around to help. Economic times being bad, she is left to manage your money and it is too tempting to take whatever she needs to pay her own bills. I have heard that problem from many young people who thought that of all people, a parent could be trusted. You may qualify for a caregiver through the state and that person could help get your legal paperwork in order, even though someone else pays your bills, but someone else needs to be aware of whats happening. My husband and I are helping out such a person at our church who has not yet been set up with a payee and care giver. Perhaps there is a church nearby who may have someone willing to help. Or ask sister to help search for another payee for you. I find it suspicious that your mom has lied all this time about your situation. I know of people in your position who are living out on their own and their social worker helped them get set up in housing for the mentally disabled. Its time you had your own place.
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