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How do I handle this?
So I am in a friend with benefits situation with my ex ,but I would like to start dating other people again and I am not sure how to handle the situation because I would still like to just friends and with my ex but without the sex .I just don't know if I need to have a conversation with my ex before I start dating again or do I need to wait until I am on a relationship with someone?
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Be aware that the reason you are friends with benefits with ex, and the reason that he is, may not be for the same reason. Yes, someone you were sexual with is a comfortable, predictable, maybe safe thing. Maybe he feels the same way. Then again, maybe not. There could be some gal or several he sees from time to time and is sexual with and when they are not available, then he can count on you as last chance. I do not know your ex, just that from my dating experiences trying to find someone husband material after a divorce, and had run into all types. One thing I did while dating others was to be honest with each guy I met and let them know that I would be meeting with other guys too until I found one I wanted to stick with solely so I could focus closer and see whether he would be the right match long term. It seemed that all the guys understood that very well and no one became upset by my revelations. So if it were me, I would be honest and let him know I was ready to start dating again but would like to stay friends, however without the sex, as that would be a hard thing for any new boyfriend to accept if it were any other guy, but his girlfriends ex? I don't think any male is going to have that sit right with him. Its enough of a stretch to let a perspective boyfriend hear that you are chummy with your ex. If your ex wants to drop being friends and won't accept your terms, then so be it. If you worry more about losing him as a friend than being free to date, then perhaps you might want to revisit the idea of being married to each other again.
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