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Why do people in relationships stray
I've been with man almost 5 years and in the last almost 2 years he's been talking to other women and calling them beautiful, but gives me barely any attention...yet I work, cook, clean and take care of my 2 kids...I don't wanna leave him but I've brought it to his attention and all he says is they messaged me...yeah ok they did, doesn't mean you need to respond! Oh but he does. So unless something changes I will be leaving him sooner than he thinks.
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Sometimes we become friends with people and with time our feelings, and shared interests change and we feel each other drift apart. Sometimes love is like that, this does not mean you did anything wrong or there were some things about you that were not right.
Not all love relationships are like this but love and marriage work because of mutual effort, you are fulfilling your duty and he must be as well. There is no reason or justification for his behaviour. Thanking women for compliments, calling them pretty and such are all things that appear to be small but theu create large gaps in a relationship. You are his wife, the love of his life, the person he wants to grow old with...if he feels a certain way now, then he should not lie or waste your time.
he is actively responding to the women, that effort spent there could have been time spent with you instead, he is conscious and now that you brought it up, he should have stopped. The women don't stop because they know he will respond.
you are his wife, the mother of his 2 kids, you deserev time and respect and if he can not give it to you, do not let him waste your time. Don't let him waste your energy and time, I suggest you try couple councilling or leave him, find stability in life and then a better partner. All the best.
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I've been with my 2nd husband 15+ years and his devotion and love just keeps growing. Now his personality is one of upholding and being kind to all women so he does pay compliments but I am not overlooked and hear from him all the time that he is the luckiest man on earth and has the best wife of all. First husband didn't know how to love anyone even his kids. So I know the living with a bad guy and a good guy. Yours certainly sounds like the bad guy and is taking you for granted. He must figure you'll always be there and be content begging for the scraps of his attention. If he is willing to go to marriage counseling or maybe just see a counselor himself, then maybe you can wait on him to see what happens. If he refuses like my first husband, then it's time you move on. The children deserve to see you happy and treated well by another man if you go that way. Unfortunately for me, the girls saw how their Dad was with me. The oldest married a man worse than my husband, the middle one was scared of real men and afraid to marry and content to rather date and be the leader in the relationship. The youngest one is married and though not the worst, the husband still could use a lot of improvement. For example, he is a wimp regarding pain from previous injury and my daughter has been the one working full time to add to the little comp. he gets from army. I wish you the best dear in your future.
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