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I've been with man almost 5 years and in the last almost 2 years he's been talking to other women and calling them beautiful, but gives me barely any attention...yet I work, cook, clean and take care of my 2 kids...I don't wanna leave him but I've brought it to his attention and all he says is they messaged me...yeah ok they did, doesn't mean you need to respond! Oh but he does. So unless something changes I will be leaving him sooner than he thinks. (link)
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Sometimes we become friends with people and with time our feelings, and shared interests change and we feel each other drift apart. Sometimes love is like that, this does not mean you did anything wrong or there were some things about you that were not right.
Not all love relationships are like this but love and marriage work because of mutual effort, you are fulfilling your duty and he must be as well. There is no reason or justification for his behaviour. Thanking women for compliments, calling them pretty and such are all things that appear to be small but theu create large gaps in a relationship. You are his wife, the love of his life, the person he wants to grow old with...if he feels a certain way now, then he should not lie or waste your time.
he is actively responding to the women, that effort spent there could have been time spent with you instead, he is conscious and now that you brought it up, he should have stopped. The women don't stop because they know he will respond.
you are his wife, the mother of his 2 kids, you deserev time and respect and if he can not give it to you, do not let him waste your time. Don't let him waste your energy and time, I suggest you try couple councilling or leave him, find stability in life and then a better partner. All the best.
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I will keep this short. I broke up with my bf of 3 years because his life was on pause and he was making no steps to move forwards, no commitments to himself or our relationship and everything felt like it was just hit a wall.
The agreement was that we still loved each other but he agreed he needed to fix his life before we could be together. I told him he could do whatever he wanted, and he reassured me all he wanted was to be with me and make it work. He had a lot of distraction, adhd and other issues related to mental health that he had been avoiding working on for years and I finally said I couldn’t do it anymore unless he got help. He promised he would work hard to get us back on track that he only wanted to be with me.
Now two weeks later I find out he’s now sleeping with someone else. I know rationally that he’s free to do what he likes, but I can’t help but feel disappointed that this is what he chose, probably another distraction, than actually dealing with his issues. It makes me want to throw in the towel and any hope he had made of us getting back together.
Am I crazy for feeling this way and doubting all his words and promises now that I know he’s already sleeping with others? (link)
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Mostly when couples form an agreement, they do it to help the relationship. It's not as if you told him you were dumping him because you found someone better. You were mature and said that his attitude towards life affected others around him and he needed to improve. wanting your partner to become the best version of themselves is an act of love.
I'm so sorry you found out he started doing that. I'm sorry to say this but at least you know who was more loyal to the partnership. You are not crazy for doubting his promise at all, you were faithful, and he broke all of his promises. You have every right to feel anger, resentment or anything you feel. 3 years is not a joke, 3 years of your time, energy and space were spent on him and he paid no mind to all the memories you two share. He has no respect for you and you deserve someone better than him, someone who doesn't suck in your positive vibes and drains you. I wish you all the best in your journey, give yourself time to heal.
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So I am a 34 year old female and I have no friends my age all my friends are at least in there 60's and I have been going to counseling and my counselor says I need to make some friends that are girls my age to just hang out with . I went to church last night my step dad dropped me off because I don't drive. This girl I use to be friends with in highschool asked if I was going to the Christmas at the church and I said I was going to try . She asked if I needed a ride? Does this mean she wants to be my friend again? I said yes. We didn't get in to a fight after highschool we just lost touch. How do I go about asking her to hangout with out sounding weird? I just don't want to send off the wrong message. (link)
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Based on her response, I think she wants to be your friend! Despite your "i will try" suggesting no confirmation, she said that she's got you covered in case you decide to come.
she clearly wants to reconnect with you and if you two are the same age and go to the same Church, you should try asking her to hang out. Making friends as an adult is difficult so remember to be patient and give her the benifit of doubt, theres a low chance of her disliking you. Since she suggested this! If you ask her to hang out, it would be a totally normal message and would tell her that you enjoy her company. Who knows maybe you'll gain another friend. Good luck!
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Me and my sister (both teenage girls, she is 2 years older than me) were shopping together with our mother the other day. I looked at her ass with no actual thought in it, just observing what was around me basically, but my brain started to fixate on the fact that I did that and I started internally yelling at myself for it, but because I was thinking about it I kept looking at her ass over and over. It really did not mean anything, I don’t look at people in that way because I really don’t care but I’m so scared that I am disgusting, that I might subconsciously be attracted to my sister even though I know I’m not and the idea grosses me out. I feel so horrible for looking there, she’s my sister, I never should have looked even though there was no thought in it. My thoughts are worse about this because I’m a lesbian, but I’m not attracted to bodies like that and I wasn’t looking at her in that way. I feel so disgusting and like a monster, I feel like I violated my sister by looking. When I think of my sister now I just think of her ass not because I want to think of it but because I’m so mortified at the fact that I did this. I don’t know what to do. I can’t talk to my family about this obviously because how do I even bring something like this up?? Please I need advice or reassurance or anything, am I really a bad person? I didn’t mean to do anything bad. I’m not attracted to her at all, I was literally just looking around but then I hyper focused on the fact I looked there and then I couldn’t stop looking because I was thinking about it. I feel so gross and terrible, I want to lock myself in my room forever, I’m so scared I might do it again I feel like a horrible sister. Please help me (link)
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Hello. Sometimes we do things with no specific intent in mind but our brain takes it incorrectly and we are forced into "correcting" the situation. It is very normal for the eyes and the brain to zone out, I think that is what you were experiencing. The fact that you were staring at your sister's butt does not make you a bad person. The guilt you feel ensures that you are a good person. Bad people do not question themselves or think about their actions.
The reason you think of her butt when you think of her is because you have associated your past actions with her. She is your sister. You are not attracted to her. These are facts. You are a lesbian but that does not mean you feel attracted to every woman.
I suggest you talk to her normally, and joke around but start small. Maybe offer her a sandwich or ask her a question. During these moments, force yourself to think about other things, like what she is saying or anything else. the guilt you feel is what is troubling you. There is no reason to feel guilty because you did not have any negative or any intention in mind. Please do not be so hard on yourself.
I wish I saw this earlier so I apologise for the late answer. I hope this was helpful.
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i need advice for one of my problem i dont know what to do .could you help me .I had 2 friends in highschool but becuse of some problems in the past i had to keep distance from them.but they are not the cause of it.its me iam the problem.but after years also they msg me and tell me they want to see me talk to me .but when i think about them i think about my hurtful past abd its givivgvme pain .what should i do.iam in total confusion .i dont know what to do .its not their mistake that i distance from them but its just that they remind me of the dark past that i want to forget .what should i do should I reunite with them or should i ingnore them.when i ingnore them i feel like iam doing something wring but if I think about facing them i feel anxious, fear my heart beat began to raise .can you plese help me could you advice me on what should I do (link)
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Hello. Hope you are well. From what I have gathered, your no longer friends are not at fault but they remind you of bad things so you cut ties to improve your mental health. There is nothing wrong with that but if they keep texting you or asking about you, it shows that they still care for you and are worried.
You don't have to bring them back in your life, but you can send them a message explaining why you are doing this to provide them closure. It would also end the relationship on a good note. You can not change the past but you can help them understand why you don't want to talk to them. I hope it settles down for you and that you feel better soon.
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