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I have anxiety and I’m being triggered
I want to cry, I had enough! I’ve been living on my own for almost 2 1/2 years since graduating college. I’ve worked hard to get to where I’m at. In college, I had a high GPA and my goals have always been to better myself both mentally, financially, and spiritually. This has been a long journey and I’ve been to therapy and plan to go back. But I’m triggered by my current living situation. I live in an area that is known as a nice neighborhood but the last two people in my building have been disrupting my peace. One of the guy is across from me in my bedroom and he used to allow his alarm to go off at 4:00AM in the morning and he would have his tv loud. Nevertheless, I started sleeping in my living room. I did tell the property manager several time and he did stop with the alarm but then he started having his tv loud.
Then, I got new neighbors next door to me. I stopped sleeping in my living room because they are talking loud all night. Now, I’m back in my bedroom with a white noise machine.
But the neighbors in my living are talking loud when I’m working it only last 15 minutes today. I’m documenting it.
I just get emotional about self like this because I’m doing everything right. I go to work, have a small group of friend, no man drama, but I’m having issues with people I don’t even know. I also feel unprotected like who has my back. I’m not saying my friends and family don’t but sometimes I wish I lived with someone that could address issues since I’m not confrontational.
Just wanted to get things off my chest
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I believe I may have already answered you, with several suggestions. Having reviewed your description, however, it seems to me that the best solution is for you to move. Try not to take this personally, its people being thrust together in close quarters, including those who are inconsiderate and oblivious to how they affect others. Good luck and good wishes, ~Dr. Stephanie
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You have simply been unlucky to get neighbors who are noisy. I assume previous tenants were quiet. If so, make sure your manager knows you had no problem with previous neighbors, that the new ones are truly much noisier. You may want to point out this fact so they take you seriously and don't feel you are just a complainer.
I tend to make it a point to meet all my neighbors including new ones just moving in. I don't become best friends but do so to get on a talking basis first. That way you get a feel for your noisy neighbors, and can see if they are a-holes or nice people. The a=holes you leave for manager to handle and the nice ones, you ask if they can hear a lot of noise from neighbors including you. Mention the walls must be thin because you can hear them. Keep a smile on your face and mention that In fact even their conversations late at night have interrupted your sleep. Then say that you wonder if there is any easy solution you and they could come up with. Maybe they can be conscious of where they hold a conversation and do so away from the wall that is shared by your apt. I knew all my neighbors by name and would greet them whenever I saw them. This helped with being able to approach a neighbor later if need be and it actually helped us when we had to move out a heavy old couch that was too heavy for me to help hubby with. Hubby had never met the neighbors. I was glad I had cus i knew the guy of the couple next door and asked for his help moving the couch out and he dropped everything to come help right that moment. You never know how this could help youl in the future. This is a opportunity for you to learn some skill in conversing with people so you won't feel so confrontational when having to share something not so nice. All people shut down and can get upset when someone points out something they are doing wrong. So the best way is to talk to them as if telling your very best friend about something she started doing that is bothering you....you do so without laying the blame at their feet. Here is where I will make up things so others feel more comfortable like they can relate to me. I say, I know its an older building with not enough insulation so walls transfer sound easily. So sometimes, even I have seemed noisy to neighbors. Maybe if we know each others routines, we can help each other to avoid even a reasonable amount of normal noise to not bother each other. Do what you can this way first and if it doesn't work, you might ask manager to let you move to the next available apt with quiet neighbors. Be sure to try for an apt at an end of the building so you only share one wall.
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