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my boyfriend hugged me today for the first time, twice!!
So my boyfriend hugged me today for the first time, twice!! One was a dare and the other was normal. When he did it for the dare, did he do it just for it, or he did it because he loves me??
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If he likes you he really shouldn't have had to be dared by anyone but then again he could be really shy and egged on to do it finally. I think the best idea is to talk about it and find out what he thought in the moment. When he did it for the second time and there was nothing forced about it and on his own I think it was genuine.
Teenage boys (I was one) are weird and awkward, most of them around girls they are really into. I think you have to take the lead here and tell him to relax and that you aren't going anywhere. I think that's where you both need to start. Admit you like one another and chill out and let stuff unfold naturally.
I think the hardest thing for teenage guys and girls is that first hug or kiss but it will come when it does and will feel like relief. I think all you both need to do is be honest with one another about your feelings because I would bet they are 100% in line and he's afraid of the same stuff you are and feeling awkward. Things should go really smoothly after you talk to each other.
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I think that if you were truly boyfriend and girlfriend, you would know why he hugged you. Since it was for the first time, I have to assume you are in a new relationship and that you haven't known each other long enough to consider him your boyfriend yet.
Do know that guys will gladly hug girls, if given half a chance, and that it most likely has less to do with "loving" you, that with sexual attraction to anyone female.
Take it easy, relax, and don't put too much importance on interpreting the meaning of the hugs. Good wishes ~Dr.Stephanie
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Guys are not quick to admit they love a gal. So asking him won't get you an answer. He was shy enough to give a hug. Can't say if he feared you'd hate it, you didn't have the same feelings. And then, there's hugs from a romantic partner and hugs from a friend. So you can't tell from just a hug. Yet a guy won't even touch a girl in any way if not interested, even as a friend because of the fear the gal will read into it and be encouraged that he likes her romantically when that was not the reasonk for the hug. NOw that he has hugged you, if you want a hug in greeting or when leaving, give him one. Then just focus on being good friends. Later after you've spent time as good friends, you ask, "Since we are doing great as friends, I was wondering how we'd do together as more than friends. What to you think?" Memorize that bit. You have to ask the question at thej end for his opinion. This way, you are not declaring love which could scare a guy away. If he asks why you ask. Don't admit anything other than you just had that thought pop into your head. If he does want to explore a romantic relationship, he will jump at the excuse to have a chance without saying out loud he likes you. If he doesn't feel the same way, he will tell you he doesnt have those kinds of feelings for you or that it wouldn't work. Guys won't usually tell a girl no for fear of waterworks and upset feelings on part of the gal. So make sure you do not re act in a way that he will clam up and never say a thing again.
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