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This guy is always selling himself to me
This man i met from tinder is regularly video chatting with me to keep me company in the quarantine and we get along well. But he does this strange thing, he is always telling me how great he is... to the point where i get uncomfortable.
He says things like “Every girl that has ever left me always came back to see if we could try it again but i don’t see any point in taking someone back who took me for granted”
“My ex keeps video chatting me and showing me her breasts and her butt and her vagina and all i ask is ‘how is your mom doing?’ “
“I take care of my friends so well to the point where if one of my friends tells me he is going through a financial struggle, i would take a GROUP of my friends out and pay for ALL of them so that my one friend won’t feel like I’m giving him handouts”
I’m not sure if these are good examples, but he sounds like he’s trying to convince me to be with him because no one has seen the value in him but him. It’s become a red flag in my eyes. There’s something wrong here but I’d like to know what exactly.
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Dear Selling Himself,
It sounds like you do not like this guy telling you how great he thinks he is. It sounds like you may have reason to be concerned. When people go on and on this way, it shows that they are very insecure. He sounds like he needs a lot of attention. It sounds like he is trying to tell you what a great guy he is, but you are correctly identifying that a man of value would not need to do this. This is a red flag. It doesn't mean he's necessarily a bad guy, but I would definitely keep an eye on this. As far as the additional information you gave about him not paying for his own food, I would avoid paying for him in the future. It sounds like he is so self absorbed he has decided you should pay for his stuff.
Best of luck,
Little Owl
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Trust your gut always. If you feel uncomfortable because of something he's saying and or doing than take that as a sign to get out of the situation. Perhaps he's harmless and perhaps he isn't but if something is constantly telling you something is wrong it's almost always right. As far as knowing the reasons why the situation is wrong or why he acts a certain way it really doesn't matter. What does matter is your safety and comfort and right now you feel both aren't there around him. That's really all you need. I would bail on the situation. It's always better to be safe than not especially if he's making you feel icky and constantly being inappropriate.
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