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Can a 12 year age difference work out?
I am love someone,and I am12 year older than her can our relationship workout????
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Age differences are very much relative. To take an example, a child of twelve will have very little in common with a 24 year old adult. And it would be a very odd world if they did. A child of twelve with the mind of an adult, and vice versa! But what about 20 and 32? The two will likely share a similar set of life experiences, have similar values etc. By the time we get to 30 and 42 the playing field is even more level. Where age differences are very great (and I do not consider 12 years very great) there can well be issues that will take considerable effort to work around. Any children would have a one unusually old parent. And we could easily envisage a scenario where one is still relatively young, pushing their partner around in a wheelchair. This hardly likely to feature in their expectations of a relationship. Of course, none of have a crystal ball and can predict which relationships 'work out' and which do not. But personally I would not advise you dismiss one based on a 12 year age difference. Providing you are both adults at the moment of course.
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Depends on the ages of the two people. If one person is still under mid twenties, it is better to wait until that person is older. I mention 25 as that is the age when most teens finally reach the point where the frontal lobe of brain is finally done growing and is mature. Until then, this part of brain which covers decision making, looking ahead to see consequences and such, is very immature and mostly the reason why so often teens make some really dumb mistakes, I know cus I was one and though fairly intelligent, when it came to handling something more significant, I fell flat sometimes. Other than that, the age shouldn't matter. The are couple with even greater age gaps and it works for them if they have enough in common and don't mind the age gap mentally as far as the things you are familiar with, and the difference of of the things you learned as a kid and teen. I have experience in that after a divorce and some dating, I met a guy who befriended me. And there was twenty seven years between us. I did not feel the chemistry for a melding of our minds and i knew that I wanted someone who there was friend chemistry as well as romantic chemistry. He even complained that I did not understand him or didnt find something he bought as interesting because the language, the items were things my own kids, the same age range liked and slang they understood. Words like "sorry, my bad" I did not grow up with and I eventually learned by observance of when it was used, as to what it was supposed to mean. It alone doesn't make sense to me to this day but more sensical is saying,, "sorry, My mistake" I don't like comparing mistakes to being something bad as mistakes are the way we learn. So it really depends much on how the two can blend both their generations and meet somewhere in the middle. I did eventually meet a man and I remarried. My husband was also a person who tended to like having a partner other than him, especially since older females were more settled, understanding, confident and so on. Although he's only a year younger than me so theres no big gap in other things.
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