Question Posted Thursday February 27 2020, 7:17 pm
I’m 13 and a female. I was bored and was reading weird stuff and recently got a boyfriend. I think it’s way worst now a days with 13 year olds doing out ragous stuff, have you even seen tiktok¿ it’s horrible what Dani Cohn was and still is doing. I’m sorry teenagers and tweens are so horny these days. With respect. Thanks.
What I can state is that being horny isn't something that just simply began to happen in our age and time. ITs always been like that. However in the past, young people were taught and raised differently. Parents still had trouble telling their offspring about the birds and bees but kids were taught to practice self control and wait until marriage. That is why may married rather than stay single as masturbation was something engrained in them as not right. As a teen, I had health and sex ed classes. Most schools no longer have that, and even that wasn't enough, just learning the basics of what body changes sexually were normal, study of the sex organs and how a baby is created. There was still nothing to teach how to avoid getting pregnant young, what to do if horny, and religious teachings that messed up a lot of good people who began to think anything about sex was evil unless within the bounds of marriage and even then, one was restricted to just basics, missionary position, and just penis in vagina sex not for pleasure but just to procreate. So although kids have found out much more on their own today, there still is very little known by teens, and they have no reasons to make a decision to wait until they are older for sex because there are condoms or the day after pill to help. No one is taught to masturbate or to keep their sexual urges to themselves but rape their dates,, date rape drugs, strangers exposing themselves to unknown people and raping women just because they were never taught that forcing someone to have sex or tricking and lying to them to get sex if okay. THen there is the non sex stuff but equally important of how to be able to relate to other people of both sexes. There is teaching today on how to accept people of any sexual orientation, and that is good but still all the rest is still not taught, no classes one c an take to learn, and parents who don't teach their kids because they don't know any more themselves. So if you are concerned about having a healthy relationship, which is not what you see your peers stumbling around pretending to do well, you have to want to learn and self teach. All I can think of to steer you in the right direction is to mention so here is a link:
Laci started self teaching as a teen and realized so many young people had no good place to go to learn and much of info out there was wrong or twisted or only a part of whats needed to know. She began to work with Planned parenthood and began to teach others the real facts so they could make informed good decisions for themselves on anything to do with relationships and sex and as an adult went on to teach as a guest in colleges. SHe makes the videos on you tube short to the point and entertaining. I am in my 60s and still haven't found anything as easy to get a hold of that is on you tube. Maybe there are some great books out there but kids may not have patience to read or money to buy. So now you can spend hours upon hours of watching her short videos. There is much info in each one so I suggest watching each more than once or twice and going back to refresh your memory on others.
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