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stalker help
40/m, USA. There's this old white guy that always stares at me (I'm not white) when I get anywhere within eyeshot of his house. If I do happen to walk by his house, he just stands there and stares at me the whole time. When he sees me and I'm not on his block, he will follow me in his car real slowly. Then drive fast, after going past me, then he'll wait at the end of the street and not proceed unless I change course. Then come right back. I also think he took a shirt of mine that was in my car once when I was parked in his favorite parking spot. I'm guessing he's gonna try to frame me with it, that I broke into his house or something and my shirt is proof or any hair that might be in the shirt, as proof that I was in there. I walk a lot, and a lot of times he sees me, he will follow me. Sometimes he'll just go in circles to keep an eye on me. One time I was parked in his favorite spot for 2 days and he said he would call the cops or have my car towed for the 3 day rule. He thinks he owns that spot apparently. He has it out for me, I haven't done anything to him or his stuff. But he keeps an eye on me like I'm gonna do something. What should I do? This is a primarily non-white area. I was thinking about talking to him, asking him to stop or I'll tell all his neighbors he's racist. But I dunno if that's a good idea. Race is the only reason I can think of for his behavior. I think I'm just gonna film him when he's following me. But any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
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I would recommend that you go to the police and report him, this stuff you're describing isn't normal and something needs to be done about it to avoid anything potentially bad happening to you.
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Yup, that's really strange behavior on his part. If I were you, I'd feel spooked about it too. I was thinking you'd say its a predominantly white neighborhood but but you said non white area so I am thinking that means anything else, black, hispanic, etc. He would be the one who is out of place in the neighborhood and if he is racist, my thoughts are, Why is he picking on only you and not other neighbors who are not white? That is a big a question. If you approached him to state you've noticed him following you around, the guy could feel threatened. He might deny doing anything like that. Who knows. Maybe he's seen someone who looks like a doppelganger, meaning just like you and knows that pertson and wonders why you pretty much ignore him and donsame 't act as if you know him, not knowing you aren't the person. I would think talking with him is best but then, I am white and can do so without fear of a racist attacking me for no reason. It might be safest to get in touch with a private investigator, someone who could watch whats going on from driving or walking by when you call and say it's happening. I suppose he can take photos, video of this man following you. How ever, so far, he hasn't done anything that courts could use as concrete evidence against him. What he says and what he does can be used to protect yourself if you have proof and it would be too obvious if you are doing the filming. So as long as anyone else does it, you have proof to take to the police. And there is such a thing as a nuisance restraining order in my area...heard it from a police officer when a man started following my husband and I around. You could just call the police and ask them what the laws are in your area and mention what is going on. The important part is to have a paper trail of complaint as to what he is doing, even if alone he isn't breaking any laws.
About the missing shirt, I can see how you might wonder and come up with those conclusions based on his strange behavior. However, that isn't even circumstantial evidence. Circumstantial evidence would be another neighbor who claims to have seen someone that looks like him opening or shutting your car door. A video of him doing that, would be direct evidence as his face is on it. So you may either want to ta lk to a private investigator or simply file a complaint with the police. Then if the man does something worse in the future that can be proven, if there is a paper trail of previous strange behavior such as stalking you, instead of a warning, that makes it more evidence to put such a person behind bars for a while.
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