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My gut is telling me something is off
Well, I notice one of the hire up is being weird towards me. She’s a supervisor but not my supervisor. I notice this change after I asked my supervisor for a raise probably two months ago. I didn’t get it by way but I didn’t let it bother me. I accepted it and decided I would use it to motivate me. Well, I wondering if my supervisor told her I asked for a raise because ever since then she has been acting differently. For instance, we were coming into the office and she went the opposite direction. I held the door for her she didn’t say thank you. She question me about my work.
One thing that stand out is the she is constantly emailing me about my work and copying my supervisor. I’m not sure why he’s allowing her to do that. I’m wondering why is she doing it and not him. I’m also approaching my 2 year mark I have been doing good. Is she worried I might be promoted? How do I deal with a person who doesn’t like me?
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YOu say she is not your supervisor but emails you and copies in your supervisor. What you did not say is whether she is your supervisors boss, the person above him. If she is, then she has a right to meddle in what you do if she has talked to your supervisor about the problems and asked him to address it but he hasn't. It is very bad manners in any business setting to go over the head of any titled position and try to correct those the supervisor is directly responsible for. Copying him in is not making it a better move.
So you are saying that she pretty much ignored you until you asked your boss for a raise. I am not sure if you asked for a raise only or for a promotion. Those are two different things since a person usually gets a raise with a higher position but a person can still stay at the same position but also get a raise, a smaller one. Although I've been around long enough to see the economy has not been improving, there are more homeless who used to be professionals, like bankers and such. Most companies today can barely exist and many have shut down. Those still around are paying the lowest they can get away with, so minimum wage and not giving a cost of living raise once a year, as I used to get. That stopped a long time ago. Some companies can't even afford to offer health care or its such a crappy one cus its the cheapest. If you think she is worried that you will advance to take her position , I wouldn't entertain that thought. There are plenty of people in supervisor positions today who would have been fired decades past for making too many mistakes a supervisor shouldn't make. You only suspect your boss of telling her about you asking, no facts to prove it if it means the kind of facts that would hold up in court. You also do not know why her attidtude to you changed and how it seems you are on her radar. If she is not over your supervisor, then it is wrong for her to be critiqueing your work unless for some odd reason, your supervisor asked her to. This is all unproveable, The only thing you have that you can talk to your boss about is the fact that she emails you and copies in your boss. That is what I would talk to my boss about if it was happening to me.
I would check first to see if he is aware of the emails she is sending to you and copying him in on. You do not even know if he has opened and read them. Your others ideas are suspicions which plenty people normally would get but you have to stick to the facts. So ask him why she is sending you emails regarding the work you do if she is not your boss. You can ask him if he asked her to do this. You can go to HR and ask them why a supervisor who is not your appointed supervisor is emailing you about how you do your job and ask them if something changed that you are not aware of where you now have two supervisors working together on you when everyone else in your department has only one supervisor, him. Is she the one who will write my reviews from now on, even if she is not my boss. If not, I don't see any reason why she should make herself involved. And then see what HR has to say about it. If something doesn't happen and her higher ups don't tell her to stop but you know from HR and have a letter from them as proof where they write that she is not responsible for you and you don't answer to her, then stop opening her emails, but save them, transfer maybe to another file. Either she will be asked to correct her behavior, because either way, whatever her position, she is doing something wrong to you or to your boss and you. She may get her job done and be valuable to the company, even if she does weird stuff like this so the company overlooks it. YOu simply need to learn whether that is the case or not.
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