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Me and my guy problems lol
I have the worst of luck with guys and I have lots of book resources, I'm not sure why I can't find a decent guy to date. I am currently working on myself and it would be nice to date for once. Anyways, I know of this guy and I'd say he is probably 7 years younger than me. Needless to say there is a huge gap and not to mention maturity. I want to know why he is always around me then completely flakey. I get the notion he cares too much about what people think of him and is a bit weird. He is a nice looking kid and I might think he might be in the closet. Why is it so hard for us to be friends or connect? He's around me non-stop and looks at me ALOT. Btw we are swing dancers, in class he makes me laugh and I overall get the sense he's a smart guy. I have tried to contact him on facebook and he has ignored my messages. But, honestly I'm not sure why he's always around me and staring at me. He talks to other girls and I just think he's a bit strange. I've heard he's called me stuck-up, but honestly he is lol. I'm not sure if he's at the age where he likes women romantically and he dances with his guy friend a lot. Hence I get the fear he might be bi. Why is he acting like this all the time? He's a child, but honestly I think he would make a fun friend. A friend of mine thinks he is fake, I just think he has a lot of growing up to do. I can't change him and some other friends said they used to be friends with him.
What's his deal? I get it, he thinks I'm attractive. What's up with his fascade?
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You are over analyzing this and that's a part of the problem. Next you're being judgmental. You don't know him but have already thought him less mature than you and think he cares too much what others think of him. On top of that you're questioning his sexuality and thinking of him as a bit strange.
How do you want him to see you? Can you see why he might think you're a snob or whatever else? It doesn't feel good. You've also thought of him as a "child" for being socially awkward. There are a lot of socially awkward people and to a degree you are like that too but quite often they are the most honest people, friends and suitable partners. Unless you're over 18 and he's under an age gap usually isn't a big deal.
We all have this idea in our heads of what a perfect partner looks like and what we think we're looking for but we can't let any of that cloud our judgment or we might miss the perfect person in front of you. It could be this is a person you're meant to be with and or have as a friend. Allow yourself to be open to anyone and anything.
As far as your friends go their thoughts and prior interactions and friendships or relationships are their's not yours. You have to go in finding out for your ownself what he is or isn't to you by interacting.
No doubt he has a sense of humor if you can make one another laugh. That's good and so is an interest in dance. You should tell him "My friends tell me you think I'm a snob." Use that to get him to laugh and then introduce yourself and mention you're an introvert not an extrovert but would love the opportunity to get to know him. That will work. Show you're genuinely interested in getting to know him.
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