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My wife is aware of my crossdressing and i feel gulty
Ive been attracted to crossdress since i was a child. I met a wonderful woman about 5 years ago. From the beginning i was clear about how i liked to dress from time to time and she fully accepted me. I'm not attracted to males at all. I just love to wear female clothes. However...
We got married a couple of years ago and got pregnant. She agreed I could get dressed as long as she wouldn't see me or never be seen out in public as a crossdresser. That's hard to do since i didn't have a room to be my alter ego and there was nowhere to store my clothes without she noticing. I have no interest in be seen by her or anyone else. While pregnancy sex became monotonous and i wanted to experiment prostate stimulation. I told her briefly what i wanted to try but I had no reaction whatsoever. So i ordered a couple of toys online and tried them. I really like them. Now my problem is that i had to rent a studio close home where i can be my other self for a couple of hours and try my toys and I feel awful for that. I feel like I'm cheating on her but I'm actually not.
I don't know what to do or say.
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Who says you have to be perfect? Sexuality is a lot like finding your own true personality, self identity. No need in lying or denying what pleases you.
As long as you can successfully and attentivley fulfill the roles of Husband and Father; your private time should not affect your life. There is a diffrence between cheating and masturbation. When someone masterbates it is a natural stimulation of self pleasure. But, in contrast cheating involves one or more partners outside of the relationship or marriage.
Relax. Live.
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You do understand the difference between lets say, unconditional love and conditional love, right? The latter has conditions that must be met before they will love you. I think the same thing is happening with this. You said she fully accepted you. If she had fully accepted you, then she would not have conditions to meet for her to be Okay with it like not going like that out in public and her not wanting to see you that way. Knowing this, she was willing to marry you and here you are. Cheating on her would be if you spent time with another person, not your own alter ego. I am not saying theres anything wrong with wanting to do so. I read about a husband whose profession was doing stage acts, dreased as a woman but when not at work, he was a normal red blooded male with family at home. You do have to think about whether it is confusing to a child to see cross-dressing as they grow up as they always want to copy parents and that is the only problem I see if they are straight and not transgender, and they copy you, there may be questions among their peers. So I can see that as a reason to not dress so at home. But the wife not wanting to see you that way, that is something to work all the issues out in professional counseling, with someone who is LGBTQ friendly so they won't try to fix you. So that is my best suggestion. I see spending all the extra money having your own separate place to be able to do this other stuff. Thats a lot of money to live out your wishes and attractions. I would think that eventually, you couldn't contunue to pay for two places.
kYou already know what the extreme answers are and I am sure you do not want to go there so instead of shoving this to a corner of your mind and never going there again for the rest of your life, or finding a new mate who is into this and will support it so you don't need a separate place, I would try couple counseling first. She may be saying one thing but truly thinking and feeling another and not be okay with this at all.
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