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So my crush has a girlfriend, whom I was friends with through middle school who would isolate one person out of the friend group to herself and needed attention a lot. Anyways I know this girl for about 5 years( now were sophomores) throughout high school we separated and were not friends anymore, and I felt relieved that she wasn't my friend anymore (I know sounds horrible) but this year we started talking a bit since my sister would force me to go to these outings with a group with her.
Now she is dating my crush, that I liked, she doesn't know this. They literally just meet on a group chat. even the girl admitted about two weeks ago to another friend of mine that she didn't like him like that, but he asked her out..... I'm just shocked. Their relationship is more flirty and sexual*vomits* on text because we're in a group chat with them. But in person, it just looks awkward.. The painful things I saw today was his phone screensaver and they were walking together with my group friends as I pass. I don't know why but it actually physically made my stomach hurt, my anxiety was pretty bad from that. I have to accept that things won't change even when it hurts... I just need help to get over this crush and not having bitter feelings towards this girl who actually wants to be my friend once again, even how much I want to yell in this girl's face. (link)
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I read your story. Anxiety and Crush Feelings are natutral. But that does not mean that there is not someone even more attractive and worth looking for and made especially for you. There is a whole wide world out there. Go to the library, the coffee shop, look out for guys that hold the door for you and who do not ahve a wedding ring on their finger.
Furthermore, If you find someone interesting.. do not blow it by sleeping with them and over texting them. Just take it casual, weekly lunches when able.
Then, maybe a movuie at the public theatres. Then maybe a discussion about the movie and a short walk around the downtown.
Think about it.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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I went to Viet Nam in 1965 with the 1st Brigade 101st Airborne Division. I am proud to have served and I like wearing memorabilia of my unit. My question is: Does any one know where I can obtain an
honest to God real Maroon colored U.S. Army Airborne Beret? I have bought several replicas, but, I want the real thing. I don't know whether the unit flashes are on them, but, I was in the 2nd Battalion
327th Infantry (Airborne). Any help you can give would be appreciated. Thank you. (link)
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I read your question. I first thank you for your service. I love this country, America the beautiful and you are truly one of the brave. Now, times have changed since the 1960s... If you look on Amazon or eBay under "used" memorabilia of what you are looking for, you then should be able to find exactly the authentic version of what you are seeking. Do you have the pins to go on the beret?
Try these links below;
https://www.usamilitarymedals.com/products/airborne-unformed-maroon-beret?variant=850036347&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=Google%20Shopping&gclid=Cj0KCQjwrrXtBRCKARIsAMbU6bG-sR9ChRznTc2h72kK8G8c-qKWwNwB5FmIBLaWeyBpJ2DR_BHGMb4aAtP8EALw_wcB
Best of Luck & Thanks Again for Your Service
MisterAdvice101
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I have been friends with these girls for 10 years let’s call them C and S. just last year we started hanging out with another girl, let’s call her K. K is very dramatic and can be very harsh. Recently we have been hangeing out with a girl named A. One day K decided that she doesn’t like A and started talk very badly about her. Then S got influenced by that and started not liking her as well. They are both being very mean to her. Walking away when she comes, talking bad about her when she is standing right beside them. Recently it’s been really bad and I just never expected S to act this mean. I sort of expected it from K. But I just could have never predicted that S who is a sweet girl that never wanted to hurt anyone could be so mean and fake and careless of someone’s feelings. I am the only one that seems to not hate her there for they always leave me with her. Today K said that she can’t hang out with us as much any more because she can’t deal with A. She said that she doesn’t want to make us stop hanging out with A so she is just gonna step back. I thought that was a very mature decision. But the more she talk about it the more a realize that she is trying to manipulate us. It’s working on S but not me. She is trying reverse psychology. It went from I don’t want to make you stop hanging out with her to why do you even hang out with her, I hate the fact that she is making me do this. I’m worried that she is gonna make us pick between her and A. I know for a fact S will have no problem picking K but the soul fact the she might be making us pick makes me wanna pick A. It’s not like I’m closer to A or anything it’s just that I don’t agree with how they are acting. Like I know it’s normal not to like someone but they are being really mean and harsh about it. Today after K said everything, her and S walk away AGAIN and when we went to go follow them they started to walk fast and faster, then they started RUNNING always, A was calling S name but she just kept running, to make them stop I had to yell at S and she stopped because I had never yelled at her, it was just horrible. But I can’t lose S. I love her so much and I can’t leave her. What she is doing and how she is reacting I do not like at all. I just don’t know how to handle it. I want to talk to them about it but I have tried multiple times but they are not really listening and now there is this tension that won’t go away between us. I have never fought with S ever and I can’t handle it. She has changed because of K and I don’t like it but I’m not just going to leave. I almost want to not lose them completely but she them that I don’t agree with what they are doing in a way that they will really listen. I just don’t know what to do pls help because so have a feeling that if I don’t figure it out soon im going to do something I regret (link)
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I read your detailed dilemma. First, Loyalty is key in friendships. Grab hold and secure the frindships you have had with C and S first. Then get the two of them together and discuss how they feel about K.
Secondly, I feel that by reading your side and being an unbiased advisor.. K is a bad influence on your friednships with your girlfriends. Some people come in your life your a lifetime and some come in your life and only stay a season.
Ultimately, it is up to you, but trust your gut and pay attention to the vibes you get when you are around K versus A. However, there is not much known in worded detail about how everyone feels about A. I feel there are too many spoons in the friends pot. Before you bring new frinds into the circle everyone has to be at least 80$ cool with it. 80% and 60% makes a big difference. The leverage is everything. So confide and consult with your tenure friends first then go from there.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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I had previously been in 4 relationships before i met this guy.. At the start of our relationship i lied to him that i only had one relation and that he was my 2nd one, but later on he came to know abou my previous relation when he found our earlier chats on fb and came to know the truth about my 4th relation..and i was physically close to the 4th guy but we never had sex.. But when my bf came to know about this we already had sex and this was my first time..so he was sad and frustrated on knowing abouth my 4th guy and that we were very close. So he brokeup later on bcoz of the gulit of making him sad and losing my virginity to him i said sorry to him..and we were back in relation but sometime later he came to know about the 3rd guy i previously had relation then again he was angry by all this things his personality changed a lot he was all the time angry on me even for small things but knowing this too he continued the relation but it was really had for me bcoz there were so many fights btwn u.. He was very possessive he wouldn't allow me to talk any of my boy clzmates on the account of my
relation but still i stayed bcoz of the reason how committed he is to me and that i lost to him everything..seeing his commitment i said to him about my 2nd relation which just lasted for 1month to which i said yes while i was recovering from my first love..but after 1month i realises i didn't actually love this guy and also told my bf that me and the 4th guy were physically close..on hearing he was again frustrated and sad,bcoz all this he became more and more possessive but he was too caring and loved me soo much..but there was this guy his friend whom i had crush since tge first time i saw him i nver talked to this guy but i had huge crush on him so i would sometimes look his social accounts..My bf found about this again there was huge fight between us again then again we solved it but he was using bad words to me he had anger issues.. But if i needed anything he would always be there for me..but these days all the possessiveness and anger are getting more and more and i want to go abroad after my studies but he wants to stay in the country and he said he wouldn't allow me to go abroad too.. Because of all this i am confused whether to leave him and be free from his possession and go after my dreams or should i stay bcoz he maybe the only person who would love me even after knowing all my past and be there for me.. Can anyone advice me (link)
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I read your story. Now, you need to understand that in order for someone to be in a relationship they want to be able to trust you and love you despite your wrong doings and even your short cummings.
Secondly, If this is the 5th relationship for you and you want it to last, remove contact from any outside influences of your current relationship.
If you have anything worth telling your boyfriend or partner, now is the time to tell him. Break it down to him easy and delicate. But also that means you need to walk a fine line from this moment forward.. No reflecting on old relationships with this one. The old has nothing to do with the current waves. Understood? If he's the keeper, he will understand and be able to move forward with your from this.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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27/f he’s 28/m
Hey guys! I just need some advice on my current situation. I met this guy online about 2 years ago. We talked a lot at this time and I went to his house to hang out we didn’t do anything sexual.. New Year’s Eve of 2018 we were both drunk and I drove to his house after late at night and we had sex. The sex was amazing it was passionate. After that he kind of would ignore me and our relationship turned into only having sex on his terms. I got attached and I got feelings. The things he would say to me while we were in person I believed. That he’s not seeing anybody else, that he’s into me. But then once I get home doesn’t answer my text doesn’t talk to me. He’s had sex with me while he has had a girlfriend also so I almost feel like he always comes back to me and that there will always be hope. The most recent situation was back in June we had sex I ended up wearing one of his t shirts home and I forgot my shirt at his apartment. I joked being like yeah just give me a shirt that you don’t care about because I know you won’t talk to me after this.. he reassured me I worked hard for that shirt blah blah blah. I accidentally left my shirt didn’t talk to him for a few months because he wouldn’t answer my texts Snapchat whatever. I was drunk one night and messaged him saying hey do you still have my shirt? And this mofo said no it’s been 7 months I threw it away like first it’s been 3 months . Wtf!!!!! I don’t wear cheap clothes threw my shirt away???? I texted him flipping out saying how much I have feelings for him and he actually hurt me and treats me like nothing. Like I would have given you money to mail m6 shirt back... He wrote back that he was sorry he was selfish he had no idea I felt this way. “I know your a great girl I didn’t know you felt like that and I’m sorry for hurting you it wasn’t intentional” a few weeks later.. my friend and I went to this bar right across from his apartment I texted him saying that we were at a bar and if he wanted to meet up. He was like I thought you hated me bc I basically ripped him apart when I last texted him. I told him but I wouldn’t mind seeing you. He invited us over his apartment i think he was already drunk I’m not sure.. we drank and smoked and he kept complimenting me in front of my friend and made eye contact. My friend even kept calling him out being like Steph he doesn’t stop talking about you. We ended up going upstairs my friend and I decided that if we kept drinking more we both wouldn’t say no to a 3 sum... we were in his room and he put the song on “yours” by Russell Dickerson and said that he put this song on for me. Kept saying all these things that he’s into me. The three of us were hooking up and then before we could even have sex this kid Falls asleep!!!! I think he was so drunk and stoned he was hard then went soft and fell asleep. He slept with his arm around me all night and then in the morning kissed me.. that was my night. I went home in the morning texted him at like 4:00 being like I had fun with you last night. HE DIDNT ANDWER then I texted him back at 10 pm and I said I hope you did too. HE STILL HASNT AND DIDNT ANSWER. How is that fair???? (link)
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I read your question. What you don't want to do is get consumed by sexual feelings of someone under the influence of alcohol.
You also do not want to make a big fuss over someone who hits it then quits it. It is a lesson learned. Next time, maybe you should not drink and not go home or not spin the night at his place. Sometimes being the sober one, the partner not under the influence of anything can open your eyes. Especially in letting you see your partner or guest in their true light.
Everyone is not who they seem to be under the influenece as are who we think they are sober. Just raise your standards. And set boundaries. And most importantly be careful. And do not share anyone with anybody sexually, its desperate and not appropriate.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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So around 2 months ago one of my close friends from college introduced me to this guy. We started hanging out all the time and I enjoyed being with him. Someone who seemed to genuinely care. We started flirting, but I figured since he was friends with a lot of females he did that kind of thing a lot. I even told him that to his face. He kept telling me he didn’t and I kind of assumed he liked me as a friend. I’ve become friends with some of his friends and apparently he was telling the truth. I’m the only one he really gets they way with. A few days ago we were studying at my apartment together like we often do, and I accidentally tickled him so I took advantage of that since he always wants to tickle me. He ends up pinning my arms back and cornering me so I can’t do it and kisses me. I’m the type of person to not give things much thoughts and go with the moment so I kissed him back. It was just a simple kiss but it started happening everyday. As of last night the kissing got a little more intimate. He walked me back to my apartment since I don’t have a vehicle and he couldn’t move his due to the road being blocked off. There was just a huge party/event that happened on campus so he knew I didn’t want to walk back through that alone since it was dark and there were so many drunk people. It got really late and started feeling cold so he stayed over. Because of the cold my skin had been feeling more sensitive so I was more ticklish than I normally am (not normally at all) so now he started having fun with that. We were fooling around and simple kissing turned into French kissing almost all night. Anytime he would go to kiss me I wouldn’t think and just go along with it. He ended up sliding his hands down the back of my pants at the top of my butt or up my shirt towards my boob and I wasn’t ready to go that far so I carefully moved his hand and he felt terrible and was apologizing. He left at noon today and I can’t help but feel terrible things even got this far. I’m pretty sure I heard him say something about loving me while I was half asleep. I’ve only had feelings one time in my life and have distanced my feelings because of getting hurt. But now I might be doing that to someone else and I really don’t want that. He asked me out before and I said sure but I told him it concerned me because anytime some guy asked me out and we didn’t click, they wouldn’t want to continue being friends because it can be hard to be friends with someone you had feelings for. I’m worried it’ll definitely be hard for him to want to keep being friends with me now after last night. Our tongues were literally down each other’s throat all night basically. He said we will definitely always be friends before, but now I’m worried I got in too deep. I don’t want to lose anyone, but with school going on, relationships are way too distracting. What do I do?? I never intended to lead anyone on (link)
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First off, If you are truly wanting to be friends with the guy.. Friends are Friends and not sexual partners. Now, If you want to work on a relationship with the guy, you need to establish boundaries. What kind of moves, touching and what not either is or is not comfortable for you.
If he respects your boundaries, great. Refrain from sleeping with him. Seriously, If you move too fast you may get your feelings hurt. Most guys today in time only want sex and not the relationship. The right guy will build the relationship then wait on the sex.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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I am from south africa and I have been going over this for quite some time, and it has not gotten me anywhere. I have always liked a good mystery and a puzzle so I thought why not become a cop. Then there's this side to me that likes medicine, like since I was little, so I decided OK why not a nurse, because a doctor has to cut people open and I would not be able to do that. Then I always wanted to help people so I thought about becoming a social worker. I am really stuck as to deciding what to do. (link)
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First off, I read your question. Relax, being extra passionate about many career paths is normal. I suggest you try taking a Career test. Are you in college?
If yes, you may be able to double major.
If no, look into the following majors as well as the coursework in which will prepare you for that career path (e.g. social work, psychology, psychiatric medicine, human resources management).
If you still are undecided, research some paid expense fellowships, internships that you may be able to try out the work in the field to see if it is something you would want o do long term like 10 to 20 years.
The good news is dreams do not have deadlines. Take your time.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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Ive been attracted to crossdress since i was a child. I met a wonderful woman about 5 years ago. From the beginning i was clear about how i liked to dress from time to time and she fully accepted me. I'm not attracted to males at all. I just love to wear female clothes. However...
We got married a couple of years ago and got pregnant. She agreed I could get dressed as long as she wouldn't see me or never be seen out in public as a crossdresser. That's hard to do since i didn't have a room to be my alter ego and there was nowhere to store my clothes without she noticing. I have no interest in be seen by her or anyone else. While pregnancy sex became monotonous and i wanted to experiment prostate stimulation. I told her briefly what i wanted to try but I had no reaction whatsoever. So i ordered a couple of toys online and tried them. I really like them. Now my problem is that i had to rent a studio close home where i can be my other self for a couple of hours and try my toys and I feel awful for that. I feel like I'm cheating on her but I'm actually not.
I don't know what to do or say. (link)
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Who says you have to be perfect? Sexuality is a lot like finding your own true personality, self identity. No need in lying or denying what pleases you.
As long as you can successfully and attentivley fulfill the roles of Husband and Father; your private time should not affect your life. There is a diffrence between cheating and masturbation. When someone masterbates it is a natural stimulation of self pleasure. But, in contrast cheating involves one or more partners outside of the relationship or marriage.
Relax. Live.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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In my school I have friends and they are friendly but when we talk we talk like strangers. I feel don’t fit in with them. They all talk about stuff and when it is a joke they all laugh and I don’t understand a thing they say or what kind of things they like. We all have nothing in common, like really nothing.
I am a girl. (link)
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Who says friends are supposed to agree on everything? Who also says you can not make new friends in every chapter of your life?
Try and make new friends, maybe one or two who have the same creative, artistic, goal-oriented drive as you do. Hang out with them before you call them your friends. Do not rush or force bonds.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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my bf is not giving me any attention i want to leave him but be able to do (link)
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First off, Raise your standards whether you decide to leave your boyfriend or not.
Secondly, set boundaries. Do not make the same mistakes twice. Do not accept flowers on the first date, do not meet at your place or his place. Do not go out with a guy unless he opens the door for you, has goals, and is respectful of your time.
Best of Luck,
MisterAdvice101
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