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My sister's will to live
I read one of your answers. you seem to know a thing or two on the subject of depression. I myself used to be depressed and was fortunate enough to learn the things you speak of. However my older sister is severely struggling to maintain a normal balance of chemicals in her brain. She is the only one who can help herself in the end. How else can I get to her? I want to help her see the way i see things. Teach her what i know so she can get better.
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U know how frustrating and scary it can be to have a loved one who suffers and doesn't seem to be reachable, or they refuse to listen. I will let you know now if I didn't before, my oldest daughter has depression. I don't know which one because she went to a Dr. who didn't do CBT and those just hand out meds. She hated the side effects, stopped taking them and got worse. So bad she didn't know reality from the crazy stories in her head, so I assume there is mental illness as well. She cut herself off from the whole family parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins. No one knows anything about her until CPS took away her oldest child to place with the childs dad, her first husband. Sometimes things like this are taken out of our hands and there is nothing we can do. I don't know if you live in the same house or you have occasion to visit her often, but the best thing I can think of is if you use Dr. David Burns website. He has put so much new stuff on it since I first went through everything years ago that I don't know how to find a video right away to post for you to share. Nut there is a particular older one if you can find it, where he shares how he started. Originally it was his peers who came and told him about Cognitive behavioral therapy. He only gave out meds. But then most his patients never got better and kept taking meds. He explains the process of how he finally tried it on worst patient and there was immediate improvement. He tells how he continued to use it and how he gave books with instruction out to patients who couldn't get in to see him as he was all booked up and by time they finished reading it, they were better or cured and didn't need to meet with him. His son comes on at one point and tells what it was like having him for a Dad and how proud he is of Dad. I like that video if you can find, I haven't refound it yet but its in there somewhere:
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Since this isn't about just convincing patients but the Dr. himself having to be convinced and how what he teaches now is stuff he learned along the way, I feel it is a good way to catch the interest and hope of a person whether its depression, anxiety or a number of mental disabilities he covers, to see a Dr. who was a former sceptic now convinced should catch her attention. You may find something better. Just bookmark your links to each video you think best for your sis to see and one day tell her you have a short video or two you want her to see.She needs to be willing to work with a Dr. trained in CBT so they can determine if she can be healed with the list of things that combat situational depression or whether her brain truly has a malfunction of not being able to produce any feel good hormones. As I have learned from the Dr., the majority of people suffering can be healed without meds. Only a small part can't. This would be for a Dr. to determine. However if your sis is willing to try, she has you for an example to follow, knowing its helped you. She can follow what he recommends on line or read his book on depression. I wouldn't buy it though. A friend bought one of the books for my ex who refused to read it, so I did. But he refused to believe there was anything wrong with him and eventually lost me because he wasn't willing to get help and get better. The daughter who got the list that I mention of things to do to wipe out depression by raising production of your feel good hormones, is a list given to my middle daughter, depressed after a boyfriend dumped her. All my other kids do not have clinical depression, just the oldest, to be clear. I can only add, saying prayers for her to be willing to listen. It is all I can do, praying for the daughter I never see anymore.
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