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I don't know what to do !
I am a 30 year old female and I live at home my mom and stepdad . I live at home because I have some disabilities. I just dentures and the place I went to did not do them right. My stepdad has took me 3 times already and refuses to take me again. The dentures are to big for mouthy. I can't even wear them . I don't drive due to anxiety. He yelled at me when I asked me to take me again. My mom can't take me due to an illness where she uses a wheelchair. I don't know where to turn. I even suggedted going on the medical van by myself because they take you to all appointments for free if you have Medicare but my mom said no to that. Is there anything else I can do to get these things fixed. I have been going around with no teeth.
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I think the van/Medicare thing sounds a good place to start, although as I live in the UK I am not sure about the details of arranging it? But I am sure that at 30 years of age you do not need parental permission to set it all up. Or if it is set up already, to just use it and go. You should then address the issue, as it appears that they did not 'do them right' and as such they are responsible to make sure they are 'done right'. So be quite assertive. That does not mean having arguments etc. Simply show that you expect this to be resolved and you are not going to take no for an answer. I do think that being a little more assertive in your life in general might be a good idea? You question seems to have a strong vibe about it which suggests your mom and stepdad are being rather too controlling maybe? I appreciate that you mention some disabilities, and indeed anxiety issues alone will leave us lacking in self-belief and confidence. But you are an adult, and have more control over your life's trajectory and a right to determine this trajectory yourself. How about making the dentures issue a place to start taking back some of the momentum and controlling your own life? Again, we can do this without fuss or drama if we do it right. How about pointing out to your parents that you would like a bit more input, especially regarding your own affairs? That you feel although they mean the best for you, you feel they are perhaps lowering your feelings of self-worth and self-esteem? You would like a little more independence perhaps? This can be a key player in your fight with anxiety too. This really makes us feel 'out of control' doesn't it? There might be a little friction when you step-up, true. But stay with it, as I really do feel it will improve things in the longer term. The improvements will probably start straight away, in fact. I mean, you won't have to go around with no teeth for a start! And quite honestly, that is not going to help the self-confidence of anyone aged 30. So my advice really is to start taking a bit more control over your life. It's your life, after all. And don't delay. The longer we put off addressing and resolving problems the harder their resolution becomes, and time can slip away so quickly. In fact, start right now!
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