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Do I wish him a happy birthday? or just keeping pushing forward.
So my crush has had a girlfriend for a month now, It sucks seeming in the hallway holding hands and smiling like it like an arrow in my heart. I have been getting over him from time to time, We have a class hour together and sit together, I just dont talk to him unless he talks to me... It hard to have a conversation with him in class, even to look at him..The atmosphere doesent feel so great.....Over text our conversation our lighthearted and kind but in person it just seems cold and tense, and no talking.
The school year just ended, the last day of school I texted him we had a little conversation, He told me he was really happy with her, I replied and the conversation was wholesome, then i deleted his number, and just breathed and thought " This is over, there not really chance to see him". I can contiune to focus on myself and move on. then today I got a notifcaion from facebook that it was his birthday, I really just want to move on and not talk to him anymore, even besides the crush thing he overall just really a person I could become a close friend in person not over text. Do i wish him a happy birthday?
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I know this is after the fact but if you did nothing and still want to send wishes, go ahead on FB. Instead you wish him a happy belated Birthday. You don't need to say anything else. Sending birthday wishes is not intruding when he has a girlfriend. He will have recieved wishes from all sorts of people, non of who are in competition with his girlfriend.
What I do want to mention that you didn't ask about is how to deal with this situation in the future but you can bet it will happen again. The situation I mean is having a crush on someone. Next thing you know, they are no longer single but dating.
You may know this all but it's good to refresh in your mind and not forget for the future. A crush is not only a one sided attraction to someone but this kind is all in your head. Most often, those crushing leave no physical sign that they are interested as more than friends. I do understand that many won't say anything because they fear rejection. What I propose you think instead, is not of it actually being a rejection, but a true fact that there is no chemistry felt on the other persons side. You know what chemistry is, right? But just in case you want clarification, this kind of attraction and chemistry goes beyond friendship and is the desire and romance a person feels for the other. Sometimes neither person feels attraction for the other, so no problem. Sometimes both feel it. When adults get much older, they can already tell often when a person is attracted by their body language, expressions and what they may be saying as well. Its harder to be sure when we are younger. Then sometimes, only one person feels attraction while the other doesn't. The thing is not knowing what to do to learn if the other person sees you as more than just a friend. The only difference between being a friend and being each others significant other, is that you still have the friendship with the latter and also the one thing a regular friendship doesn't have, which is the attraction, romance, desire and being in love. I know plenty of gals who live with hints so in case he also likes her, he could know its okay to reach out to her. Guys are just as scared to make the first move. When I met the guy who became my second husband, we met on a da ting site and had to meet in person to see if we felt chemistry. You can't feel it on line because our pheromones have something to do with it, and we can't use our senses to pick up on that when not in the persons actual physical presence. SO let me know if you feel you need more pointers in this area at all.
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