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What would you do !
I'm an Artist, well that's what they say i paint, illustrate, make collages, create and everything .. Well that was before, not doing that anymore , lacking of motivation and working at some boring tourism company,sick of this country and trying everything to go out of it. I don't want to do anything except for sleeping and watch a movie or something, i feel like i don't fit in not like i want that,it just really hard sometimes, i just wanna be home alone.
I'm almost 30 now and a year ago i began dating this guy whose 5 years younger than me, it started really good i saw myself changed a little bit, then again the same feelings and decided to break up, he didn't agree he talked and talked and somehow he convinced me to give it one more try so i accepted it, again it was good even better but after some time i got in the same position, wanting to be alone not wanting seeing him but i continued anyway because he wasn't bad at all, he cares about me like no one did ..
Now it's been a year and 3 month, i couldn't take it any longer so i broke up AGAIN... and he just said ok and after 3 days he sends me this touching message that whatever my condition is i need to get out of it i should try new things ,that he can't lie that he's miserable now but if i'm happy like this then it's better for both of us if we stayed apart..he just trying to look strong, but he's not we have mutual friends my best friend who actually works with him in the same company they all saying how miserable he become and doing alot of mistakes at work, not concentrating ,bla bla
My best friend sits with him like hours talk and talk ,she suggested that he could really help me getting out of from my situation, and now he sends me a msg wanting to see me, ofcourse i will ...
Now i miss him i got jealous from the girls im not saying i dont love him,just my situation makes everything harder ..and makes me think is it because of my situation or i just don't love him ..
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I would bet money on it that you don’t have guy issues but rather have depression which is not going to away but actually become worse untreated. Everything you mentioned from not able to function, loss of interest in everything including that which you love are big red flags.
What you should do tomorrow is arrange to see your family doctor pronto and tell them every single word of what you told us and be brutal about how adversely this is affecting you. Insist on a psychiatrist referral for diagnosis and treatment and go from there. It will make your life ten times better by dealing with it head on and right now.
You are still that bright person and gifted artist underneath all this crap depression throws at you and makes you devalue yourself. Hopefully you’ll see that and will be enjoying life again and even better than before but you have to make that phone call which will change your world.
As far as guys go let’s put that on the back burner and deal with the most important thing your overall life and mental and physical health first. This guy may not be a boyfriend but he cares deeply for you. Whatever you decide you could really use the support. He isn’t being a dick to you either by telling you something is off because you see that there is with life right now. It will all work out but you have work to do but taking first step to handle this is the hardest and best part.
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I agree on it sounding like you have major depression. Basically the lack of want and motivation to do anything is a sign of depression. Sounds like it is affecting what you do for a career, nothing sounds interesting, not even food, hobbies, visiting people or even being in a relationship. Please see a doctor asap to get your life back on track. This guy sounds pretty cool, that he is willing to work with you as you work through whatever is plaguing you. You won't know that a relationship with him or anyone else could work until you are getting treatment for whatever a mental health professional finds is going on for you. good luck!
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I'm not a doctor none of us are so we can't make any diagnoses. In your letter I see some of the classic signs of (Major)Depression. Having suffered from Depression myself I can tell you that this type of depression is curable.
What you need to do is:
First get a complete physical and asked to be screened for depression. The screening is a bunch of questions the doctor will ask to determine if you indeed suffer from depression.
Second; Your doctor may prescribe medication. This is good as it will lift the cloud of depression allowing you to see more clearly.
Third; Find a Board Certified psychiatrist to medicate you properly. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who has done a residency in psychiatry. A Board Certified Psychiatrist is a medical doctor who has done a Fellowship in psychiatry and past the test to be admitted into the Collage of Psychiatrists. This doctor is best qualified to medicate you as most 9Major) Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. YOur not crazy you just need some help to bring these chemicals up to where they should be to help fight depression.
Forth; Find a good psychologist. one you are comfortable with for talk therapy. THe psychologist is you new best friend someone you can tell your deepest darkest secrets to secure in the knowledge what is said in therapy goes no further without you written consent to do so. If you have health insurance the psychiatrist and psychologist these doctors should be covered less your deductible.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Take that first step and go from there.
Good Luck.
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