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Been talking to girl for 1 month actively but something is holding me back
Been talking to a girl for 1.5 months,went out 2 times and etc. Anyways, im a bit scared of calling her out alone,cause of 2 reasons. First being that when i met her,a year ago,we talked for 10mins and friend of mine came to her after that and said that i have a crush and if he doesnt help me,i will kick his ass.(Which is false).She came to me and said that she is not interested in me but i started laughing as i didnt know what was going on.She realized that friend set her up and told me about it. She apologized to me and year later,on some song i posted on instagram,she reacted and we talked since then.
Second being that she texted me first only 2 times,and i texted her maybe 3-4 times after liking my text saying Good Night.
When we went out with her friends,brother of one of her friends came between us and she switched places,2 times.Thats green light but im not sure...
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There is no issue of whether she is attracted to you or not since she's gone on a couple dates and has been willing to text. Liking a persons appearance is only the very first step for two people getting together and becoming a couple. Yes, dating is fun but it also serves a more important component to whether two people become a couple or not. If people are going on dates, the female and all her friends will assume this is now a committed relationship. That is silly when there has been no commitment made other than to go out on a date. Dating is for learning more about the person and its a process and can take time to learn a lot about each other. Once you know the person well enough through dating, then you decide if this is someone you really like all of their character traits and personality or if there are things about the person detrimental to the health of a relationship. If you won't settle for less, then the thing is to break up. If the person is great, then you become a committed couple and some become engaged and married in the future. so what I am saying is that you can't begin to learn what you like and don't like in a female until you do some dating. Usually, no one hits the jackpot and get the perfect person with the first one they date. I didn't. None of the people I know did. So you need to start the process and ask if she's like to spend time hanging out with you. It can be going to dinner or a movie but best in learning about the person is hours upon hours of talking and listening to each other stories. If you find you can't care less to learn about who she is inside, then the attraction is purely romantic, not friendship as well and both are needed for healthy and rewarding long term relation;ships. This is your time to learn, long before you get to a marriagable age or are independant and want to live together. If you don't make a move and find out how this could have turned out, you will spend your life wondering 'What if'. Wheh it comes to possible relationships, that is one thing that seems to plague most people, wondering how thing might have worked if they could have gotten together. Heck my 2nd husband and I tell each other stories of how we imagine things were like if we met each other first rather than both our exs. This is something people do and these thoughts can torture you forever. So to avoid that, take a chance. You can ask the parents or her ask her parents at some point if they can have a friend over on the weekend to watch movies, listen to music, play boards games. It is a good way to have private time with no one to butt in but siblings.
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If you really like her & would like a relationship with her, ask her out. Not with a bunch of other people, but a one on one date. Life is short, take a risk if its what you want. If she says no, move on. It will sting for a bit, but that's ok. You will be ok & free in your head to move on.
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