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Do my coworkers like each other
I notice along with my other coworkers how mean my female colleague is to my coworker. She says things like “he doesn’t know anything” “He never does his job” She also talked about his fashion and called him whiny. He never says anything to her about unless he does it in private? Also other coworkers have come to his defense and he doesn’t have anything to say . On the other hand, they laugh and joke with each other. I would say their friends outside of work. But why does she feel comfortable talking bad about her friend infront of people. People have already brought it up to her and her response is “he says mean too” It’s clear other people are saying something but she continues to insult him. I feel like he needs to have a private conversation with her about her behavior. Have you ever experienced something like this at your job? Should I just mind my business?
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The best thing to do would be to have a one on one conversation with him to find out what he thinks about her and if he doesn't really care or isn't too bothered by her then it most likely isn't a problem
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If he were a minor, not an adult, then it would be the parents job to see to his welfare and that he isn't picked on. Since I assume he is an adult, it is for him to decide if it bothers him or not and if it does, then it is up to him to go to the boss with the issue.
Without more elaboration, I'd aay its best to mind your own business. You are not his mother and he is not your non-adult child.
A boss will only see a problem exists if it is effecting the overall productivity of his/her entire department. So yes, name calling, back stabbing, insulting and such can cause an environment where half the workers or more are miserable due to the negativity going on and that effects how they feel coming to work every day and affects their concentration and ability to do their work.
So, if it is affecting you this way, then you can only go to your boss and make it about how you are being affected, not your male colleague. The boss doesn't need to hear you say whom they are treating badly verbally, just that if it is affecting your ability to work there. So you could tell your story without mentioning names and if the boss wants to know specifics, you can say, I will tell you as long as you don't share that I told you. I don't want things to be worse for me. An observing boss who really cares about the employees will at some point observe this behavior for himself. You didn't say it was affecting your productivity at work, only that you didn't like how they treated him. There will be many things you won't like in life especially as to how some people treat other people, but regulating and monitoring a persons morality is something that can't be done. What one person finds to be bad behavior is normal to others as they were raised in dysfunctional homes or it has been their own choice to act a certain way. About the only thing with society doing anything about those with really bad morals is when a person likes killing people for fun or stealing big stuff and of course, they are then removed from society by getting locked up in jail. No one tries to reform such people, even those who do petty wrong things.
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