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How to deal with this
Hello , so i am a 22 year old healthy fit male who's mixed and I've been trying to deal with this issue for quiet a while now : people (males &females) stare at me for some reason which really annoys me. It makes me feel uncomfortable ; it takes away my focus when I'm doing something. It makes feel like something is wrong about me whether it's appearance,clothes...etc. What i do is i look back with a stern look!. I'm just trying to give them a signal to stop looking at me. i already lack self confidence and self esteem , so when that happens i get worse...
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As long as all the doing is starting the best thing to do is ignore them. Your not there to impress them. You are who you are and as long as you are proud of who you are it doesn't matter what they think and if someone is looking at you for innocent reasons I think they will come up to you at some point and introduce themselves or go for the more direct approach and walk up and ask i've noticed you've been staring at me is the something I can do for you or is there a problem I can help you with. I don't think they will stare anymore after that. Make them uncomfortable instead of letting them make you.
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People stare for many different reasons. At one time a male or female of mixed race was an oddity; not so today. The people who stare are just being plain rude and I would suggest you try to ignore them.
While looking back may let you feel better you are in a sense antagonizing them. Giving them reason to stare at you over and over again.
If this is happening in the work place or at school then you can talk with HR about this as it is creating a "Hostile Work Environment for you," a violation of Federal Law. If at school go to the Dean of students with the same complaint.
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