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Hello my column focuses on a wide variety of topics. I use my life experiences to help others. A little of those experiences are addiction, physical and physiological abuse, dysfunctional home growing up, marriage, children, God, relationships of any kind, sex, and general questions. I've been through a lot in life and I know that life is not easy, but I also know that asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of. I will never judge a person that asks for my advice. This is intended to be a safe place where anyone can come and expect the best advice I can offer and if I can't help I will tell you and refer you to find someone else that can. Remember the only dumb question is the one not asked. My name is wesley and i'm here to help as much as I can no matter the issue.
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I have a crush on two people, I don't know who to choose...
Without knowing much, make a list of pros and cons for each.
Before we broke up my ex boyfriend said, you’ll always be in my heart! Don’t forget that! What did he mean? We broke because of few differences. I didn’t want to but he broke up with me, he also said, you’re a nice girl, I love you, I like you and sex is amazing but he had to break up with me. I’m feeling very blue. I feel like he wanted to say you’re my back up girl, I don’t know I could be wrong. We’re 26 and 28 years of age. Cheers all
Sometimes things don't work out, but people can make a lasting impression on a person and it could be over, but if it is it's sound like he is saying he will never forget you and you will always have a place in his heart. I've been there before.
I'm 18 and I work in a restaurant. There's this guy that works there as well. Hes 22. He's very sweet, very nice, and he's a really good person to talk to.
Any problem I ever had, I would go to him and he'd always help me out and give me advice. Once, I was supposed to talk to him about something at the end of work but someone kept talking to him and i had to go. He texted me later that night apologizing for not being able to talk to me, and he told me to text him what's wrong.
He's like my best friend at work, we always talk and joke. A few days ago, we were talking about something and he said "it's hard not to notice you" and I'm like "what's that supposed to mean??" And he was like "because you're really pretty". I thought he was just lying because it was out of the blue and random.
Today, I had different makeup on and when he saw me at work, he was like "you look nice today". And then later on I started talking to him something while he was doing something on the computer and he got distracted and started talking a lot and then he was like "wait.. what was I doing? See, i forgot what i was doing because you're so pretty!"
Does this mean anything? It just kinda feels as if he's saying it just to be nice. I don't know.
If a guy tells you that many times your pretty and talks to you the way you describe he likes you. Ask him if he would like to take you out sometime. I think you'll find out he would.
Hello , so i am a 22 year old healthy fit male who's mixed and I've been trying to deal with this issue for quiet a while now : people (males &females) stare at me for some reason which really annoys me. It makes me feel uncomfortable ; it takes away my focus when I'm doing something. It makes feel like something is wrong about me whether it's appearance,clothes...etc. What i do is i look back with a stern look!. I'm just trying to give them a signal to stop looking at me. i already lack self confidence and self esteem , so when that happens i get worse...
As long as all the doing is starting the best thing to do is ignore them. Your not there to impress them. You are who you are and as long as you are proud of who you are it doesn't matter what they think and if someone is looking at you for innocent reasons I think they will come up to you at some point and introduce themselves or go for the more direct approach and walk up and ask i've noticed you've been staring at me is the something I can do for you or is there a problem I can help you with. I don't think they will stare anymore after that. Make them uncomfortable instead of letting them make you.
I've been with my S.O. for about 4 months now and we recently moved in together. Everything's been going pretty well, but some things are bothering me and I just wanted some insight from other people on whether I'm just overthinking things or whether these are really issues.
My #1 issue is that I feel like I do a lot for him, but he doesn't see it. He's type one diabetic and so I go out of my way to make him low carb lunches every day during the week and dinners (from scratch) about half the week. I make the bed, feed our two cats in the morning, scoop the litter, grocery shop, run errands, take out the trash, and keep the house clean in general. I also take full time classes in premed and I work 4-7 hours a night (depending on the shift). He works 8 hours a day so I will give him that and he's the breadwinner. He does take out the trash sometimes and does his own laundry, but other than that I do everything else. I pay half the rent and my own bills, he pays electric, the other half of the rent, wifi, and we trade off for groceries. Sometimes he'll nag me to do things I just haven't gotten time to and when I ask him why he doesn't do it he tells me that since he works so much he shouldn't have to do it. I feel like that isn't fair? I mean it's something I can deal with and we don't fight about it, but it's been bothering me.
We also seem to have some kind of disconnect in bed. I feel like I do 80% of the work because he likes me to be on top. While, this isn't the worst thing it's always a little disappointing. I confronted him about it a couple times and he told me he's just too exhausted from "working all day". I also feel like I have a much higher sex drive, and I don't know how to help that, which is frustrating when he's done and I'm not... Another issue is that twice now he's convinced me to not use a condom, and then later say we should have. I feel like that's not fair to me and it makes me feel bad about myself.
Am I overthinking these things since we don't actually really argue about them and they're things that are tolerable? I know nobody is perfect and maybe I shouldn't take things so personally?
If it's bothering you it will cause a division between the two of you at some point you need to impress upon him how much it is bothering you and if he really cares he will not blow it off, but try and help more and do some more of the things you need. With what you do you might as well be working a full time job, but not only that your doing all you can to take care of him. Is it wrong for you to ask him to take care of your needs too? I don't think so, it takes two to make a relationship work giving an equal 100%. If you don't feel that's happening you need to address it before it comes out in a destructive way instead of a constrictive way. Best of luck.
Wesley
I'm a 16 year old female. Two years ago, I started crushing hard on a friend of mine. About a year ago, I confessed to him, but was rejected. He was super sweet about it though. Really understanding, and we're still friends. But, even though its been a while since the rejection, I still love him. I tried avoiding him for a while, but I still thought about him. I tried dating someone else, but I couldn't bring myself to love them as much as I do him. I know this little crush has crossed the point from innocent to obsessive, but I don't know what to do about it.
You need time as a 16 year old you have lots of things to look forward to. College if you choose that route. Jobs will bring you into contact with more guys, I think he decided he would rather be your friend and not risk losing that then the possibility of a break up that could destroy your friendship. Your not alone in this situation and it goes both ways guys have the same problem, but sometimes it's better to have a life long friend then to have tried to have a relationship and it fail and you lose a friend that has your best interest at hand. Stay friends but work on moving on with your romantic feelings for him and be content to have a friend. There is someone out there for you keep looking. It will work itself out in time.
i took a random poll and asked men how long after dating a woman do you "expect" her to give you some? 98% said two weeks ...REALLY? that is so pathetic....are women really looked down upon as sex objects....men do wife those types of women, but do men really think after a few steaks and mcdonalds you're supposed to give him some...that is so sad, I think if women respected themselves and had some classes they wouldn't be looked at as sex objects and nutrags and men wont objective them...
aren't women worth more than being a sex toy...
My wife and I waited till we were married before we had sex and for that matter to live together. I know in this day and age that is considered outdated and definitely rare, but ultimately it is you decision on how you approach sex. My personal opinion women that are trying to find a lasting relationship should be looking for a guy that puts them on a pedestal. Not to worship them, but to respect them as a person and not an object. They should want to protect you from anything they can, honor you with not just their words, but their actions. You can't possibly know someone enough to give the most intament part of you in just a few dates. I hear guys all the time talking about a woman as a piece of meat. Find someone that talks and treats you like a precious treasure that they don't want to loose. Then you will know you have found someone you can trust and cares about you as a person and not an object to be used and discarded.