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I just need some advice
So I have been friends with this person for a while, and hadn’t liked them. And I haven’t liked anyone ever for that matter. But I found out that they liked me a little while back, and now I like them now, but I don’t know if they still like me. I also think that if she rejects me It will be awkward around us, and she is my best friend. Just please tell me what to do.
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The liking you a while back may have been as a friend, not romantically. The only difference between a friend and a romantic partner you date, is being sexually attracted to the person and having good sexual energy together.
So the best way to not upset the friendship is to ask a question, not as if you are already in love and sexually attracted to, but passing the idea by as a what if question.
"You and I have been good friends for some time now. It makes me wonder how we might do together as more than friends. What do you think?"
Asking what they think is important and they are more likely to tell the truth than if you said you love them and they don't feel the same way.
Now if instead of answering, they ask why you ask, then you can say, "oh I read somewhere that the only difference between a friend and dating partner is both being romantically and sexually attracted so I just wondered. If asked point blank if you love them, best not to tell the truth in case they don't feel the same and the awkwardness of the situation causes them to leave you. This means you'd have to pretend to enjoy just friendship even though you may feel more. If they say sure lets try it, then after a while, you can reveal that you are falling in love with them, because they were open to trying. Good luck.
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