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I am a 18 year old straight female looking to experiment (kinda long)
HI so i am 18 and i just want to try some lesbian stuff to get it out of my system and there are alot of girls that would be great candidates but i don't know if i should or not so im going to list the girls and i just want you guys to be honets with me about the girls and which one i should ask to be my one time experiment buddy.
1- she is a girl at my school and we have kissed before and almost gotten there but she always backs down so there's a huge chance she will back down again and then i will get all excited then to get my dreams shot down. I ultimately ended our whole thing with her a while ago because i was like shit im straight and didn't want to experiment for a while but now the urge is back again and i wanna do it with her because we have already been so close too it but i don't want her to switch up again and back down and then i have to find someone else, plus she is very high maintenance and needs A LOT of things some reasonable some not and it's just a huge turn off sometimes... Plus she switches what she wants sometimes she wants to get fingered sometimes she doesn't sometimes she wants scissoring sometimes she doesn't its too confusing and complicated for us to be experimenting as a one time thing
2- She is a very close family friend on my dads side and stays with my dad while her mom tries to get her life together with her its very confusing she kinda talks to me like she wants me but sometimes she doesn't. One night it was just us two and my little sisters and she laid her head on me and held my hands and i was like oh wait she might like me but i didn't think anything of it of course because she seems like this innocent girl to me but then like an hour later im laying on her rubbing her outside her leggings and i know she feels every bit of it because her head is back and her eyes are closed and i mean ya girl know the signs, anyways i was thinking that was the chance and tried to go in and i know the signs so i backed off and sat up but she pulled me back down and we kind of laid there until she fell asleep. She and I know each other pretty well but not best friend well, I just got recconnected with my dad last year and i met her when i went over there for the first time. WE have made our way to talking an getting close so i think we are kind of there, but i also don't want to cross a line and mess up Family connections and i don't know how close she is with her family so i can't trust that she wont tell but she seems to want it. She sends me "fake streak pictures" on snapchat which is basically when it seems like a streak but its specially for you and only goes to you , so she sends me those and they a little exposing and all so i kinda get a feeling from those but idk
3- she is a girl in my girl scouts troop and were sorta kinda close we joke around and call eachother boyfriend and girlfriend, i hug her all the time, touch her thighs, just subtle stuff like that and i just dont know how she feels right now because she isn't giving any definite signs. If things went wrong it could cause problems in my girl scout troop and could spread around school both things i don't need in my life, like at all so its either she goes for it which i think she might or she might not, or she doesn't and it starts a whole new drama
so yeah those are all my options i really just want to get this over with and i know with them its not going to be strings attached just over and done. Please help i just want to get this feeling over with
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You have posted the same question under two different headings. In one you say your 21 and the other you say your 18. Are you 18, 21 or a younger teenager.
Age withstanding who you have sex with be it a male or female you cannot force it. Meaning it will happen if your sincere in your desire for the other person. Saying,"i just want to try some lesbian stuff to get it out of my system," lacks the sincerity needed to get the other party interest so you can seduce them.
My suggestion any of the three could be a future sex partner you just need to relax and not force the issue.
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theres a problem dear, the fact you said " i really just want to get this over with" and that does not sound like a person looking forward to the experience, more like a trip to the dentist. If a girl said she fears sex for the first time with a boyfriend, I would say she is not ready.
Now regardless who you choose, they may not respond back. The thing is, there are females who are gay and called lesbians and there are straight women and there is one other, quite a large group actually as I met several through a neighbor, and these would be women who are attracted sexually to both men and women. This is called being Bi-sexual.
You never mentioned if you find yourself attracted sexually to males and just curious about women or if you find yourself attracted to both or just to females only.
If females only and you are fighting it, you will only make yourself unhappy in life. If you are straight but curious about what its all about, having sex with a female, well, there are females like that, and its called bi-curious. These are females who know they are straight but are curious to try it just once. I eventually did in my forties. The other woman was straight too. But we both got each other off and after I was wondering if it was so easy for me to do that with.
So it may be that you are just curious. But even so, if curious, its one thing to think about it and another entirely to do it. You have to be ready to do it. Imagine getting all naked with another girl and you decide you can't do it after all, so will she feel there is something wrong with her, feel rejected, will it cause problems with friendship between you and her? Don't even go for it until you feel comfortable to try it out and it may not even be any one of the people you mentioned.
If you are bi sexual, you are being aroused by both males and females visually. You don't have to have had sex with both genders to know you are bi. Its how your body reacts to them. And don't confuse your feelings with the excitement of doing something forbidden in your own mind, because that
isn't the same excitement as being sexually attracted to females.
If you have never had sex with a male, even straight girls will do it together because its safer and you can't get pregnant. So you need to get your mind around what you really want, to get your feet wet having sex for now with someone you cant get pregnant by, and whether you are straight, bi or gay. When you have figured out which it is, then we can talk more if you feel the need.
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