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How to contact an ex- best friend
17/f
I was best friends with this girl for 5 years and then last year may we stopped being friends because we got In a fight and we became very different (she always wants to go out drinking whereas I don't). Then in December I messaged her on Instagram telling her I miss her and hate how things turned out and she just sent a heart back so I left it then last week I said happy birthday to her and she just sent a smiley face back. Then yesterday I saw she added my number back because I can see her WhatsApp story and profile picture. I really just wanna message her because I miss her so much. How can I sort things out with her?
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I have had everyone except one person in the family I grew up in, stop talking to me at some point because they were angry at me. It went on for months and up to a year. In all cases, I had to make the first move. At times, my calls were ignored. I gave them more time and tried again with no luck. It took letting quite some time go by and then I called talking and soundly as if there wasnt any silence between us, and as if there wasn't a misunderstanding or agument that started it all. For example to a sister, I called and my first words were "You've got to hear what my middle child just did. It was so cute and so funny." "She responded with what is it, tell me." Then she laughed and kept up a convo but never brought up what happened to start it all. I never reminded her. The same for all other family members, at some point they overcame their anger and were willing to talk to me as if nothing had ever happened and no one brought up what happened or apologized. I hope this shows you that theres always a chance to get back together. So it is a good idea to message her and just start talking and sharing about whatever, as long as you do not bring up you or her needing to forgive or start talking about what started it all. If she really does want to discuss it, then she will bring it up and then you both apologize and hug and everythings good. Once you are back on good speakingk terms, enjoy those parts of her you can relate to. When she starts talking about stuff like her getting drunk or other things you don't agree with, you could tell her that those interests of her do not appeal to you so you wouldd rather she not focus on 'and list the topics' There are plenty of people who can remain friends as long as they both agree to never bring up religion or politics or some other forbidden topic between them.
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I would message her & see how it goes.
Maybe you can get some sort of friendship back with a little work. Maybe not. But at least you will know you tried. I do think, since she is sending smileys & things back, that she may be wanting to talk to you too. Make the first move & see where it goes.
Good luck!
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