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I think I made the wrong decision over a misunderstanding?


Question Posted Saturday December 2 2017, 1:32 am

I started a new job on Wednesday that was 45 minutes away from where I live. My first day went great, I got along super well with all my coworkers and my boss. At the end of the day my boss asked me to come in after my last class on Friday (today) which of course I agreed, then he said 9:15am and I nodded. I thought he was confirming with me what time I had come in that morning because I came in at 9:15 and couldn't clock in yet so they had to fix it.

I realized after I left on Wednesday I didn't know if I was coming on Thursday so I emailed him, but he didn't get a chance to respond. So Thursday morning rolls around and I slept until 11am because I'm also sick right now and needed the rest. When I woke up I checked my email and he had emailed me back saying I was supposed to come in at 9:15am that morning. I panicked and immediately called him and explained my confusion and apologized. He said he understood the confusion and it was fine, but then told me he talked to the area manager and asked if he could move me to a closer store since I was so far from his. I immediately thought he was angry and trying to get rid of me and in turn I felt upset because I didn't feel like it was entirely my fault and I also worried that I screwed up my good first impression. So I called the area manager too and also asked him to move me to another store that was closer (where I felt like I could start again), which he obliged, but said I had to work at the current store until Sunday.

Well today I went into work expecting it to be very awkward and with kind of a chip on my shoulder expecting the guy to be angry with me. Instead I had another great day there again with the boss and other employees and now I'm sad that I'm leaving after tomorrow for a different store. I feel really bad, but at the same time the store is 45 minutes away from my home which is a long drive to do twice a day. The new store I'm supposed to move to is 30 minutes away and across from my favorite mall so I really like that because I can just pop in there whenever I want. I'm afraid I'm going to miss out on the great experience I was having with the boss and coworkers at the current store though. They seemed really cool and were like a little family. They were also really good about teaching me things and the only reason the boss asked if they could move me was because he was worried about my safety driving home late at night for almost an hour (I'm a petite girl and he has two daughters).

I don't know what to do now. I do kind of want to work closer and be next to my favorite mall, but not if it means I'm going to be working with people who won't be as nice as the workers at this store. I also don't want to tell the area manager I've changed my mind this early on because he already let the other manager know I was moving to her store.

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Dragonflymagic answered Saturday December 2 2017, 3:39 pm:
Don't worry ahead of time about something that may not happen. Nice people aren't found in only one place. Workers usually follow the mood of a boss. If the boss is corrupt or hateful and mean, then the employees will no longer care cus they're miserable. So the likelihood that everyone will be nasty to work with is not very big. If you have a decent new boss then it should be so with the employees. If a problem does arise at your new job, don't run from it and leave immediately. Have a talk with the boss if one employee does give you trouble. To have a friend you need to be a friend, so don't wait for others to be extra friendly to you first, you make the first move and be extra nice to everyone there, complimenting them, smiling and greeting them by name, truly listening to anything they say in case its something you can later ask about, like how's your dog recovering from the surgery? if they mentioned having to take the dog in to the vet for surgery. Do favors for others that take little time like offering to refill their coffee when you're getting up to go refill yours. I once worked where our office was like a small family and we took turns bringing in treats sometimes, not weeking or every day thing but just the nice kind of surprise to break up the usual day and make it feel it bit more special. These are things you can do. Most people are friendly but waiting for someone else to make the first move. This I've learned in life by starting up conversation at parties or in new groups like at work. I had to interact with many other departments in the company so I struck up friendship with everyone. In fact, my cubicle partner told me that 'Shelly' in such and such department is such a mean cold person. How do I manage to interact with her? I said she wasn't mean but actually a nice friendly person and the few times she'd laugh was with me. She has a face that in relaxed mode always looked too serious and I suppose or frowning. She didn't change until I spoke first. When I showed true interest, she lit up like a Christmas tree, smiled and went from being quiet to actually a very talkative person. Trust me, most people wait for others to make the first move. YOu do that at your new location and it should be another wonderful place to work.

I'd like to hear back how it goes for you with you making the first move. Let me know if you think of it. If any situations arise at new job you're not sure how to proceed, just contact me from my column and ask away. Blessings to you at your new location.

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