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should i tell my class teacher im depressed ?
Hi :) im 18 and im in last year of high school..so every 3 months during the school year we have a "meeting" with our class teacher and everyone from the class(there is 28 of us in class) speaks with him for 10 minutes individually, the class teacher asks us how are we and how we are doing on other classes..and everytime he asks me how am i and i always say im fine...so on tuesday i have a 10min "meetin " with him (my class teacher)and i want to tell him that im not well , that im depressed(yes i really am)..i just feel so lonely, i have 2 close friends(Diana and Caroline) in class and i know they like me...but still no one texts me first, and i take long time until i get comfortable with someone, i also have social anxiety so im scared to talk to people(idk why but i do), im just scared of pepple, even after my friends told me they care about me i still feel lonely..and also i go to same class ,school with my twin brother, and they like him , even girls in my class like him more than me..he texts with almost everyone (girls, boys) and im invisible (nobody texts me, nobody cares about me :/)..i just want to tell it my class teacher(im not really close with my parents and i dont want them to know) bc i dont know what to do..im just so f*cking lonely but i try so hard to talk to people in my class , trying to be friends with them...i dont know what am i doing wrong ..whats wrong with me ? i just cant keep doing this anymore
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It would be a good idea to mention it and to arrange an appointment with a professional. Feeling 'down' and full of anxieties/doubts/etc is not always depression, or not clinical depression at least. We all have bad days/weeks or longer. A professional will usually have a list of questions for you, they have been carefully worked out so that they give him/her a more complete understanding. They will also rate the severity, and maybe most importantly, the frequency of any negative feelings they identify. It maybe that you will end up with a clinically diagnosed case of depression. If so, the professional can start helping you to tackle it. It's not a great place to be, sure. But you won't be alone by any means. You're actually nming quite a few specific reasons for being unhappy/lonely and somewhat alienated in your question. That may well suggest that we're looking at things you can, and will have to address. To basically prioritise, rationalise and 'get your life sorted' as you might say. In whch case the negative feelings will magically vanish one by one as you eliminate the causes. With no meds or time consuming therapy. It could be for instance that you are indeed 'doing some things wrong' or perhaps your expectations are somewhat too high? And the continual 'failing' and disappointments, as it were,are giving you feelings of depression. You also seem to be living in the shadow of your more popular and successful (in your eyes at least) twin brother. Again, this will leave you often feeling inadequate, and somewhat 'less' than him. That's not at all uncommon with siblings. And parents can reinforce it, often without realising they are doing it. In short, get it diagnosed by a pro so we can see exactly what we are up against. Being lonely and unhappy etc are not the same as clinical depression.
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