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My girlfriend seems turned on by my impotence
I'm 16 and taking medication for anxiety. While the drug I'm on is definitely helping, it's totally killed my ability to get an erection. I'm sure it's the drug as impotence is listed as one of the possible side effects.
I told my girlfriend about my situation. We'd been talking about having sex before I started taking it, so I felt I had to tell her. I was worried she wouldn't take it well, but the truth is she seemed turned on by the news. And since then she's let me go farther in our makeout sessions than ever before and seems to enjoy them a lot more.
Maybe this is all in my head, but maybe it isn't. If it isn't, why would someone be turned on by having an impotent boyfriend? I'm really confused and trying to figure this one out.
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I came to the exact same conclusion as adviceman. I am assuming the medication is going to be long term if not life long. So if you want to be able to have sex in the future, its best to let your Dr. know you are having that side effect. You are young yet but My husband had a psychologist tell him when he was a young adult to remember to always masturbate and have orgasms as a healthy man can over time start to lose the ability to become erect and you know thats going to be a killer. Basically the saying "Use it or lose it' applies here very well. So I can't say it applies here but obviously you are not able to even masturbate. I wouldn't want to think of what that does to you over long term so its best to let your Dr. know of the side effect. He won't assume its because of having sex with someone but simply that you can't masturbate. As said, she should still get on birth control and you use condoms once you have a new med that works for you but doesn't come with that side effect.
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Maybe your reading this wrong. Maybe it is not that she is turned on by the fact your impotent but she feels more comfortable now with you knowing that intercourse can't happen. Now she can relax and enjoy your make out sessions.
I don't know how old your girlfriend is but one thing that is at the front of every girls mind is;If I let him go all the way will I get pregnant. Girls constantly fight with themselves as to how far to let a boyfriend go and if she says no to intercourse will he leave her. Your impotence takes that problem out of the equation.
Now as for you problem. Being 16 you are a federal law called HIPPA. A clause in this law allows young people 14 and older to seek out doctors for help with problems of their reproductive system without parental knowledge or authorization. Meaning you can make an appointment to see the doctor, speak with the doctor about the problem and ask if there is an Erectile dysfunction drug he can prescribe to counteract the effect the other drug is having with your ability to get an maintain an erection.
Your parents cannot be in the exam room with you any time your reproductive system is being examined or you have questions for the doctor about that part of your body. All you need to say to the doctor is; "I need HYPA privacy for this visit. You r parent can never be told or se the records of those visits.If there is a drug the doctor can safely prescribe then the doctor must dos and the pharmacy must fill it.
The same hold true for your girl friend. She can see her family doctor, GYN or Women's clinic without parental approval and request birth control medication. Her parents like your can never know of any visit she has where she has a women's type exam and her mom cannot be in the exam room with her. When she has these type of physical exams and mom can never know the results either. TO see your records you need to give the doctor written permission.
Now assuming you get ED medication and she gets birth control you still need to use a condom even if you are both virgins. Not only do condoms increase the chances of preventing a pregnancy to almost 100% but they are very effective in preventing many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus from being transmitted. So even if you are both virgins you should get in the habit of condom usage for sex until you are both in a long term relationship. Which for you would be at least 6 years away after college.
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