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More Advice Needed on Daughter's Online Relationship
Thanks for answering my question subject line, "Advice Needed on Daughters Online Relationship"
I needed to let you know that my daughter is a Sophomore in college and is going to be going to school entirely online. She is not going away to school, so therefore she will be talking to him more online and even growing closer to him. What do you think I should do to discourage her from getting more involved with him? She starts classes next week and I am worried that her grades will drop due to spending time with him online, since her school is online.
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You are in a no win situation. Your daughter is 19 legally an adult. You legally have no more control over her than I do.
My best advice is to do nothing. The more you try to discourage her the more she will want to spend time online with him. Monitor but do not hover over her when she should be on-line taking classed. Monitor her grades if you see her grades falling then you need to step in and have a conversation with her.
Long distance relationships or romances rarely work out. HE is 17 and I'm sure he is not sitting home on a Friday and Saturday night. I'm also sure as a 17 year old boy he is also looking for someone to relieve his sexual tension which is one thing you can't really do on-line between two people.
If your daughter is being a wallflower and staying home Friday and Saturday waiting to get on-line with him. I'm betting on those days he isn't available until later in the evening. This should be a red flag to your daughter that he is not sitting home pinning for her and something you can at the right time point out to her.
Other than that like any of us who have raise teenagers you need to let them make their own mistakes and just be there for them when the world caves in on them.
I've had to do that several times for my son and I am now happy to report he is engaged to a very lovely girl and they will marry in Jun of 2018. He readily admits she is the best thing that has ever happened to him and his mother and I agree.
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