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I THINK SHE HAS A CRUSH ON ME, WHAT DO YOU THINK?
anyway she is a female. ive always thought she was gay, she doesn't come off as straight 2 me..now I don't speak 2 anyone here...but she will make a special effort 2 make convo with me and if Im lookin at something on my comp, she'll come by me closely and just be cheesin and griinnin....and shell say what are you lookin at in this weird playful voice....or she'll peek around the corner while im at my desk and say hi....she is always extra happy 2 be around me....I think she is gay and has a crush on me...ive been hit on women before and ive been threatened by them too cuz I don't deal with chics....this woman's happiness is over extended around me, she loves standing near me, but she'll stay apart from the other chics at my job...and she isn't playful with my other coworkers....while ive been hit on and bluntly approached by women, I am not gay by any means....is there a way I can stop this...should I say something, just leave it alone and accept the fact that women find me attractive and there's nothing I can do about it but accept it....? thanks for any advice
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I can relate to people going out of their way to make convo with me. This however used to be during school days, namely grade school through HS, when I had terrible social anxiety.(which I no longer have) I was too scared to approach others so those who approached me, became friends. I always wondered what drove them to 'persist' coming after me when I did not do much to reciprocate but I am glad they did. If you prefer being a loner and do not want to talk to 'anyone' at all, then you'd have to let her know that you are pretty much a loner and do not like being social with others. If there is any policy about general chit chating with other employees being forbidden due to disrupting work effeciency, then you might want to remind her if she's attempting to talk to you while you are working.
Hmm, as to having thought perhaps she is gay and now not sure, I have just one idea, and not sure how it fits in for you. I am female but as long as I can remember, I have enjoyed talking with men more than females. I never was the eye lid batting, gushing, giggly, showing off my assets type of girl around guys. I was more down to earth, and logical as a guy. Maybe it seems a bit 'male' like to see in a female but I can assure you, I am definitely all female when it comes to gender and sexual orientation. My 2nd husband is a man who other than a best friend who was male, is attracted to talking with females and he has an equal interest in some things that women are like jewelry which to him are eye candy. NO he won't wear such stuff but it attracts his artistic eye and yet he is all man. Perhaps for some people, who don't know the other, such a trait may come off initially as us being gay. I was had a female outright approach me at a club (non gay club) and ask me if I was gay and state she was. So that is how I come to this conclusion. Perhaps this gal you speak of, since she doesn't hang with other chic's is more interested in befriending males. This would mean as coworker friends whom you only see at work, co workers who become close friends and hang out occasionally outside of work or making male friends of neighbors or old school friends or other places one meets and makes friends.
It's more likely she relates better in conversation to men than women. And she finds you interesting. Do you see her talking to other male co workers more often than females? That would confirm this theory. If she talks to no males or females, and only you...then something is up and she is waiting for a positive response from you to date her. If you are not interested and this is whats going on, you could say, 'You know, I have noticed how you pay lots of attention to me compared to never seeing you speak to the females around here and never approaching any of the other men. Why is this?" Ir would be more awkward to ask if she's hitting on you when it turns out she isn't and just has some not so normal social issue like aspergers or something similar. People like that can latch onto one person and be constantly asking questions and not take the hint that they are disturbing you. My husband and I use internet mostly at Starbucks locations and we have had plenty of strangers approach us and not leave us alone, trying to force their supposed friendship on us, calling us friends even though we have not responded back to them. Perhaps she is one of those. That would be my other theory. Clue: People like that don't last long in any jobs. No one from the floor up to execs, like a person like that in work, too disruptive. My ex was recently diagnosed as aspergers. I believe theres' more to it than that as I got along well in HS with a girl who had aspergers. I would not have left him for just that. But thats another story. I do know that even tho I am remarried but have contact with him due to shared children, he has never been able to hold onto a job long term, from the day we married, til current day....same story. He actually overheard some people at a temp job talking bad about him once and told me. I am not surprised. These are theorys and don't in themselves help you. But if you do not want to be bothered with a friend wannna be, then let her know in a nice tone of voice again putting in that you are a loner whether you are or not, that way you are in a way saying the reason is you not her even if it is her...you hurt less feelings this way.
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