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Boringness
Did anyone else have a boring parent but still love them? It sounds like a silly question. I guess what I mean is have a good relationship with them.
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I can only guess since what I consider to be boring may differ from what you feel it is or what the actual situation is.
Just to help you out, heres how I see boring: a person who talks in monotone, someone hard to draw into conversation, a person who doesn't talk much, lnly half listens to you and gets lots of what you said 'wrong' due to inattention,only some basics but never going into detail. Too quiet, too predictable, always follows a routine and never veers from it. No hobbies or interests and not interested in trying anything new. That's just off the top of my head. If this is what you are facing, then likely you will never enjoy spending big amounts of time with them. I assure you that everyone has as least one family member like that. So there will be a tolerance level. You may be able to handle hanging out, doing something or even just talking with such a person for only an hour before you are tired of it, maybe hours, or maybe a day or days. This does not have to affect loving them. You can love a family member but not prefer to be around them often or for any great lengths of time. I have family like that. See, with friends, or a life long mate, you can choose someone who is more your personality type and actually enjoy being around them for great lengths of time, like it is for me with my mate. But family you are born into, you don't have that choice of having them be the right fit to feel as close with as a close friend. So don't worry. I have differing tolerance levels for lots of my family. One sister I can hang out with for half a day but after that, I get antsy and tired of parts of her personality and I want to get away, another sister is coming into town later this month and hasn't seen me in a long time but I have talked with her on phone and just that drives me crazy. I will likely only last an hour or two if that when she wants to see me. I love my daughters too, but after hanging out with either one for an entire day or a whole weekend, I need time away. These are all nice people but to be honest, every person has their own personality traits or idiosyncrasies that after a certain amount of time, will start to bug me. So thats normal and nothing to feel guilty about.
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Actually I was referring to myself. Im boring. Not a kid..
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Define boring. Do you mean parents that commute to work all day at 9-5 jobs . Then come home and make dinner, supervise homework, give baths to younger children, make lunches for the next school day and other things like that. On Saturdays laundry is done, grocery shopping is do as well as other errands as well as other family care as needed. Then on Sunday they hope to maybe sleep in some before breakfast has to made and with luck they can relax that day or maybe go to some family engagement they would rather not but must. Going to the beach,amusement parks or other fun things just don't happen on a regular basis.
If this is what you mean by boring parents then welcome to the club. Between working a job and taking care of the home and family; paying bills and all the other things that go in to keeping a home. Some parents are just warn out and possibly out of funds to go our and enjoy some of the other things you would like to do.
Until I retired I really didn't realize how much it actually cost me to go to work or for my wife to go to a job. The reason for this are these bill sneak up on you slowly and work their way into the budget. Then comes child day care and related doctor bills for the child. Kids need clothes and shoes and they grow like weeds and the clothes and shoes have to be replaced. They become teenagers and their needs increase and then their is college. Then they marry and you pay off all the bills and retire and suddenly you find your cash happy even though your probably bringing in less money. This is the cycle of family life and it can be boring for the middle class while they raise their families.
If you want more family time out of the house and you are old enough which I assume you are then pitch in and pick up some of the chores that tie mom and dad to house on weekends. Do the laundry one day a week or more as needed after school and now that school is out in the morning before you go off with friends. Learn to cook the meals mom makes and have dinner ready when mom and dad come home. While the laundry is in the washing machine go through the house and straighten things up and dust.
Yes it sounds like I am asking a lot of you but right now with no school you have time on your hands to do things. The things that make your parents boring in my estimation because these are the things they must do to keep a clean and healthy home for you and any siblings you may have.
If I'm wrong as to why you see your parents as boring then write and tell me why and maybe I can make some suggestions to make them less boring or help you understand why they are the way they are . You can do so in a private message to me.
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