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I think I have a crush on my step-brother.
I am a fourteen year old girl and I have started to develop feelings for my step brother. My dad has only recently met his girlfriend and even though they are not officially married we call her my step mom. At first me and my step-brother were very awkward around eachother but over the past few months we have grown very close. We tend to play fight and wrestle a lot more then we used to and when we are the only ones up we talk for hours on end. I have grown to really like him and I am not sure what to do, I am not even completely sure these are romantic feelings. I just noticed myself acting differently around him then I do around my other siblings. What should I do?
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Since you mention not being sure if the feelings are romantic ones, i will talk about that. For your age, 14, it is very normal for a female to observe certain males or one male and like the qualities she sees in him. Over our teen and college years, we continue to be around and date people and learn more. It isn't usually the first person or two we have interest in that we end up in a couple relationship with. This period of time before and during dating is a time for people to learn what they like and don't like about a potential mate based on your real life experiences with someone of the opposite sex or same sex if you're gay. So you may want to start keeping a list, write down what you do like about your step brother. Your list will also at times end up with things you want to avoid in your next partner. Then when ready to marry someday, follow your list closely to end up marrying a person where you know you are not settling for less than the person right for you. When you are around any male you interests you now that the hormones of puberty are flowing, it is normal to find yourself also acting different around such a person and since he is not a blood relative, there is no reason that once you are of an age your parents said you can date, that you could not date him. Even if it feels awkward to both your dad and step mom, it is okay and legal. You don't know if Dad will end up staying with her but if they do part ways, you could still keep in touch with and maybe even have chances to date. You didn't mention his age. So I will mention that if he is older, 18 or so, then you will need to wait until you are 18 also before it is legal and he can not get a jail sentence for having sex with a minor. Just saying, in case both your feelings turn that way. Wishing you the best.
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Lets start with the fact that he is your step-brother a non blood related person. It is okay to have feelings for him. If those feeling turn romantic and you end up wanting to marry there is no legal reason why you cannot do so. It would be unique in that you dad would also be you father in-;aw as would be your step-mom be you mother in-law. A bit strange but not illegal.
My answer is to let your feeling s lead the way there is nothing wrong with you and your step-brother having a relationship. The father in me must remind you that your are 14 and that this relationship should be a chaste one until you are both of legal age to have a sexual one.
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